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Heroes and Cowards

th-3… are the SAME PERSON.

They just respond to the same stimuli differently.

Heroes take charge of their lives and cowards let their lives run them over.

Heroes identify their fears and their areas of weakness and work through them each and every day. Cowards ignore their fears. They use their ego to falsely pretend they don’t exist.

Heroes believe in themselves because they are in touch with their vulnerabilities. They understand themselves and they know how to turn those vulnerabilities into real strengths. Cowards are insecure because they deny EVER being vulnerable.

Heroes put themselves in positions where they are challenged to work out their issues and fears. Cowards run from such situations. They feel they are too hard and require too much work and they innately know that they are not ready to do that work, so they hide.

Heroes look for opportunities to grow – NOT just on the outside by “trying to learn new things” but by looking INSIDE themselves and identifying areas of growth. Heroes look in the mirror and if they do not like the reflection staring back at them, they do something about it. Cowards on the other hand, don’t allow themselves to look in the mirror. The pain of not liking what they see is too great, so they pretend it is not there, they cover it up and mask it with overcompensation of ego.

Heroes seek constructive criticism because they want to cover all bases and want to make sure there is nothing they are missing. Cowards fight back when any form of criticism is issued. Surely it could never be theirs.

Heroes are modest and they genuinely make the world a better place both for themselves and for the world at large. Cowards talk a good game and try and make it “seem as if they are making a difference” but in reality, they are just indulging their egos.

Are you a hero or coward? How do you show up in your life? How do you face situations that challenge you? Do your face your fears or do you run and hide? Remember heroes and cowards are the SAME PERSON – they just respond to the same stimuli differently. Who are you?

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A Change of Pace

th-3… changes everything.

How could it not?

Change is the essence of life. Nothing ever stays the same. Life is designed to give us new experiences every so often – if we are open to it. But as humans we tend towards repetitive patterns that are familiar to us and thus make us feel safe. But there is a difference between safety and stagnancy. There is NO safety in staying stuck in your life.

Routine has the tendency to inhibit growth and new experiences. Routine keeps you trapped in your own creation of existence. Routine keeps you small; it prevents you from taking chances in your life that could potentially make all the difference in the world for you.

Time to break the ties that bind you – they are the routines that keep us trapped in cycles and cause a feeling of frustration and stagnancy. Your life will evolve as soon you as you allow yourself to breathe NEW life into it. It is up to you… you have to break the cycle; the cycle will NOT break itself.

So if you are feeling stuck in your life, CHANGE IT UP. Break the monotony. Take a risk. Challenge yourself. Do something different and invite the energy of change into your life. Look at things from a new perspective. Take a trip to a new destination. Experience a new culture. Show the universe that you are indeed ready to have a new experience in your life.

You do NOT have to change everything, you only have to give yourself a simple change of pace – in any one area with any one direction and that will ALWAYS be enough to invite the forces of change to dance with you.

Remember you only have to take one step and the universe will conspire with you to bring you the change you desire and deserve in your life. But that first step has to be yours. Staying still will always keep you stuck in your situation, but a change of pace will absolutely change everything for you. What are you waiting for?

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Lead By Example

th… or get OUT of the way.

True leaders know how to lead. They set a precedent of behavior for others to follow. They are influencers. They inspire others to be better. They create powerful initiatives and encourage change in the world around them. They are transformation makers who seek to shake up the status quo and demand better for themselves and the world around them.

People who lead by example are making a difference in the world, just by being in it. Their presence and their kindness and altruism make the world a better place.

If in your tiny part of the world, you are NOT leading by example then you are setting the WRONG example. But when you live your highest life with integrity, you encourage others to do the same. How are you showing up in your life? Are you the best version of yourself everyday? Do you strive to lead or are you lying back and just following the crowd?

Making the world a better place starts with YOU. Ask yourself if you are making a difference or if you are just going along for the ride? Life is too short NOT to lead. If you are NOT making a difference, GET OUT OF THE WAY and make room for those who will. We can all make a difference, lead by example, you never know who is following.

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be who you are… you stand apart from the crowd.

When you don’t know who you are, you get LOST in that crowd.

Everyone wants to be SOMEBODY, but the only way we become a somebody is to make sure that we do NOT become just ANYBODY. 

It is human nature to seek acceptance and approval from others. But you are here in this life to live YOUR LIFE, not anyone else’s. So in essence, it doesn’t matter what other people think, it only matters what you think.

When you live your life according to the thoughts and opinions of others, you hide your light. But when you can express your own unique viewpoint, you share that light with the world and you become known and appreciated for that beautiful light.

You only become GREAT in life by knowing who you are – knowing your unique traits, knowing your unique strengths, knowing your unique perspective and being able to express that out into the world. Being your own unique self sets you apart from the crowd and gives you a competitive advantage.

Do you want to shine? Do you want to be GREAT? Do you want to make a mark on the world? Step aside of the crowd. Do things YOUR WAY.

When you know who you are and you strive to express that everyday, you become known for who you are/what you represent BUT when you hide behind others’ ideals, you get lost in the crowd of mediocrity.

It is always your choice. Where do you stand in your life? Do you know who you are? People who know who they are are extraordinary beings and their light always shines. Conversely, people who fit in NEVER get seen. Where do you want to stand?

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Numbing Yourself

Numbing Yourself… is a way of distracting yourself AWAY FROM YOUR PAIN.

And we all do it. And we are mostly unconscious of it.

You see, we all have “edges” (boundaries) and when we come up to an edge, we generally and very instinctively run away from it so not to feel the pain that could arise by bumping into that edge.

The “edges” represent a line of emotion that if crossed, the psyche tells us we will feel pain and it is human nature to avoid pain. So when we come up against one of our edges, we usually “run away” by numbing ourselves in a myriad of ways. Maybe you recognize some of them?

over-indulging in addictive behaviors – food, drink, drugs, video games, sex, etc…

– distracting ourselves with our work/career

– “being too busy”/over-scheduled

– distracting/preoccupying oneself so not to have to focus on what another is saying to us or not having the time to see our own patterns playing out

putting on armor so people do not know who really are

– changing the subject when the topic pushes an edge of ours

avoiding deep conversations/connections with others that could potentially hit an edge of ours

– blaming others for our own wrong doings

We may also hit an edge when someone hurts us or when someone loves us more than we love ourselves.

So inevitably, romantic love brings up all our edges. If your life strategy includes hiding from your edges, you will never feel comfortable with someone whom you innately know will push that edge.

The problem isn’t that we have edges, it’s that we spend an inordinate amount of time trying to avoid hitting those edges. But the thing about edges is that they blunt over time – if you approach them often enough. The more experience you have coming up to those edges and experiencing your fears, the less sharp those edges are.

When you come up to an edge, it is your indication that you are feeling an emotion that does not feel safe, but every emotion is there to teach you something about yourself. Dive in.

Avoiding your edges and numbing yourself so you never feel them will NEVER serve you. Your emotionality will never evolve. Do the work on those emotions when they come up and you will find that you know yourself much better and you become emotionally stronger. Know your edges. Know what they bring up. And don’t avoid hitting them. A better day is ahead of you once you wake up from your tranquilized slumber.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th-3… is in their ability to be humble.

Real power is in the mark of someone who doesn’t need to hide behind an over-inflated ego. It is the mark of someone who has achieved everything and yet has nothing to prove. It is the mark of someone who is truly comfortable in their skin and truly comfortable in their ability to be REAL, not living behind a shield of pretense. It is the mark of someone who truly knows who they are and can stand firm in the face of adversity. It is in the mark of someone who doesn’t need, nor seek validation from others.

In other words, truly powerful people know where real power resides and they know that it is NEVER outside of them. They know that power is NOT to be found in fame or fortune. It is NOT to be found in the car they drive or in the number of beach homes they have. It is NOT to be found in the amount of money they make or in their social status. It is NOT to be found in the brands they wear, nor the people they hang around with.

Truly powerful people know that their power comes from within. They have an innate ability to see themselves. They are able to admit their faults. They are able to accept responsibility for their actions especially when they are less than desirable. They are able to constructively hear criticism and subsequently apply the learning. They are able to share their more difficult life experiences with others in hopes to promote their growth without worrying about how they might appear. And even more importantly, they do not need accolades because they know that the best reputations are created without even trying.

Truly powerful people have nothing to prove and yet everything to share with the world. They are modest, and are more interested in helping others for the sake of truly making a difference NOT for what it says about them.

The secret to truly powerful people lies in the ability to practice humility and vulnerability. These beings realize that it is never about physical strength or mental strength – it is always about emotional strength. There is a strength in admitting your limitations that can never be found in the professing of your achievements.

Do you want to be a truly powerful person? Do you want to be recognized in your field? Do you want to influence others and help to inspire them? Do you want to make a difference in the world? Stop trying to DO all that and start BEING REAL within yourself. Your ability to be truly powerful lies within YOU never outside of you.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th… getting out of their way does.

After all, if you can’t fix them, you don’t want to get cut on their broken edges.

We tend to have expectations of people. We believe in “who they can be,” not necessarily who they have chosen to be. But it’s not your job to get people to change. Your wanting to change them (albeit for the own personal benefit) isn’t enough to get people to change. People have to feel that they are ready to make change and then embrace their own process to do so. Until then your words will fall on deaf ears and will only render you frustrated and create resentment on their part – everyone loses.

If you really want to “fix people,” help them to see why they may be broken. Highlight aspects of their behavior and kindly bring it to their attention and then STEP BACK. That might mean take yourself out of the equation for a bit so that they can do the work. If you stay in their life, they may not feel the need to do the work. But your absence may encourage them to reach higher. When you give people space, they generally find their own way towards change. When you sit on top of them, no doubt they will resist your efforts.

Choosing to stay in their life is fine as long as you detach from your need for them to change. You can’t make people be who you want them to be or be who you think they should be. You have to let people be who they are. And in the process of giving them that space, the seeds you plant with them will hopefully blossom over time.

You want to fix people? Teach them to plant better seeds for themselves and then GET OUT OF THEIR GARDEN. Let them nurture their own growth. And maybe one day, they will share their harvest with you.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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