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Seasons of our life… and then that season is gone.

The seasons of our lives come and go – and that is a good thing.

People come into our lives and then leave. Jobs come into our lives and then leave. Opportunities come into our lives and then leave. Nothing is meant to stay in your life forever. Nothing.

As the seasons change, so do our lives. It is a natural process in our soul’s evolution. You cannot hold onto a season of your life when it is ready to leave your hands. Just like the trees cannot hold onto their late autumn leaves when it is time for them to wither and fall off. When one phase of your life is complete, it is time to enter a new phase and so those old leaves are replaced with new growth in the springtime. It doesn’t behoove you to hold onto the dying leaves, those leaves will not take you into the next season of your life. Those leaves represent an ending and holding onto endings will always leave you feeling stuck, stagnant and as if you are being held back in your life.

Give up those old leaves and give them over to the new growth in your life. Don’t let fear keep you back from completing a cycle in your life. The seasons of our lives are natural cycles that are meant to keep us moving forward in our experiences and our life lessons. Any attempt to fight the natural seasons of our lives will only cause pain and frustration.

Trust the seasons of your life to give you the closure you need to move into a new cycle for yourself. You can’t fight the seasons. They will come whether you or ready for them or not. Learn to trust the seasons of your life to bring you to exactly the next experience you need in your own evolution. After all, nothing is meant to stay the same. Everything is meant to change and you are meant to easily adapt to each new season of your life. After all, your future is ahead of you, never behind you.

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People only see… and you can’t change that.

It’s NOT your job to change that.

Perception is reality.  A person’s perception is carefully colored by their personal experiences. Those experiences make them who they are and give them a unique perspective on the world. That perspective is their truth – whether it resonates with your or not – it’s their truth and needs to be acknowledged as such. It is important to realize that you don’t have to agree with them, you have only to accept that for them, this is their truth.

The name of the game is acceptance. In life, you want to learn to change the things you can and ACCEPT the things you can’t. There’s no use in trying to change someone’s viewpoint. It’s theirs. Your viewpoints might be in conflict because perception is reality and reality is always relative to the person perceiving it.

Save your energy the next time you are disagreeing with someone’s perception. After all, it is their reality you are challenging. The sooner that you can accept that other people will view the world and certain circumstances differently, the sooner you can head-off a potential conflict. It’s not your job to get people to see things the way you see them, it is your job to realize that people will see things through their own perceptive lens of reality and that may not match yours. And that has to be ok.

Acceptance is the name of the game. People only see what they want to see – or what they are conditioned to see, but regardless they see it through their own lens of reality. No need to fight against that lens, if it doesn’t work for you, don’t use it. Cast it aside and use your own lens. You don’t have to validate someone’s lens, you just have to accept that they have one.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th-5… require healthy people.

How “healthy” are you?

Are you happy, successful and stable within yourself?

Can you be alone and still be happy?

Do you need something from someone else to feel contented and secure?

Ask yourself these crucial questions and be honest with yourself. Healthy relationships with others only happen when we have a healthy relationship with ourselves first.

It’s no one’s job to make you happy. It’s yours.

It’s no one’s job to provide emotional security for you. It’s yours.

It’s no one’s job to help you feel confident in your skin. It’s yours.

It’s no one’s job to make you feel beautiful. It’s yours.

It’s no one’s job to solve your problems. It’s yours.

It’s no one’s job to help you feel safe in a relationship. It’s yours.

If you are relying on another person to be any of these things for you, you are “needing from them” NOT “loving them.” Need is need. It is NEVER love.

But once you have a good handle on all the above within YOURSELF, you are able to truly share yourself with another human being in a healthy loving relationship. But all too often we get into relationships where we expect that another person will somehow “make it better” for us. That they will somehow be the “magic bullet” we are missing in our lives. And that they will somehow bring a quality to our lives that we do not already have for ourselves. This is NEVER the case. And then we become disillusioned and discouraged that that person has somehow failed us – but in reality, it was never their job to be that something for us. It was our job all along.

Healthy relationships require healthy people to make them work. Do the work on yourself and learn how to be healthy and happy within yourself, by yourself. Then you will have all the tools necessary to maintain a truly healthy relationship.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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Finding Yourself

th-2… is a lifelong journey.

Not a destination.

Who you are takes time to unravel. It doesn’t happen overnight.

There’s nowhere you have to be. You have only to let yourself BE and let yourself walk your own path to finding your life purpose.

You are a sum of your life experiences and those experiences make you who you are and they put you on a path towards defining your purpose in life.

Do you know what you want to do with your life? Do you know what you are here to share with others? Living your life one step at a time and allowing yourself to find those answers organically is what will put you on a path towards personal success NOT forcing yourself into a certain career or job sector. Let yourself breathe and be who you are. Explore ideas and concepts that appeal to you and interest you. The seeds of your life work are always in your interests.

Also, don’t measure yourself against anyone else’s criteria. Live your life. Enjoy your experiences and keep your head up and your eyes ahead – don’t sleep walk your way through your life. Finding yourself is a divine process and one which unravels like the skin of an onion.

Don’t put a time limit on finding yourself. It is a life-long process – a true journey into the heart of your soul. You can’t just be “there,” you have to get to your heart slowly – one step at a time.  Once you find yourself you realize there was never any other place to be.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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Learning the Hard Way

th-2… is the ONLY WAY to learn.

If it were easy, there wouldn’t be anything to learn. It would only be to enjoy.

Pain is our greatest teacher and our greatest fuel for change.

Anything worth having in life is worth the fight. Anything you can walk away from isn’t worth your time.

Struggles make us better. When there is an investment in energy and awareness, you grow. No pain, no gain. The difficult times slow us down, make us more conscious of our behavior and force us to seek out new alternatives that we may have never experienced.

In short, learning the hard way opens you up to deeper experiences that enrich the soul and challenge the mind. Learning the hard way teaches you deeper strategic tools for your growth and development. Learning the hard way gives you character. Learning the hard way makes you resourceful and better able to anticipate changes.

Learning the hard way is the only way to learn. Otherwise you are just being handed the answers. Learn to find those answers yourself and learn to uncover them through your darkest night. Once you learn things the hard way, you learn that you can do anything. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here. 

th-1… you have the time to see yourself.

When you are either in the past or a future space, you do not always have that luxury.

In life, we get caught up with the material world and how we are performing, where we are working, how we are dressing, who we are involved with, where we are living, etc…  Life gives us so many distractions and we unconsciously tend to focus all of our energy on these distractions. We drain ourselves over our daily mundane existence. We overestimate the importance of our to-do lists and we miss the bigger picture of why we are here and what we are meant to be learning/contributing. In other words, we get so busy trying to make a living, that we completely miss our lives. That is why transitions are so helpful. They can provide that much-needed time-out from life so you can regroup and get back on track.

When you are in transition, it is an enforced separation from your previous situation and because the new situation is not yet at hand, you have the time and space to focus on who you are and what you want out of life. Transitions are the perfect retreat and perfect opportunity for you to reflect upon your life.

Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Learn to allow yourself to fully embrace the energy of the transition. You do not need to have all the answers. You can spend the transition looking for them. What’s your rush? You will be delivered back into your mundane reality sooner than you realize. Enjoy the silence of the transition.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here. 

People’s Opinions

People's opinions… are theirs, NOT YOURS.

They have absolutely no bearing over your life, unless you give it to them.

You don’t need anyone’s opinion to be who you are. No one needs to agree with you or needs to agree with how you are showing up and/or how you are living your life.

If who you are doesn’t work for someone, then that person doesn’t work in your life and their opinions subsequently should be of little consequence to you.

You only get ONE life to live (this time around anyway), why would you spend it trying to be something for someone else? People who need you to be something other than who you are don’t like themselves. And if they do not like themselves, chances are their opinions of you will not be very favorable.

It doesn’t matter what people think. It only matters what YOU THINK. Don’t live your life in fear of what other people might think about you. Take back your control and put that energy back into yourself and your work and build your life. When you learn to really love and value yourself, your life takes off in amazing ways and you will find that other people’s opinions of you change in your favor without your even trying.

It’s not about what other people think, it’s about what YOU THINK. If you want others to like you and accept you, learn to like and accept yourself. It’s your life and when you can live it and learn to love it and support it, you will find that others will easily follow suit.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here. 

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