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… but not always for the reasons you think.

If someone is standing right in front of you, they are there for a reason. That relationship has something to teach you or contribute to you. But it may not be what you are expecting or hoping for. 

We tend to label relationships before we understand their purpose in our lives.

Not every relationship is meant to be in your life forever, but it is meant to be in your life for a purpose. 

For example…

Not every love relationship leads to marriage. Some guarantee heartache so you can learn what real love doesn’t look like.

Not every business partnership leads to success. Some ensure failure so you’ll understand how to become successful on your own.

Not every friendship leads to lifetime loyalty. Some encourage betrayal so you’ll learn to trust yourself and rely on your own inner power.

Not every employee respects your power. Some challenge it so you can learn to step fully into that power and own it.

Not every team player supports your team’s initiatives. Some push back on them so you can learn to evolve those initiatives in a stronger way.

Relationships may not always give you what you want; but they’ll always give you what they came to give.

Every relationship is purposeful; your only job is to identify the purpose and let it off the hook for everything else. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… doesn’t make things easier for you.

It makes them HARDER.

Things may not always go the way you intended them to go and that has to be ok. Sure it might be upsetting and sure you might have wished you’d done things differently, and sure you might’ve even tried another approach to fix things but unfortunately was unable. What do you do now?

You can’t change what’s done. Focusing on the disappointment of the past keeps you trapped there. Learning the lesson from that experience frees you to move on.

Learning what you will never do again is by far one of the most powerful lessons one can learn. Transformation is never easy. If it doesn’t hurt, it’ll probably never change you.

Being hard on yourself is never the answer. Transformation is hard work. If you beat yourself up over your learning process, you’ll just impede your growth. Mistakes make you better if you learn from them. Don’t waste your time lamenting those mistakes, use that time to apply the learning and make your future better because of it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… it was coming for you.

Have you ever been blindsided by an event? Was something taken away from you completely out of the blue?

If it was surprisingly ripped away from you and you never saw it coming; YOU WERE MEANT TO LOSE IT. 

As humans, we struggle with making the right decisions for ourselves. What if we let go of something and are left with immense regret? We might forever beat ourselves up if we make the wrong decision, right?

Here’s how your life works — if a decision is made BY YOU, you can forever regret it; but if a decision is made FOR YOU, know that THE UNIVERSE HAS CHOSEN IT.   

Free will can mess up a lot of stuff. Fate knows better.

Never lament something that is ripped away from you. Trust that universal forces are at play on your behalf. Whatever was taken off your path was NEVER going to stand the test of time.

When you never saw it coming, it was certainly coming for you. Look past the pain. Feel comfort in the decision that the universe made on your behalf. If it wasn’t right for you; it wouldn’t have happened to you. It may not feel very good at the time, but the wisdom of that decision will see to it that you be placed onto a much better path.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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…there will be no room for the bigger stuff.

And the bigger stuff is all that matters. 

Small stuff is time consuming and mundane. It has to get done, but should NEVER preoccupy you. 

The bigger stuff is why you are here. What’s your purpose? What are you meant to be contributing? How do you feel about where you are in your life? Do you feel you are on your path to becoming the best version of you? This should be the big picture focus of your life.

When you focus on the big picture, the little stuff falls away. You begin to find the real meaning of life and avoid getting caught up in the minutae. Nothing in life is more important than you living the life you came here to live.

Don’t waste your life chasing your to-do list or suffering through a soul-less job. If you prefer to focus on the mundane details, you’ll get lost in the mouse wheel of life. You may learn to efficiently structure life’s processes, but that won’t move you forward in your personal growth.

The devil is in the details. Don’t lose sight of the big picture in favor of obsessing over the small stuff. The small stuff never matters. The details always get done, but the devil is hiding in them and if you could just step outside those details long enough, you might just learn how to fly.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… doesn’t mean it has to become YOUR TRUTH.

Something may have happened to you and it may be part of your past/present, but that doesn’t mean it has to become part of your future — unless you make it so. 

It may very well be true, but it doesn’t mean that you have to feed it energy and give it control over your life. Nothing has control over your life, unless you give it. 

Again, it may be true, but if it doesn’t serve you — uplift you — mold you into a higher version of yourself — then take your attention off of it and put it into something that does. 

You get what you think about whether you want it or not. You don’t have to spend your energy re-living your troubled past or present — shut it down — and put that energy into rewriting your story.

Just because something may seem to be true, doesn’t mean it has to become your truth. You decide what’s true for you and what’s true for you will always become your reality and what isn’t… will simply fade away.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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Aging Gracefully

… is not a function of life.

It’s a function of LIVING.

It’s not about the number of physical years you’ve lived, but the quality of those years that determines how you age.

You are only as old as you feel and how you feel is a function of how you are currently living.

Our modern lifestyle has increased our chronological age (the age in years) — people live longer these days — but modern living has also increased our biological age (the age of our physical bodies) and those are NOT always the same age. 

Modern life includes many factors that speed up your biological age clock. Factors of aging increase cellular turnover and just a few of those modern factors include:

stress

sleep deprivation

chemicals found in processed foods + factory farming

coffee

nicotine

extensive alcohol + drug consumption

negative emotions (depression/anxiety/anger/hatred/bitterness/fear)

states of chronic pain

pharmaceuticals

sun exposure

radiation

Keeping yourself young is not only a physical process, but an emotional and mental one as well. We all know how to alleviate the above triggers of aging, but to stay young, follow these simple rules…

Learn how to be happy.

Learn how to cultivate a positive/optimistic mindset.

Learn how to transform negative emotions into positive ones.

Learn to sit in stillness + contemplation (meditation).

Learn to move negative (toxic) energy out of your body through yoga, acupuncture + reiki.

Learn to dispel negative energy (heavy metals/stress) in your environment through smudging (sage/palo santo/incense/himalayan salt lamps/crystals)

Learn to let the earth ground you — spend time in nature and harness the healing power of its bounty in the form of salt water, herbs, flower essences + aromatherapy oils.

Modern living, negative energy and negative emotions will age you faster then you ever thought possible. If you let the world around you dictate your state of mind and emotions, you’ll fall right into premature aging, but if you learn to cultivate a clean body, inner strength, emotional balance and a peaceful mind — you’ll remain youthful beyond your years. How old do you want to be?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… to WHAT’S RIGHT for you.

And it pulls you away from WHAT’S NOT.

The way to know whether something is working for you or not is to take a break from it. 

Sometimes we are too close to what’s right in front of us to be able to see it objectively. Space gives you the opportunity to see more clearly.

When you take a time out, it gives you time to check back in with yourself and re-evaluate the situation to see whether or not it is supportive of your needs. If you’re too close to something, you’ll never see it clearly.

Distance is the greater arbiter of justice. If a relationship is healthy, space makes the heart grow fonder. If it’s unhealthy, it’ll destroy it. 

There is a process to your life. Learn to trust it. Don’t waste your time forcing a decision. Take some space from it. If it’s right for you, the distance will bring you closer. If it’s not, the distance will rip it away from you — and that is always a process you can trust.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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