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People In Pain

th-2… act like jerks.

They just do.

They don’t mean to act like jerks. They are in pain and they have no choice but to lighten their load of that pain by dumping it onto others. In other words, people in pain only know how to heal themselves by hurting others. Deep seated emotional pain builds over time. And pain is such a heavy burden to carry so when people in pain lash out and spew anger at you, it lightens their load and they feel temporarily better. It’s fairly simple but toxic to the person who bears the brunt of that venom.

People in pain not only lash out at you to release some of that pain but they inadvertently allow that pain to shut them down to you as well. In other words, that pain is so heavy that it blots out any other emotion or ability to connect with others. That pain blocks their ability to be empathetic to your needs, it blocks their ability to hear you when you need help, it blocks their ability to be open in a relationship, it blocks their ability to hear constructive criticism, it blocks their ability to be there for others. It only succeeds in creating an angry, aggressive and selfish being who has allowed their pain to isolate them from the rest of the world.

What to do? When people in pain lash out at you, don’t take it on as yours. Recognize that they are not being jerks for no reason, they are in pain and the only way they know how to cope is to throw it at you. Be the bigger person. Recognize they are in pain and cast their drama aside. It’s not yours to carry. Learn to silently say to yourself, “I recognize you are in pain. I don’t need to add to it, so I will just step over here and you can throw your tantrum on someone else. Have a nice day.”

Fighting back with someone in pain never yields the balance you both deserve. Remember when people are in pain, they act like jerks. Send love to that person and it will help to alleviate some of their pain. No one wants to be a jerk. They just do not have the tools they need to heal.

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th-1… you can see the stars.

They are always there.

They are those bright spots in your life that will guide you onwards on your path… if you can see them.

The stars are always there, but do we ever see them? We are used to focusing on the darkness in our lives but we do not realize that with all darkness is the potential to see the brightest stars. The stars are only visible through that darkness. We live in a world of opposites – you have to be in the darkness to be able to see the light of the stars. But we always stop and get stuck in the darkness.

When the darkness of your life descends upon you, time to open your eyes and see the stars that are all around you. Those stars are the people and situations that have the innate ability to help you shine. They are always there if you can just learn to adjust your eyes.

You will always see what you want to see. Do you want to see the darkness or do you want to see the opportunities for light? Learn what your stars are and learn how to find them in the darkness. They are always there to guide you and lead you through your darkest night. Your ability to re-adjust your eyes to see that light will help you to transform the fear of the darkness into the optimism of that shining star.

Life is too short to hide from the darkness. Open your eyes and allow those stars to guide you on your path. You are never alone. When you are in the darkness, trust that those stars will guide you on your way. Their light will never dim.

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th-1… makes up the story of your life.

What stories are you telling yourself?

We all tell ourselves stories. They are usually the stories of our limitations… “I am not good enough to get that promotion,” “It’s too risky to start my own business, I have a family to feed,” “I am unhappy in my relationship but at my age what if I never meet anyone else?”

These stories we tell ourselves keep us small and stuck in repetitive cycles. They keep us from taking chances in life. They keep us from becoming great.

The stories you tell yourself create your reality. They are based in fear so they manifest very quickly and only succeed in creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Are you buying into your fears or are you going to buy into your dreams/aspirations?

If your stories aren’t working for you, change them. Dream up a new story for yourself. One that empowers you and one that will create a better outcome for you moving forward. Your life is your story and if you are bored with the chapter or if it is no longer inspiring you, don’t just shut down and accept that that is your “lot in life.” Make a change. Create a new story and work towards its realization.

Life is to short to tell yourself disempowering stories. Do you want those stories to become the story of your life? Probably not. Time to get creative and learn to start living the real story of your life – the one that depicts your highest goals and dreams. What other story do you want to tell?

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Do YOUR Work

th… and let others do theirs.

You can’t do it for them. And they won’t appreciate your efforts if you try.

All relationships require work on both parts to make it a true partnership. But NOT everyone is conscious enough to own what their part of that work is.

You can only do YOUR work. You cannot do the work for other people. If you try to, you will be enabling bad behavior in the relationship and it will make you an accomplice to their ignorance. It also forces you to make up the imbalance yourself which only creates resentment on your part.

Where there is NO AWARENESS, there is NO GROWTH. If you try to do the work for them, you rob them of their own opportunity for growth. You cannot remedy that situation by continuing to try and do the work for them. Nothing will change and after awhile, you will grow extremely frustrated because you are not getting your needs met and they will become frustrated because they will not understand what their work is – because you have been doing it for them all along. You cannot get upset with a situation that you condoned from the start.

Doing people’s work for them gets you nowhere. Do your work and let others do theirs. Nobody wins by your trying to do the work for both of you.  If you do not do the work, and just step back… you will give your partner space to recognize that there is a need for that work to be done and then you can start the dialogue towards healing. What options do you have?

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Doubting Yourself

th-2… will make you crazy.

You already know what is right for you. It is built into your soul. Your intuition tells you right off the bat everything you need to know about a new person or a new situation. But do we every listen to it?

We are so conditioned to use our minds to process situations but that takes us out of our own intuitive guidance. Do you want to know if someone or something is right for you? Your answer is always in the first 30 seconds of contemplating the situation. Are you excited about it? Does it raise passion in you? Do you feel comfortable with this person? The soul gives you an intuitive answer right away. But it is the mind that steps in and re-evaluates things and causes complications, indecision and frustrations.

Don’t doubt yourself. Listen to yourself and stop the mind from overthinking, it takes you further away from what is right for you. If your intuition is pointing you in a direction, don’t doubt it – especially if it doesn’t make sense. Our intuitive guidance rarely makes sense, but it is there to help guide us in the right direction.

If you allow your mind to rationalize your life, it will run you all over the map. The only truth is spoken in your intuition. Listen to it; it will never lead you astray. Doubting your intuitive guidance will only make you crazy; listen to it and you will NEVER make a mistake.

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th… it is never in control of you.

The story of your life is always in the pen you are holding. But how many of us realize that?

No one has control over your life unless you give it to them. You are co-creating every experience you have. If you are not enjoying the experience, it is up to you to make another choice.

Although there is a destiny in place, you have free will and can write/rewrite any chapter you like. But many of us suffer through situations because we have given our power over to other people or situations to feel powerless and trapped. Know that feeling that way is a choice. If you have had an experience and decide that it does not work for you/does not make you happy, then make another choice and change the situation. Life will NOT change it for you. If you sit back and allow yourself to wallow in the pain and confusion, the universe reads that as your choice to do so.

Learn to own your power and learn to understand that when a situation or thought form is no longer working for you, it is up to you to create a new ending for yourself. You are the author of your life and you hold the pen, why would you give it to someone else to write your story? They do not know what you need to be happy so take back that pen and continue to write.

The choices you make in this moment ALWAYS determine your next experience. You are in control of your life, no one else is. Honor that and live it to the fullest, then you will see that what you thought was such a problem in your life was just a thought form waiting to be rewritten. Life is just that simple.

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