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… you have to LET GO of something.

But many us hold onto the burdens of the past and drag them with us. If there is something that is weighing heavy on you and not uplifting you, it may be time to let it go.

The emotional and physical baggage that we drag along with us never gets lighter, it accumulates until eventually it buries us. What in your life are you not dealing with? What are you dragging around with you? If you allow yourself to keep struggling with someone or something in your life, it only brings you down.

If you want to lighten your load, you have to be willing to let go of what is not working in your life in order to make room for what will. You cannot have both.

No one is burdening you — you are choosing to drag what isn’t working in your life around with you. As soon as you decide that you are ready to let go of what is not working, you will create the space to find what will.

Your baggage is your own. Pack lightly. Remember, you carry it all with you.

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… it’s the VIBRATION behind it that makes all the difference.

It’s not what you do, it’s WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE DOING that determines the outcome. 

Everything is energy. Your thoughts are always creating your reality. If you do one thing, but THINK SOMETHING ELSE about it, you are undermining the very action you are taking.

Your thoughts must be aligned with the action you are taking or they will NEVER manifest. 

For example, if you are pitching new business and you give a presentation, but secretly feel unprepared or as if you don’t have the experience necessary or if you are worried you will never land the account, that vibration is what manifests because it is the dominant vibration you are offering. It is the energy you are putting out into the universe.

Action can only take you so far. Your vibration is what closes the deal. 

Don’t waste your time and energy on physical action alone. It is limiting. You can walk the walk, but if your “self talk” is negative, it will take you down. 

Energy is everything. It isn’t about the action that you take in life, it’s the vibration behind it that determines the outcome. What’s in your vibration?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… it was coming for you.

Have you ever been blindsided by an event? Was something taken away from you completely out of the blue?

If it was surprisingly ripped away from you and you never saw it coming; YOU WERE MEANT TO LOSE IT. 

As humans, we struggle with making the right decisions for ourselves. What if we let go of something and are left with immense regret? We might forever beat ourselves up if we make the wrong decision, right?

Here’s how your life works — if a decision is made BY YOU, you can forever regret it; but if a decision is made FOR YOU, know that THE UNIVERSE HAS CHOSEN IT.   

Free will can mess up a lot of stuff. Fate knows better.

Never lament something that is ripped away from you. Trust that universal forces are at play on your behalf. Whatever was taken off your path was NEVER going to stand the test of time.

When you never saw it coming, it was certainly coming for you. Look past the pain. Feel comfort in the decision that the universe made on your behalf. If it wasn’t right for you; it wouldn’t have happened to you. It may not feel very good at the time, but the wisdom of that decision will see to it that you be placed onto a much better path.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… is a step closer towards success.

But we were never taught that.

We view failure as a setback, but in reality “failure” is NOT a setback, but a necessary “step-BACK” along our path towards success. Sometimes it’s necessary to step back in life to regroup and re-calibrate so that we can move forward in a stronger, more definitive way.

It’s important to understand that success is very rarely a steady trajectory upwards. By it’s definition, it’s frought with many step-backs — it has to be. After all, if you didn’t know failure, how could you ever really come to know success?

Our lives are about taking 1-step forward, 2-steps back and it’s the steps-back that enable us to “re-trace” our steps in order to do things better next time. The steps back allow you to process the wisdom you’ve already garnered and make some new decisions with it.

Failure is never falling short of your goal — it’s part of the process it takes to get there. When you learn what doesn’t work, you begin to understand more about what will work. Rejoice in your failures, they innately set you up onto a more solid foundation moving forward. The only way to get to the next highest mountain top is to come down the side of the mountain you’re on. Don’t fight the downhill slide, use that experience to go higher up the next mountain.

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… walk away with love.

ALWAYS with love.

Our lives consist of many different types of relationships, but not every one of those relationships is meant to be in your life forever. And even those that are, seldom make it there, unfortunately.

Not everyone will understand you and support who you are. Not everyone will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Not everyone will make time for you. Not everyone will be able to communicate with you. Not everyone will recognize the beauty in your relationship until it’s too late. And certainly not everyone will recognize what they have lost until they have truly lost it. That’s generally how it works.

And some people NEVER learn but remain comfortable in their patterns — forever blaming their patterns for why they cannot move forward. And forever repeating those patterns in hopes that one day they find the “magic person” who can fix it for them. But that never works.

Relationships aren’t important for where they bring you to, they are only important for how they have changed you.

If people you are involved with cannot see the value of what you bring to the table, then they do not get to have you.

But love them anyway.

Love them because they taught you so much about yourself. Love them because they helped shape your heart and open your mind. Love them because they unveiled your hidden pain and your fears so you could work on them. Love them because they taught you what you do and DO NOT want to experience in a relationship. Love them because it is that love that will transform you. And finally love them, because if you don’t, you will just carry the scars of that hurt forward into your next relationship. And you deserve better than that.

When people can’t appreciate what they have in you, don’t fight them, quietly disappear from their lives, and take that love with you. When you leave with love, you leave with all the learning that made you BETTER. You are the one who wins. Let that love transform you on your path forward and happily open you up to a new tomorrow.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… makes things harder then they need to be.

No one is saying don’t work hard, but there is a tipping point where trying too hard and pushing against resistance creates more problems.

How do you know when “working hard” becomes “trying too hard”?

When it ceases to be enjoyable.

When you feel like your efforts are going nowhere.

When you find you are hitting your head on the same wall over and over again and it is still not yielding.

When the frustration and stagnation of the current stasis has sufficiently depleted you.

If something is not coming together, there is usually a reason why – and that reason is always valid. Resistance on your path is very purposeful. It keeps you from progressing further in a given direction. Recognize that the resistance is there to help you, not hurt you. Pushing against the resistance makes things harder then they need to be. By pushing your agenda forward, you are complicating your life.

Don’t make your life harder then it needs to be. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. And in time you’ll realize that you never really wanted it.

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… renders you BLIND to yourself.

Why use others’ eye sight to see YOURSELF? Why would you want to look at WHO YOU ARE through the lens of someone else? It seems odd, yet we do it all the time.

Sometimes we care too much what people think about us. We allow our identity to be shaped by the opinions of othersbosses, lovers, clients. We turn our own validation over to the whim of those whom we may or may not even respect.

Who you are is NEVER contingent on what anyone else thinks about you. It never matters what they think, it only matters what you think.

If you are prone to identifying yourself through others’ labels, it will just be a matter of time before you fall into a self-imposed identity crisis. Why give your power over to anyone else to feel less than who you are? If people’s opinions of you don’t match yours, don’t take them on. In life, what you buy into is yours, ask yourself if you actually want those opinions. Because once you’ve tried them on and made the purchase, they become yours and then they color your experience of yourself.

Seeing yourself through the eyes of others is a losing strategy; it leaves you blind to yourself. It gives your identity over to others to define who you are. Take back your identity. Shut down other people’s opinions of you unless they support the YOU you know you are. If they are working against you, politely give them back. The YOU you are NEVER needs a lens to be seen. Take off the lens and you’ll never be blinded again.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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