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… you don’t understand it.

A reaction is an emotional response to some stimuli or trigger. If you become triggered, that trigger is yours. But when we lack consciousness, we immediately blame another for triggering us; we think it’s their fault.

We all come to this planet with certain life lessons (a.k.a. certain buttons to be pressed which help to bring up our issues). It’s your dance partner’s (lover, sibling, friend, boss, etc..) job to push those buttons so that your shadows can surface and you can identify your work and begin processing it.

Getting triggered is a gift if you are awake and conscious. It can be a living hell if you’re projecting it out onto another. If you feel the need to react with heated emotions, you have not allowed yourself to process the trigger properly. You’ve avoided doing the personal process work and conveniently chosen to project your failures onto another.

Are you easily triggered/angered these days? It’s no one else’s fault. There’s nothing to take offense to. The work lies within yourself. Whenever you feel justified in angrily blaming another, recognize that it is YOU who needs to look in the mirror.

If you’re reacting to it, you don’t understand it. Go deeply within yourself and ask yourself why you are so upset? What are you really reacting to?

Where there is consciousness, there can be healing. When you truly understand a comment and where it’s coming from, there’s no need to react to it. There is only space for calm discourse.

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… standing ONLY for the freedoms that are mandated to you is not.

There is a difference between being virtuous naturally and aligning with a cause you think is virtuous. They are not the same thing. 

You either stand for human rights, or you stand against them. There is no in between. You don’t get to cherry pick the human rights offenses that you stand against.

Truly virtuous people are consistently virtuous in word, thought and action and they respect the freedoms of all humanity; whereas fake virtue is signaling to others that you align with a cause you deem virtuous. One is divine virtue of the soul while the other is righteous “virtue signaling” of the ego. They are very different.

Which one describes you? If you are truly virtuous, you recognize that all of humanity has had their human rights trampled the last 2 years and you stand on behalf of ALL HUMAN FREEDOMS. Those who lack true virtue will stand only behind a cause that the media has hyped and therefore programmed them to stand up for. In taking a stand, the ego feels better about itself because it has aligned with something that appears virtuous — “it says something about me.” But when you come from a place of real virtue, you know that everything you say and do says something about you.

You can’t outsmart the universe. If you cannot see the difference in real virtue; God can. People need to be spending more time asking themselves if they are truly living a virtuous life and less time responding to the control system of the media.

Your divine human blueprint is love and if you are living it, you are compassionate to every human being, in every country, who has been suffering the last 2 years, not just the ones the media wants you to be concerned with. Welcome to the great awakening. Virtue is your test. Can you discern what is real and what is fake virtue? Your moral obligation as a human depends on it.

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… are opposite sides of the spectrum of human experience.

Love is the natural innate response of humanity and hate is conditioned by a society. When a human loves themselves and respects themselves and respects the world around them, hate cannot exist within their cypher. But when a soul does not know how to love or respect themselves or love/respect the world around them, they are easily programmable by a societal machine driven by hate.

How do you know the difference? Love has nothing to prove whereas hate has everything to prove.

Hate wants to prove that it is better than you.

Hate wants to prove that you are less than. 

Hate wants to prove that you are wrong.

Hate wants to prove that you are evil, selfish, narcissistic, malevolent — all mirrors of it’s own dark shadow. 

Hate is filled with anger and it is easily triggered by love. 

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Hate parades itself as love. It isn’t genuine to the human soul so it pretends to be something it is not. 

Love has no agenda. It has nothing to prove. It isn’t filled with venom and fake virtue. It just is. It allows for everyone to stand together despite their differences and it allows everyone to just be and to be in their own consciousness while they are growing, learning and unraveling their own karma without judgment of themselves or others. Love and hate are opposite sides of the spectrum of human experience. Where do you dwell these days? #belove 

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… is just a measure of our own incompleteness.

Attacking others for not being what we think they should be to be “better, different or inclusive” is a misguided effort to heal the collective. The collective of humanity only heals when each individual soul experiences its own healing. When we feel the need to make others wrong, we only succeed in fractalizing our own incompleteness.

The way you view another soul is indicative of how you view yourself. If you are filled with love and self-respect, it is impossible to see venom and hate in others. Judgment is a study in the personification of the self. It’s only when we fully accept ourselves that we begin to heal our wounds. And once the healing has begun, we find little reason to make others wrong. Instead, we find every reason to make ourselves even better.

Everyone is here to work through their own personal judgments, but in numerology, those born under the #6 have the greatest life lesson in judgment of self + judgment of others. It is one of the more complex and difficult life lessons to identify because these souls are dedicated to a path of personal growth. They are on a path towards perfection but they can get lost and misguided in their expectations of themselves and others. They can get caught in their own ideals of perfection versus their own personal perfection. We see this these days with “virtue signaling.” Virtue signaling is not virtuous, it is righteous. It is a covert judgment

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… but not mandatory, for growth.

The only constant we have in life is change. We are only here to grow through experiences and to learn who we really are which is aspects of the creator (God).

The nature of reality is change. As long as we are alive on this planet, our lives need to continually expand and evolve and transformation is a critical part of that growth.

Everyone wants to be transformed, but not everyone wants to do the work to transform an aspect of their life. Most prefer to stay stuck and stagnant in a situation that has outlived it’s purpose.

There are 2 ways in which as humans, we can transform. We can transform in a “good” way or a “bad” way. Good and bad are just human labels to describe a process of transformation; they are not realities.

The fact is that we are always in control of how we grow. In the “good” way, we can get out ahead of the curve and recognize that we are feeling stuck/stagnant in our lives and push ourselves outside our comfort zone to make some sort of change.

But many of us tend to evolve and transform in a “bad” way which is awaiting the universe to come from behind us and push us outside our comfort zone via a crisis which undoubtedly pushes us towards transformation. 

Either way, you will transform — either on your timeline or the universe’s. Crisis are critical, but not mandatory. How do you choose to evolve?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… it’s not a punishment.

But somehow we tend to get lost in the rejection part and forget why a specific situation is happening.

Life is very simple. Anything that is right for you, will find its way to you when it’s time. There’s no need for struggle. Trust in your divine trust. If it’s not happening, it’s not right for you, at least not right now. Step away from it.

You can always trust the universe to filter out the people and opportunities that are not aligned with your higher purpose. Heed the walls that are put in front of you. They are in place to re-route you and prevent you from running off a cliff.

Resistance is purposeful, it’s not a punishment — it’s always leading you somewhere better.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… and you’ll keep winning.

Focus on your losses, and you’ll keep losing. 

Everything is energy and where you put your focus, you get more of — whether you want it or not.

These are trying times of transition and when you can focus on the positive of your life amidst any perceived negative, you invite the energy of transformation in. Transformation can only exist within the waveform of positive intention. In other words, you can block the next step of your life just as easily as you can walk into it. 

You always have a choice as to how you view your life. Are you going to allow yourself to feel the victim of your circumstances or are you going to encourage yourself to continue building upon your successes (however small you think they are) and transforming yourself anew — stronger, greater and wiser?

If the story you are telling yourself isn’t working, try telling another one — a greater one. Where do you want your life to go? What is it you want to create? The secret is in understanding that focusing on where you are, keeps you there, but focusing on where you want to be, brings you there. When you’re ready to be a winner in the story of your life, your life will truly become the winning life you’ve dreamed of.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… it’s always taking you somewhere else.

Life is an uphill climb and it’s made up of many steps. There is no single step that is ever going to be forever. So why allow yourself to get tripped up over the step you’re on?

You’re never meant to get stuck on a step and you’re never meant to skip steps. Life moves in phases and when you’re finished with one step, it’s time to take the next one. But many of us get disheartened because we are unhappy with the step we’re on. It’s ok to dislike the step you’re on, you’re not meant to be on it forever — just keep climbing — you’re always on your way somewhere else and that step is a necessary evil in getting you there.

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… does NOT lead to success.

Action born out of inspiration, does.

As humans we try and muscle our way through life. We force actions and we force our agenda onto our own timelines and we wonder why the actions we take do not yield the desired outcomes we seek.

If you do not feel inspired to take an action, don’t take it. Wait on it. Not feeling inspired to take an action is a clear indication that you are not aligned with the action you need to take. Take a time out —  take a reset — go take a nap  — go for a walk in nature — go seek some inspiration. Once you find a bit of inspiration, you will align with your higher guidance and then you will naturally be called to take the exact actions that will yield the desired outcomes you seek. 

It’s an inspiration game. Action alone will not yield success. Action that is born out fear, anxiety, desperation or struggle will be met with much resistance. This is because action can only take you so far in life. It’s a lower dimensional means of manifestation.

When an action comes from a place of passion, excitement, enthusiasm and inspiration, it will energetically charge the action that you are taking and thus yield the positive outcome you seek. 

Vibration trumps action. If the energy behind the action is not igniting the action, it will fall flat. Action born out of struggle never leads to success. If struggle is behind your action, it’s destined to follow in that direction. Never force anything. If you don’t feel inspired, don’t do it. Wait until the moment of inspiration comes. Save your energy — once you’re sufficiently inspired, you can channel that energy into your action and watch the magic unfold.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… but if you’re patient, it’ll work out even better.

Patience is the name of the game. Life is a delicate balance of effort and surrender and when we push against what isn’t working, we only create more resistance for ourselves. 

The ability to observe what is and not get caught up into wanting it to be different is the gift of wisdom. We may not be able to change what is happening to us in this moment, but we can absolutely change our reactions to what is happening and that reaction is what will create our next experience.

Life is a series of moments. What happens when things don’t work out the way you want them to? Do you spend your time and energy rallying around the injustice of it all or do you put your energy into moving forward so you can create a better experience in your next moment?

Life doesn’t always work out the way you want it to but if you accept that “it is the way it is,” you give yourself the ability to create change in the next moment. You are never going to change what happened, but if you surrender to it, accept it and recognize that you prefer to have a better experience next time, you will be on your way to creating it for yourself.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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