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… only brings you more of it.

When our thoughts are focused on a person or a situation that is upsetting to us, we continue to attract more of the same.

You get what you think about whether you want it or not, so if there is something in your life that is not working/not making you happy, do not feed it any attention. Take your focus off of it and put it into something that feels slightly better. And if nothing feels better, make it up — even better.

Your thoughts fuel your experiences. So if your thoughts are not what you want to be experiencing, stop them in their tracks before they gain momentum and start manifesting in your life. You are in control of your life. Your thoughts are NOT in control of you. You are the thinker, learn to change the thoughts that create your future.

The road to your future is paved by the thoughts you are thinking in this moment. You can’t get to a better life by focusing on what is wrong with this one. You can only get a better life by visualizing a better scenario for yourself.

Focusing on what you don’t want, only brings you more of it. If you want something different, think a different thought and watch how it magically manifests in your life.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… walk away with love.

ALWAYS with love.

Our lives consist of many different types of relationships, but not every one of those relationships is meant to be in your life forever. And even those that are, seldom make it there, unfortunately.

Not everyone will understand you and support who you are. Not everyone will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Not everyone will make time for you. Not everyone will be able to communicate with you. Not everyone will recognize the beauty in your relationship until it’s too late. And certainly not everyone will recognize what they have lost until they have truly lost it. That’s generally how it works.

And some people NEVER learn but remain comfortable in their patterns — forever blaming their patterns for why they cannot move forward. And forever repeating those patterns in hopes that one day they find the “magic person” who can fix it for them. But that never works.

Relationships aren’t important for where they bring you to, they are only important for how they have changed you.

If people you are involved with cannot see the value of what you bring to the table, then they do not get to have you.

But love them anyway.

Love them because they taught you so much about yourself. Love them because they helped shape your heart and open your mind. Love them because they unveiled your hidden pain and your fears so you could work on them. Love them because they taught you what you do and DO NOT want to experience in a relationship. Love them because it is that love that will transform you. And finally love them, because if you don’t, you will just carry the scars of that hurt forward into your next relationship. And you deserve better than that.

When people can’t appreciate what they have in you, don’t fight them, quietly disappear from their lives, and take that love with you. When you leave with love, you leave with all the learning that made you BETTER. You are the one who wins. Let that love transform you on your path forward and happily open you up to a new tomorrow.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

 

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… before it gets better.

No one ever said making change is easy. Growth takes hard work.

To become a beautiful butterfly, you have to live through the dark phase of the cocoon.

Giving up and staying in the cocoon isn’t an option. The struggle to get free of the cocoon is the struggle of transformation. How badly do you want to transform your life? Accepting the status quo will never get you out of that cocoon. To get to the light, often times you have to fight your way through the darkness.

Transformation is a lifelong process; it doesn’t happen overnight. Transformation is a series of steps that tend to make things appear worse before they can become better. It’s like any detox process, in order to cleanse the body and heal, the infection or toxins need to first rise to the surface before they can leave the body. So the darkness is temporarily exaggerated before the light of transformation can prevail.

To become something great, you have to do something great. Being great means using your inner strength to fight your way through your own cocoon of darkness. Remember giving up is never an option. Just when the catepillar was ready to give up his struggle, he transformed into a beautiful butterfly and flew away.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… even when you think it isn’t.

You may not understand WHY things happen the way they do in your life, but that doesn’t mean that they’re NOT purposeful.

Not everything that happens to you will make sense right away. In fact, in most cases, things that you deem “bad,” will turn out to be the very best things that ever happened to you. Why, you might ask? Because we never have full clarity in the moment. We never realize why things are happening the way they are because transition stirs up the dust so we cannot see clearly. But once the dust settles, we can see why we are, where we are, and it always make sense.

All you can do in life is chart a course and then stay that course. But that does not mean that you’ll NOT be detoured off that course. In other words, you can pick a path for yourself, but if it’s a path that you’re not meant to be on, you’ll be tossed off it and thrown onto a different path. And as traumatic as that transition is, it always lands you onto a much better path. Trust that.

Trust the process of your life. Things are always working out for you, even when you do not realize that they are. The universe works behind the scenes to bring you to exactly the right circumstances for you. You may not always get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need, whether or not you know you need it at the time. Everything is always working out for you, you’re never at a loss. Once you understand that, your life will change in the most amazing ways.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… and it will soon become comfortable.

Resisting “what is” makes things difficult. Making peace with the discomfort opens up opportunities.

We are comfort-seeking creatures. We would like everything to be easy and pleasurable, but life doesn’t always work that way.

When discomfort arises, we always have 2 choices: we can either RESIST IT and PUSH AGAINST IT or we can learn to LET IT PASS THROUGH US and DETACH FROM IT. We want to learn to transform the discomfort, not feed it.

Think about it — hitting your head on the wall over and over again only gives you a headache; it doesn’t move the wall. Learn to step back from the wall, take a breath and open your eyes, you might just realize that there is a way to WALK AROUND THE WALL. Not everything has to be difficult. Resistance increases your frustration, but acceptance allows you to find new alternatives.

Learn to be comfortable within the discomfort and you’ll transform it. Continue to focus on the frustration of the discomfort and you’ll create more of it. Life is not always going to bring you roses, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find joy in the rest of your garden. How comfortable are you in your life?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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if-something-feels-right… it FEELS right.

You just know it. It doesn’t have to make sense.

In life, it’s all about what you FEEL, not what you KNOW — believe it or not.

In our daily lives, we tend to make decisions from our head, not our heart; therein is our problem.

Decision making can be complicated — our first thought is always from the heart/the intuition/the soul — it gets you excited and enthusiastic about a course of action — “I can do this, I can leave my job and start something new for myself.”

The second thought is born of the head/fear/the ego — it quickly comes in to override your creative impulse and give you every reason why it CAN’T be done — “I can’t do this, I don’t have enough money saved, I don’t have the education or the experience, etc…”

The head is limiting. The heart is expansive.

The head will keep you small by “keeping you safe” while the heart will push you to take chances and will expand you beyond your comfort zone where greatness awaits.

A safe life will NEVER make you great. When making a decision ask yourself WHAT FEELS RIGHT — NOT WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT. The right answer is always in HOW YOU FEEL, NOT WHAT YOU KNOW.

Allow yourself to feel your way though your life and if something resonates with you, move in that direction. The resources and the know-how will always follow. You are never without your own guidance system. You will always know if something is right for you because of the way it makes you feel. How are you feeling today?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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peoples-reactions… is about THEM, not you.

Everyone comes to the table with their own story. They live and breathe their story everyday and when your worlds collide, they will always react to you from that place deep within their story. It is very difficult for them to get outside their story and show up differently.

But here’s the deal… Their story is NOT your story. So even though they might be reacting to you (or something you’ve done), you are NOT responsible for their reactions. They are. 

But it’s hard to remember that when someone’s losing it with you! Just remember that people can only respond from their own experience (their own story) and it’s very possible that THAT might not match your experience. And that has to be OK.

People live and die by their stories. But their stories don’t have to become yours. What you buy into is yours. If their story doesn’t match yours, don’t buy into it. Smile and walk away. You don’t need to be a pawn in their story. Their reactions to you are never about you — but you can always make them about you. But why would you do that? Don’t you have enough work managing your own story? Keep your stories separate and you’ll never again be confused by other’s reactions to you.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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