Crises Are Critical

… but not mandatory, for growth.

The only constant we have in life is change. We are only here to grow through experiences and to learn who we really are which is aspects of the creator (God).

The nature of reality is change. As long as we are alive on this planet, our lives need to continually expand and evolve and transformation is a critical part of that growth.

Everyone wants to be transformed, but not everyone wants to do the work to transform an aspect of their life. Most prefer to stay stuck and stagnant in a situation that has outlived it’s purpose.

There are 2 ways in which as humans, we can transform. We can transform in a “good” way or a “bad” way. Good and bad are just human labels to describe a process of transformation; they are not realities.

The fact is that we are always in control of how we grow. In the “good” way, we can get out ahead of the curve and recognize that we are feeling stuck/stagnant in our lives and push ourselves outside our comfort zone to make some sort of change.

But many of us tend to evolve and transform in a “bad” way which is awaiting the universe to come from behind us and push us outside our comfort zone via a crisis which undoubtedly pushes us towards transformation. 

Either way, you will transform — either on your timeline or the universe’s. Crisis are critical, but not mandatory. How do you choose to evolve?

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If You Can’t Let it Go

… the universe will take it from you.

Not to punish you, but to push you forward.

You can only hold onto what’s not serving you for so long before the universe intervenes and takes it right away from you.

We are only here to learn and grow through the wisdom of experience. So experiences are crucial to our development. If you find yourself feeling stuck, stagnant, and/or holding onto a job or a relationship passed the expiration date, know that the universe will gladly come in to rebalance your scales and force you forward once again.

The only constant in our lives is change. As humans, we naturally shy away from change but it’s our life force. Honor the cycles of change in your life and give what is no longer working up to a new cycle of growth. Holding onto what has you stuck, will keep you there. Letting it go will free you to move forward. When you learn to let go of what is no longer serving you, it opens you up to the rhythm of life where a better future is guaranteed.

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Forgive Others NOT Because They Deserve It

… but because you do.

We have the wrong idea about forgiveness… we think it’s something we give to others, but really, it’s a gift we give to ourselves. 

When you leave a situation or relationship angry or resentful, you are NOT free. It takes so much energy to harbor anger and resentment and it keeps you trapped there. But when you leave a situation or relationship with love and gratitude, you are free to move forward into your future.

Animosity keeps you trapped. Forgiveness sets you free. Forgiveness isn’t something you give to another; it’s something you give to yourself. Being free of attachment to another is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves.

When relationships end, let them go. Don’t hold onto the pain and hurt. Forgive. Not because they deserve your forgiveness, but because you do. You deserve to be happy and pain free. Forgiveness is one step closer to getting there.

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It’s Not About Falling

… it’s how quickly you can catch yourself.

We all fall. The cycle of life has many ups and downs. After all, what goes up must come down. Falling down isn’t the issue — learning to land more gracefully is.

How do you weather your falls? Do you crash and burn? Or do you catch yourself so you do not go down in flames? We innately understand how to catch ourselves when we trip over a curb, but we somehow get tripped up over our falls in life.

Falling isn’t the issue, it’s what we do once we fall that determines where we will end up. Are you adept at catching yourself and making it look like a seamless step or do you allow that stumble to bring you to your knees in tears for everyone to see.

Falling doesn’t have to mean falling apart. It can also mean falling into something new. Don’t buy into the drama of the fall, pretend that it was an intentional measure to showcase your strength and fortitude. What doesn’t kill you will always make you stronger as long as you manage to get up off the floor and keep moving.

Don’t get tripped up over the fall. Learn how to make a dance out of it. Be easy with yourself. Be light. And the next time you fall, it will not take you out; it will only make you laugh.

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When You Walk Away

… walk away with love.

ALWAYS with love.

Our lives consist of many different types of relationships, but not every one of those relationships is meant to be in your life forever. And even those that are, seldom make it there, unfortunately.

Not everyone will understand you and support who you are. Not everyone will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Not everyone will make time for you. Not everyone will be able to communicate with you. Not everyone will recognize the beauty in your relationship until it’s too late. And certainly not everyone will recognize what they have lost until they have truly lost it. That’s generally how it works.

And some people NEVER learn but remain comfortable in their patterns — forever blaming their patterns for why they cannot move forward. And forever repeating those patterns in hopes that one day they find the “magic person” who can fix it for them. But that never works.

Relationships aren’t important for where they bring you to, they are only important for how they have changed you.

If people you are involved with cannot see the value of what you bring to the table, then they do not get to have you.

But love them anyway.

Love them because they taught you so much about yourself. Love them because they helped shape your heart and open your mind. Love them because they unveiled your hidden pain and your fears so you could work on them. Love them because they taught you what you do and DO NOT want to experience in a relationship. Love them because it is that love that will transform you. And finally love them, because if you don’t, you will just carry the scars of that hurt forward into your next relationship. And you deserve better than that.

When people can’t appreciate what they have in you, don’t fight them, quietly disappear from their lives, and take that love with you. When you leave with love, you leave with all the learning that made you BETTER. You are the one who wins. Let that love transform you on your path forward and happily open you up to a new tomorrow.

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Trying Too Hard

… makes things harder then they need to be.

No one is saying don’t work hard, but there is a tipping point where trying too hard and pushing against resistance creates more problems.

How do you know when “working hard” becomes “trying too hard”?

When it ceases to be enjoyable.

When you feel like your efforts are going nowhere.

When you find you are hitting your head on the same wall over and over again and it is still not yielding.

When the frustration and stagnation of the current stasis has sufficiently depleted you.

If something is not coming together, there is usually a reason why – and that reason is always valid. Resistance on your path is very purposeful. It keeps you from progressing further in a given direction. Recognize that the resistance is there to help you, not hurt you. Pushing against the resistance makes things harder then they need to be. By pushing your agenda forward, you are complicating your life.

Don’t make your life harder then it needs to be. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. And in time you’ll realize that you never really wanted it.

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