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… walk away with love.

ALWAYS with love.

Our lives consist of many different types of relationships, but not every one of those relationships is meant to be in your life forever. And even those that are, seldom make it there, unfortunately.

Not everyone will understand you and support who you are. Not everyone will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Not everyone will make time for you. Not everyone will be able to communicate with you. Not everyone will recognize the beauty in your relationship until it’s too late. And certainly not everyone will recognize what they have lost until they have truly lost it. That’s generally how it works.

And some people NEVER learn but remain comfortable in their patterns — forever blaming their patterns for why they cannot move forward. And forever repeating those patterns in hopes that one day they find the “magic person” who can fix it for them. But that never works.

Relationships aren’t important for where they bring you to, they are only important for how they have changed you.

If people you are involved with cannot see the value of what you bring to the table, then they do not get to have you.

But love them anyway.

Love them because they taught you so much about yourself. Love them because they helped shape your heart and open your mind. Love them because they unveiled your hidden pain and your fears so you could work on them. Love them because they taught you what you do and DO NOT want to experience in a relationship. Love them because it is that love that will transform you. And finally love them, because if you don’t, you will just carry the scars of that hurt forward into your next relationship. And you deserve better than that.

When people can’t appreciate what they have in you, don’t fight them, quietly disappear from their lives, and take that love with you. When you leave with love, you leave with all the learning that made you BETTER. You are the one who wins. Let that love transform you on your path forward and happily open you up to a new tomorrow.

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… vibrate away from you.

Just like that.

Like attracts like. People who are in your current experience are vibrating at a similar energetic level to you. That level could be a high vibrational level of happiness, optimism, spiritual awakening and abundance or it could be a lower vibrational level of fear, depression, uncertainty, confusion, frustration, financial struggle, etc..

The vibration you are running determines the people you will attract to you and also those who will fall away from you. No one can remain in your experience if they are not operating at a similar vibrational level to you.

If someone seems to be pulling away from you for whatever reason, know that they are not ready to be with you at your level and will be taken out of your experience. Their fears, judgments and hesitations will open other portals for them and for you. Everyone gets a vibrational match to themselves, so if someone is operating at a lower level, they will be led away from you and go on to attract a lower vibrational partner who will feel much more comfortable/suitable to them. Likewise, that allows the higher vibrational partner the opportunity to attract an even higher partner to them. Everyone gets what they need.

People who are not right for you vibrate AWAY FROM YOU. Live your vibration and recognize the consequences of it. If you are happy with yourself and your life, you are functioning at a high vibrational level for yourself. If that’s the case, don’t fight to keep someone in your experience. If they are leaving your life, they don’t belong in it. Let them go and be strong enough to know that in time, they will be replaced by someone who is at your level and can appreciate and hold your energy. Why would you want anything else?

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… doesn’t mean you are finished with it.

We think just because it’s behind us that we’re done with our past. But the past doesn’t work that way. The past is only in our past if we have learned what we needed to learn from it and subsequently let it go.

How do you know if you have let it go? You are no longer attached to it.

So if it’s in your past, but you’re still angry about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still upset about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still hurting over it, you’re still attached to it.

If after all this time, you’re still having a strong emotional response to that person or event, then clearly you are still attached to it and therefore NOT finished with it. For better or worse, it’s very much still alive in your mind and heart.

You cannot run from your past. Unfortunately if you do not deal with it, it will always come back. Your past has a funny way of finding you when it is time to deal with something you’ve buried. So when your past comes back to you, it’s NEVER an unfortunate mishap, it’s the universe’s way of providing you with another opportunity for closure. Take it.

Just because a chapter of your life closes, doesn’t mean you are finished with it. Learn to not only close it, but find the closure in it.

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… and it will soon become comfortable.

Resisting “what is” makes things difficult. Making peace with the discomfort opens up opportunities.

We are comfort-seeking creatures. We would like everything to be easy and pleasurable, but life doesn’t always work that way.

When discomfort arises, we always have 2 choices: we can either RESIST IT and PUSH AGAINST IT or we can learn to LET IT PASS THROUGH US and DETACH FROM IT. We want to learn to transform the discomfort, not feed it.

Think about it — hitting your head on the wall over and over again only gives you a headache; it doesn’t move the wall. Learn to step back from the wall, take a breath and open your eyes, you might just realize that there is a way to WALK AROUND THE WALL. Not everything has to be difficult. Resistance increases your frustration, but acceptance allows you to find new alternatives.

Learn to be comfortable within the discomfort and you’ll transform it. Continue to focus on the frustration of the discomfort and you’ll create more of it. Life is not always going to bring you roses, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find joy in the rest of your garden. How comfortable are you in your life?

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jake_edit… it’s NEVER in control of you.

We just forget that.

NO ONE and NOTHING has control over your life unless you give it to them. And why would you do that?

Your power is yours and it rests in your ability to focus your mind. Thoughts are powerful and your thoughts create your experiences. If you are unhappy with your current experience, CHANGE YOUR THOUGHT, and watch your experience change along with it.

Where you put your thoughts, you get more of. So ask yourself what you are focusing on? If it isn’t making you happy, TAKE YOUR FOCUS OFF OF IT and put it into a thought that feels slightly better. In record time, you’ll move the energy away from negative experiences and towards a new world of happier, more positive experiences.

Wherever you put your energy, you get more of. Ask yourself if you actually want it. If not, work to alter your thoughts so that you can create the life of your dreams. You can always have whatever it is you want in life, you just have to be able to align your thoughts with that highest vision while shutting out any other possibility.

You’re always in control of your life, it’s never in control of you. You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Start consciously focusing your thoughts on the life of your dreams and it can only become a reality. What are you waiting for?

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tumblr_lyqpffnjxs1qfet8co1_500… it’s HOW you go through it —

that makes ALL the difference in the world.

You always have a choice as to how you show up in life. It’s important to remember that everything is interrelated. Every action you take, every decision you make determines your NEXT experience.

Think before you act. Think before you put energy into motion. If you react negatively towards a situation, you’ll only succeed in drawing more negative circumstances to you. Whereas if you consciously react positively towards a situation, you’ll increase the likelihood of attracting more positive circumstances to you. It is the way the universe works.

We all go through difficult times, the question is HOW do you get through them? You always have a choice. You can either play the victim and blame others for your misfortune and become angry, resentful and jaded OR you can become the master of your life and learn to dance in the rain with acceptance, grace and trust.

All storms need to be weathered. How do YOU show up in the rain? Do you get soaked or do you learn to laugh your way through it? Crying in the rain ONLY gets you wet. Laughing your way through it ensures that the sun will come out again.

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letting-go-hands… to make room for what WILL.

You can’t have both.

Nor do you want both!

All too often we make the mistake of packing up WHAT DIDN’T WORK FOR US that year and dragging it forward into the new year thinking that it will somehow be different? But it NEVER is.

Chances are if something has been troublesome for you for awhile, it’s time for you to LET IT GO. Continued struggle is never a trajectory for success.

Stop the struggle. Learn to trust the process of your life. It will always bring you to where you need to be; you don’t have to control it. But you just have to be brave enough to know when it’s time to walk away and surrender.

If something didn’t work for you in this calendar year, LEAVE IT THERE. Put your focus on creating something BETTER for yourself. Even if you don’t know what that means just yet. It’s always better to start with nothing then to start off the year behind the 8-ball with the same drama. Why put yourself on that same road when you know exactly where that road leads?

The new year is a time for change. Don’t waste it packing up what didn’t work and dragging it into the new year. You don’t have enough space to find new answers if you are fighting the same dysfunction. Make some new year’s resolutions and resolve yourself to making them a reality. Get out of the way of yourself and let go of what was not working for you this year, so you truly have the space to find what will work.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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