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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

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… it only hurts the betrayer.

Ironic, but true.

To be betrayed is the greatest gift because it shows you someone’s true colors. But as humans, we get caught up in the drama of the betrayal. But in reality, it never matters WHY you were betrayed, or HOW you were betrayed, what matters is that you identify the betrayer. That person is NOT true to you nor do they hold your best interests. In the long run, that is much more valuable information.

Betrayal is a morality game. And by virtue of the fact that one betrays another, the karmic debt rests on their shoulders.

The betrayed can walk away with a clean conscience assuming they’re innocent. The betrayer must live with their actions and the consequences of which always carry a karmic price tag, not to mention the regret of deceit weighs heavily on the soul.

If you’ve been betrayed, don’t spend your energy trying to justify yourself or your situation and don’t feel victimized. Know you deserve better and pick your head up high and keep walking. The betrayer may have gotten what they wanted in the short run, but in the long run, the betrayed always wins because they now know who they will NEVER TRUST AGAIN and that alone is worth its weight in gold.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… a better plan is coming together for you.

It can be no other way.

Plans are the foundation on which we build our lives. If a plan you’ve worked hard on is falling apart, it obviously isn’t strong enough to support your growth. Don’t be upset that it fell apart before its vision was realized — be grateful that you now know you require a stronger foundation and build it accordingly.

Not every plan is meant to come into fruition. Some plans are more important for where they bring you to then whether or not they materialize.

Trust the process of your life — if something doesn’t come together for you, it’s because something better is just around the corner.

The best laid plans should fall apart if they are not able to support your dreams. Be flexible. If it crashes down, step back and recognize that there is something much better coming together. Know that it’s not a punishment, it’s a reward.

Life is funny like that.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… but not always for the reasons you think.

If someone is standing right in front of you, they are there for a reason. That relationship has something to teach you or contribute to you. But it may not be what you are expecting or hoping for. 

We tend to label relationships before we understand their purpose in our lives.

Not every relationship is meant to be in your life forever, but it is meant to be in your life for a purpose. 

For example…

Not every love relationship leads to marriage. Some guarantee heartache so you can learn what real love doesn’t look like.

Not every business partnership leads to success. Some ensure failure so you’ll understand how to become successful on your own.

Not every friendship leads to lifetime loyalty. Some encourage betrayal so you’ll learn to trust yourself and rely on your own inner power.

Not every employee respects your power. Some challenge it so you can learn to step fully into that power and own it.

Not every team player supports your team’s initiatives. Some push back on them so you can learn to evolve those initiatives in a stronger way.

Relationships may not always give you what you want; but they’ll always give you what they came to give.

Every relationship is purposeful; your only job is to identify the purpose and let it off the hook for everything else. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… to WHAT’S RIGHT for you.

And it pulls you away from WHAT’S NOT.

The way to know whether something is working for you or not is to take a break from it. 

Sometimes we are too close to what’s right in front of us to be able to see it objectively. Space gives you the opportunity to see more clearly.

When you take a time out, it gives you time to check back in with yourself and re-evaluate the situation to see whether or not it is supportive of your needs. If you’re too close to something, you’ll never see it clearly.

Distance is the greater arbiter of justice. If a relationship is healthy, space makes the heart grow fonder. If it’s unhealthy, it’ll destroy it. 

There is a process to your life. Learn to trust it. Don’t waste your time forcing a decision. Take some space from it. If it’s right for you, the distance will bring you closer. If it’s not, the distance will rip it away from you — and that is always a process you can trust.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… it’s how quickly you can catch yourself.

We all fall. The cycle of life has many ups and downs. After all, what goes up must come down. Falling down isn’t the issue — learning to land more gracefully is.

How do you weather your falls? Do you crash and burn? Or do you catch yourself so you do not go down in flames? We innately understand how to catch ourselves when we trip over a curb, but we somehow get tripped up over our falls in life.

Falling isn’t the issue, it’s what we do once we fall that determines where we will end up. Are you adept at catching yourself and making it look like a seamless step or do you allow that stumble to bring you to your knees in tears for everyone to see.

Falling doesn’t have to mean falling apart. It can also mean falling into something new. Don’t buy into the drama of the fall, pretend that it was an intentional measure to showcase your strength and fortitude. What doesn’t kill you will always make you stronger as long as you manage to get up off the floor and keep moving.

Don’t get tripped up over the fall. Learn how to make a dance out of it. Be easy with yourself. Be light. And the next time you fall, it will not take you out; it will only make you laugh.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… doesn’t MAKE it work.

It just exhausts you.

There is only so much you can do to make a situation or a relationship work. At some point you have to be willing to walk away from it if it is not meeting your needs. In other words, you have to learn WHEN to walk away from what is NOT working, so you can free up the space to find what will.

You can’t repeatedly look at what’s not working and resent it for not being different.

It’s not others’ fault for not meeting your needs, it’s your fault for allowing them to continually disappoint you.

Don’t look to change others. Look to change yourself. If you are not getting your needs met, look somewhere else. Don’t make someone responsible for your happiness, take charge of it yourself.

Holding on to what doesn’t work, doesn’t make it work. It just breaks you down and takes your power away from you. Love yourself enough to ask for better and you just might get it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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