If You’re Still Hating on Others

… you’re not healed.

Even if you think you are.

We only know who we are in relationship to another person, so our relationships are our greatest acid test for the consciousness we are holding.

If someone is able to trigger you into an emotional response, you are not resolved within yourself. Everyone has their own buttons, but if you allow someone else to push those buttons and it creates a reactance of anger and hate within you, that work is on YOU. Don’t spend your energy hating on that person for triggering you, ask yourself why you got triggered? Why does that person make you angry? What about them is triggering for you? That is what needs to be looked at. Blaming them for your anger is misdirected energy and it only keeps you stuck in your own unconscious and distorted mindset.

Hate and anger is a dead give-away for a soul who is still unhealed. A conscious and healed being doesn’t need to react with hate and anger, they’re able to tap into the higher realms of compassion and empathy for those for whom they may disagree with.

Hate is too heavy a burden to carry. If you hold hate for anyone in your life, you’ll never be free. You will forever be bound to that person because you were unable to resolve the hatred you hold in your heart. And that hatred is a venom that will only poison your soul. Life is too short to be buried under your own hate. The opportunity is now to find your own healing so your healing can inspire the healing of our planet. Are you ready to heal?

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In Order to Find Yourself

… you have to step outside the crowd.

And that’s never comfortable.

No one likes to step outside the known reality/the consensus reality because we falsely believe that there is “safety in numbers,” so we religiously “follow the herd.” We figure, “they must know something we don’t,” so we join them because we figure “it is better to be part of something than to stand idle alone.” But this is the greatest misnomer of our time.

Truth is, no individual can know themselves within the context of a group. The group dictates a standard that phase-locks individuals to a false identity. Therefore, one has to get outside the group in order to see their own colors, otherwise the group dynamic will muddy those colors.

Many of us get lost in the crowd and identify ourselves as part of the crowd. But who you truly are can never be identified if you are hiding in the crowd. In order to be who you are, you must step outside the crowd and stand in your own light. And that is what scares most of us and consequently what leads most of us to stay hidden in the crowd. No one wants the spotlight shown upon them.

Are you ready to be seen? Are you ready to take a stand for your self and your soul? Get out of the darkness and step into your light.

These days, the crowd is increasingly breaking down and the time is coming to make your own road home. Are you ready to chart your individual course? The universe is waiting on you.

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When You Are Alone

… you can see where you are. 

When you are surrounded by others, your view is blocked. 

I used to think I knew who I was and how I fit into the whole when I lived in NYC, but in reality, I couldn’t see anything. 

When you are alone, you have clear sight. But when you are surrounded by others, your view becomes muddied. It’s muddied because you only see yourself as a reflection of someone else. You do not have true clarity. True clarity only comes when you only see you. Anyone else around you is just a distraction from you knowing yourself. 

Most of us never know who we truly are. We are too busy competing with others around us (on social media) trying to prove to ourselves that we are better than them. But when you are constantly comparing yourself to those around you, you lose a bit of yourself. You turn that energy over to others and no longer have access to it. You give them your power. And why would you do that? Why would you not keep the integrity of your own power?

People can become distractions, albeit beautiful distractions, to us finding our way in the world. If you truly want to know yourself, step away from the crowd. You are not them. You will just get swallowed up and lost in that crowd.

Being alone is a chance to re-align yourself to who you truly are. When you no longer have the distractions of others, you can better see where you are headed.

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Next Level is About Vibration

… not action.

The opportunities that are aligned for you will make their way to you when you are aligned with them. Many of us confuse getting to the next level with taking a certain action. What do I have to do in order to get to the next level? Who do I have to contact? Who should I partner with?

But next level isn’t about achieving a physical status, it’s about leveling up your vibration. It’s NOT about what you do in life, it’s more about who you are being in your life. When you are busy being your highest self, the universe will be busy lining you up with the highest vibrational opportunities possible. 

Don’t try and look for all the answers; just ask yourself who you are, what do you want to share with the world and how do you want to show up to the world? That’s the work. From that true and authentic place within, the universe can begin to align you with the right opportunities for you to shine.

Next level is about vibration, not action. When you’re aligned with what you want to create in the world, the manifestation of that creation will make itself known to you.

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It’s Not About Competition Anymore

… it’s about collaboration.

We’re moving away from separatism and into collectivism. There’s strength in numbers and there’s power in community. If the sum of the whole is always greater than its individual parts, why then are we still operating solo? Why are we struggling individually to achieve creature comforts than could be easily had via cooperation?

There is a reason why indigenous people created community. They knew that if they had each other’s backs that they would naturally be more abundant, more efficient and more fulfilled. It’s a simple but profound concept.

There is a resurgence towards collectivism and community on our planet. It’s not about competition anymore, it’s about collaboration. In your life, how can you work in cooperation with others to create a sum greater than that of its parts? Who can you collaborate with to bring your gifts, talents and interests to life in a much more cohesive and meaningful way? How can you benefit from others’ experience and ideas and they by yours?

In our new world paradigm, our delivery system for success is collaboration and partnership. We’re not competing with each other anymore, we’re learning to work together to create a much better world. Are you in?

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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

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Your Story is Meant to Be Rewritten

… not reread.

What’s your story? Is it serving you? Is it bringing you to the place you want to be in your life?

If not, STOP REREADING IT and START REWRITING IT.

You do not have to pack up your history and bring it forward into your destiny. But many of us do. 

We do it everyday that we decide we’re going to pack up our negative experiences, thought forms and limited beliefs and define ourselves by them. We do it when we decide that we are a VICTIM of our circumstances rather than a MASTER of them.

Here’s the SECRET: it lies in your perception.

Just because something is true for you, doesn’t mean it has to become your truth. You are in charge of what becomes real for you. And what you give your attention to is what becomes your reality. So, if it isn’t working for you, do not give it any attention and watch it fall away.

The story you tell yourself becomes the story of your life. If that story isn’t working anymore, stop rereading it and start rewriting it. A new chapter is waiting to begin. The question is — are you ready to write it or are you still rereading the last one?

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Being Hard On Yourself

… doesn’t make things easier for you.

It makes them HARDER.

Things may not always go the way you intended them to go and that has to be ok. Sure it might be upsetting and sure you might have wished you’d done things differently, and sure you might’ve even tried another approach to fix things but unfortunately was unable. What do you do now?

You can’t change what’s done. Focusing on the disappointment of the past keeps you trapped there. Learning the lesson from that experience frees you to move on.

Learning what you will never do again is by far one of the most powerful lessons one can learn. Transformation is never easy. If it doesn’t hurt, it’ll probably never change you.

Being hard on yourself is never the answer. Transformation is hard work. If you beat yourself up over your learning process, you’ll just impede your growth. Mistakes make you better if you learn from them. Don’t waste your time lamenting those mistakes, use that time to apply the learning and make your future better because of it.

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Expecting People To Be Other Than Who They Are

… will only disappoint you.

We all have our own baseline expectations of how people should behave in given situations BUT expecting people to uphold those expectations is both unrealistic and unfair to everyone.

It’s ok to have high standards for personal decorum, but it’s not ok to put those standards on others.

Putting those standards on others sets them up to fail and sets you up to be disappointed. Let people be who they are and IF WHO THEY ARE DOESN’T WORK FOR YOU – MAKE ANOTHER DECISION, but don’t waste one moment hoping/expecting they’ll show up differently.

Expecting people to be other than who they are is a game you’ll NEVER win. It only sets you up for disappointment when they don’t come through. Recognize that you can’t fix people and you can’t change them, but you can learn to accept them for who they are and LET THEM OFF THE HOOK for everything they cannot be for you. 

People are messy and they come with their own limitations. Don’t get caught up in those limitations – they’ll only frustrate you. Remember that it isn’t your job to hold up a mirror to their lack of self-awareness. If they cannot see themselves, there isn’t anyway you’re going to be able to show them who they are.

Learn to know the cards you are holding – learn to know the person who is sitting right across from you and NEVER EXPECT THEM TO BE OTHER THAN WHO THEY ARE and you’ll never be disappointed.

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Redefining FAILURE

… is a step closer towards success.

But we were never taught that.

We view failure as a setback, but in reality “failure” is NOT a setback, but a necessary “step-BACK” along our path towards success. Sometimes it’s necessary to step back in life to regroup and re-calibrate so that we can move forward in a stronger, more definitive way.

It’s important to understand that success is very rarely a steady trajectory upwards. By it’s definition, it’s frought with many step-backs — it has to be. After all, if you didn’t know failure, how could you ever really come to know success?

Our lives are about taking 1-step forward, 2-steps back and it’s the steps-back that enable us to “re-trace” our steps in order to do things better next time. The steps back allow you to process the wisdom you’ve already garnered and make some new decisions with it.

Failure is never falling short of your goal — it’s part of the process it takes to get there. When you learn what doesn’t work, you begin to understand more about what will work. Rejoice in your failures, they innately set you up onto a more solid foundation moving forward. The only way to get to the next highest mountain top is to come down the side of the mountain you’re on. Don’t fight the downhill slide, use that experience to go higher up the next mountain.

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