Your Progress is Not Contingent on How Unhealed People Treat You

… it’s contingent on how you react to their treatment.

In life, we can never take the “impersonal, personal.” How people treat you has more to do with who they are/what they are going through then it has anything to do with you.

You are not responsible for changing people, you are responsible for changing yourself.

If an unhealed person lashes out at you, that is on them; it’s their work to resolve within themself. If you allow that unhealed person to trigger you, then that is on you. Your work is to find out why their inadequacies trigger your insecurities.

We are all mirrors to each other. We reflect back to each other aspects of ourselves we may not be aware of.

It’s easy to blame unhealed people for your trauma; it’s not as easy to recognize a trauma response within ourselves. Unhealed people have work to do, and if you’re triggered by an unhealed person, you have even more work to do.

We are here to evolve and to progress through this matrix. Don’t get tripped up by an unhealed being. Not everyone wants to grow. Remember that your progress is never contingent on how unhealed people treat you; it is only contingent on how you react to them. Resolving your need to react is the key to evolution.

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If You’re Still Hating on Others

… you’re not healed.

Even if you think you are.

We only know who we are in relationship to another person, so our relationships are our greatest acid test for the consciousness we are holding.

If someone is able to trigger you into an emotional response, you are not resolved within yourself. Everyone has their own buttons, but if you allow someone else to push those buttons and it creates a reactance of anger and hate within you, that work is on YOU. Don’t spend your energy hating on that person for triggering you, ask yourself why you got triggered? Why does that person make you angry? What about them is triggering for you? That is what needs to be looked at. Blaming them for your anger is misdirected energy and it only keeps you stuck in your own unconscious and distorted mindset.

Hate and anger is a dead give-away for a soul who is still unhealed. A conscious and healed being doesn’t need to react with hate and anger, they’re able to tap into the higher realms of compassion and empathy for those for whom they may disagree with.

Hate is too heavy a burden to carry. If you hold hate for anyone in your life, you’ll never be free. You will forever be bound to that person because you were unable to resolve the hatred you hold in your heart. And that hatred is a venom that will only poison your soul. Life is too short to be buried under your own hate. The opportunity is now to find your own healing so your healing can inspire the healing of our planet. Are you ready to heal?

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Crises Are Critical

… but not mandatory, for growth.

The only constant we have in life is change. We are only here to grow through experiences and to learn who we really are which is aspects of the creator (God).

The nature of reality is change. As long as we are alive on this planet, our lives need to continually expand and evolve and transformation is a critical part of that growth.

Everyone wants to be transformed, but not everyone wants to do the work to transform an aspect of their life. Most prefer to stay stuck and stagnant in a situation that has outlived it’s purpose.

There are 2 ways in which as humans, we can transform. We can transform in a “good” way or a “bad” way. Good and bad are just human labels to describe a process of transformation; they are not realities.

The fact is that we are always in control of how we grow. In the “good” way, we can get out ahead of the curve and recognize that we are feeling stuck/stagnant in our lives and push ourselves outside our comfort zone to make some sort of change.

But many of us tend to evolve and transform in a “bad” way which is awaiting the universe to come from behind us and push us outside our comfort zone via a crisis which undoubtedly pushes us towards transformation. 

Either way, you will transform — either on your timeline or the universe’s. Crisis are critical, but not mandatory. How do you choose to evolve?

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When The Tide Changes

… move with it or it’ll take you out.

Life is in constant motion, shifting and changing. As humans, we have to move with those changes, we cannot resist them. Resisting change is akin to back pedaling through our lives.

In life, always remain fluid. Move like the waters, yet be aware when the tide is changing and act accordingly. Your life is not a constant, it ebbs and flows in cycles and the more conscious you are, the better you are at anticipating those shifts in the tide.

Life is about flowing with the currents, observing the energy and respecting the direction in which it wants to move. If the tide is moving in a certain direction, heed it, life is guiding you towards more tranquil waters.

Respect the cycles of your relationships and jobs — nothing stays the same. Learn to identify the changes in the tides so you don’t get stuck somewhere you don’t want to be.

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Rejection is Protection

… it’s not a punishment.

But somehow we tend to get lost in the rejection part and forget why a specific situation is happening.

Life is very simple. Anything that is right for you, will find its way to you when it’s time. There’s no need for struggle. Trust in your divine trust. If it’s not happening, it’s not right for you, at least not right now. Step away from it.

You can always trust the universe to filter out the people and opportunities that are not aligned with your higher purpose. Heed the walls that are put in front of you. They are in place to re-route you and prevent you from running off a cliff.

Resistance is purposeful, it’s not a punishment — it’s always leading you somewhere better.

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If You Don’t Make Space

… you won’t have space for it.

Transitions can be disorienting. No one really likes change, especially when it is thrust onto you. But change represents growth and that is the life force that propels us forward in our lives.

The thing about change is that if you don’t clear a space for the newness that you are seeking, you will have no space for it when it arrives.

You have to let go of what you are holding onto in order to accept something new. But we don’t do that, we generally hold onto what isn’t working until it finally drags us to the floor and we unwittingly surrender our grasp.

You have to let go of what isn’t working to create the space for what will. You can’t have both. In times of transition, you have to trust that what doesn’t feel right, is no longer right for you. 

Learn to let your intuition guide you. If it feels good, move in that direction. If it doesn’t feel good, move away from that direction and let it go. Once you let go of what no longer feels right, the universe can replace it with something that IS right. 

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It’s Not About Competition Anymore

… it’s about collaboration.

We’re moving away from separatism and into collectivism. There’s strength in numbers and there’s power in community. If the sum of the whole is always greater than its individual parts, why then are we still operating solo? Why are we struggling individually to achieve creature comforts than could be easily had via cooperation?

There is a reason why indigenous people created community. They knew that if they had each other’s backs that they would naturally be more abundant, more efficient and more fulfilled. It’s a simple but profound concept.

There is a resurgence towards collectivism and community on our planet. It’s not about competition anymore, it’s about collaboration. In your life, how can you work in cooperation with others to create a sum greater than that of its parts? Who can you collaborate with to bring your gifts, talents and interests to life in a much more cohesive and meaningful way? How can you benefit from others’ experience and ideas and they by yours?

In our new world paradigm, our delivery system for success is collaboration and partnership. We’re not competing with each other anymore, we’re learning to work together to create a much better world. Are you in?

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Your Problem is Never a Person

… it’s in learning what that person came to teach you. 

But no one ever teaches us that.

Why do we make it all about the other person? It doesn’t matter what that person does to you or what that person says to you/doesn’t say to you — however unpleasant the circumstances may be. It only matters what you learn from that person and how you make your life BETTER because of them.

We tend to get caught up in the drama-trauma zone of our lives and we become the victims of what others do/say to us. But it can never be about them. Our lives are ABOUT US and if those people are in our lives, we should only be interested in the affect their presence has over us. 

When we learn that no one has control over our lives unless we give it, everything shifts for us. 

Remember in life, it’s never about a person, they are just the relationship villain in place to teach you something about yourself. It’s about what you take away from that person that makes all the difference in the world. Get the lesson and get out; make your life better because they were in it. 

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People Don’t See You For Who You Are

… they see you for who THEY are.

People come fully equipped with their own filters through which they are able to perceive you. This means they might not be able to see the REAL YOU, they see a version of you through their own lens.

No need to get upset about the version of you that they see. It is irrelevant. If they are not clearly able to see the truth of themselves, they will never be able to honor the truth within you.

You don’t need to be accepted by people who cannot see themselves. All you can do is be yourself. Put your energy into honoring your truth, not trying to change theirs. People don’t see you for who you are, they only see you for WHO THEY ARE. If you’re not aligned with the vibration they hold, they will NEVER see you; and for you, that’s a good thing. Misalignment is your indication that you are moving up the vibrational scale and they are falling away. Thank them for the clarity.

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You Can’t Change People

… who can’t see an issue in their behavior.

Not everyone is conscious. Not everyone has the ability to see how their actions affect others. If you have to tell someone over and over again that they’re hurting you, they are unable to process your pain, most likely because they haven’t processed their own. 

In order for them to honor your feelings, they first have to look at themselves in the mirror and accept responsibility for how they’ve made you feel. But for many, that reflection can be very painful and bring up other past failures. No one wants to feel responsible for hurting someone else and no one wants to feel like a failure; it’s much easier to just shut down and become defensive — “let me prove to you that I don’t need to change, you do.”

If someone is truly evolved, they know they are not responsible for how you feel, BUT they will always have a degree of empathy for your feelings and will always be able to honor them in whatever way they can. 

If they can’t hear your pain, you’ll never be able to get them to honor it. If you’re trying to communicate your feelings and they’re being defensive, walk away, sometimes silence can be the greatest teacher. If your words aren’t enough to help them hear you, then stop talking and give them the time and space to hear what you have already said.

You can’t change people who can’t see an issue in their behavior. You can’t get anyone to stop hurting you until they come face to face with their own pain. If they cannot change themselves, how are you ever going to change them? Life is too short to try and teach unconscious people how to honor your feelings. Walk away and in time the universe will deliver you someone who can honor your heart.

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