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… before it gets better.

No one ever said making change is easy. Growth takes hard work.

To become a beautiful butterfly, you have to live through the dark phase of the cocoon.

Giving up and staying in the cocoon isn’t an option. The struggle to get free of the cocoon is the struggle of transformation. How badly do you want to transform your life? Accepting the status quo will never get you out of that cocoon. To get to the light, often times you have to fight your way through the darkness.

Transformation is a lifelong process; it doesn’t happen overnight. Transformation is a series of steps that tend to make things appear worse before they can become better. It’s like any detox process, in order to cleanse the body and heal, the infection or toxins need to first rise to the surface before they can leave the body. So the darkness is temporarily exaggerated before the light of transformation can prevail.

To become something great, you have to do something great. Being great means using your inner strength to fight your way through your own cocoon of darkness. Remember giving up is never an option. Just when the catepillar was ready to give up his struggle, he transformed into a beautiful butterfly and flew away.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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jake_edit… it’s NEVER in control of you.

We just forget that.

NO ONE and NOTHING has control over your life unless you give it to them. And why would you do that?

Your power is yours and it rests in your ability to focus your mind. Thoughts are powerful and your thoughts create your experiences. If you are unhappy with your current experience, CHANGE YOUR THOUGHT, and watch your experience change along with it.

Where you put your thoughts, you get more of. So ask yourself what you are focusing on? If it isn’t making you happy, TAKE YOUR FOCUS OFF OF IT and put it into a thought that feels slightly better. In record time, you’ll move the energy away from negative experiences and towards a new world of happier, more positive experiences.

Wherever you put your energy, you get more of. Ask yourself if you actually want it. If not, work to alter your thoughts so that you can create the life of your dreams. You can always have whatever it is you want in life, you just have to be able to align your thoughts with that highest vision while shutting out any other possibility.

You’re always in control of your life, it’s never in control of you. You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Start consciously focusing your thoughts on the life of your dreams and it can only become a reality. What are you waiting for?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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letting-go-hands… to make room for what WILL.

You can’t have both.

Nor do you want both!

All too often we make the mistake of packing up WHAT DIDN’T WORK FOR US that year and dragging it forward into the new year thinking that it will somehow be different? But it NEVER is.

Chances are if something has been troublesome for you for awhile, it’s time for you to LET IT GO. Continued struggle is never a trajectory for success.

Stop the struggle. Learn to trust the process of your life. It will always bring you to where you need to be; you don’t have to control it. But you just have to be brave enough to know when it’s time to walk away and surrender.

If something didn’t work for you in this calendar year, LEAVE IT THERE. Put your focus on creating something BETTER for yourself. Even if you don’t know what that means just yet. It’s always better to start with nothing then to start off the year behind the 8-ball with the same drama. Why put yourself on that same road when you know exactly where that road leads?

The new year is a time for change. Don’t waste it packing up what didn’t work and dragging it into the new year. You don’t have enough space to find new answers if you are fighting the same dysfunction. Make some new year’s resolutions and resolve yourself to making them a reality. Get out of the way of yourself and let go of what was not working for you this year, so you truly have the space to find what will work.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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grey1… it’s always in the shades of grey.

We’re a solution-driven species and hence we feel very uncomfortable when we do NOT have all the answers.

But life isn’t about knowing all the answers. It’s about exploring the depth/richness behind the range of ambiguity within all 5,000 shades of grey, because as humans we are much more complex than just being black or white. There is much more to our emotional wellbeing, our intelligence and our rational thinking then just black and white.

Black or white is an easy label but living life in the grey pushes you further. In other words, needing guarantees in life keeps you limited; being comfortable with uncertainty/exploration keeps you expanding into yourself.

Don’t stop at black or white; you can go further in the grey areas. There is much more to explore in the realm of uncertainty than there ever is in the realm of certainty. To be the best YOU, you always want to explore the levels of grey – push yourself further, take chances, take risks, and move out of your comfort zone. Being in the grey area shouldn’t be scary, it should be embraced and savored for all it’s potential.

Guarantees don’t make you safe in life, they keep you stuck and narrowly defined. Be comfortable within yourself to navigate all 5,000 shades of uncertainty. Then once you have sufficiently explored the varying shades of grey, you will be ready to define your own unique shade and it’s sure to NOT be black or white. How could it be?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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difference-between-depression-and-sadness… it’s about your state of mind.

So change it.

Reducing your stress level (about your schedule) is about controlling your mind, NOT your schedule.

Understandably so, most of us become stressed due to the schedules we work under. We’re time-impoverished and that creates a source of stress in our lives.

But believe it or not, stress is a choice. It’s a choice in perception.

You can either allow your schedule to “stress you out” or you can change your perception of your schedule. In other words, your schedule doesn’t have to be a source of stress, but the way you mentally label it will be.

You may not always be able to control your schedule, but you can always control HOW YOU REACT TO IT. So, know that you can change the way you are viewing your schedule. For instance, you can either see your schedule as “full and fulfilling” or it can be seen as “busy and overwhelming.”

A schedule is just that, a schedule; the mental perception we attach to it is the way we will experience it. The same holds for anything in life – an event/situation/person is just that, but the perception we attach to it, is how we will experience it.

Do you want to feel more in control of your life? Do you want to have less stress? Learn to redefine what you’re looking at. When you redefine your situation, you will experience it very differently. You are always in control of how you see things. Just know that stress is never about your schedule, it’s about your state of mind as you make your way through it. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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overworked-man-mauro-fermariello…it’s meant to be.

That’s how you know it’s well lived.

You’re only here to have experiences and there are NO BAD EXPERIENCES, just DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES.

You can’t make a mistake, you can’t make a mess of your life. It isn’t possible. There are no messes and nobody gets a perfectly ordered life. That would be boring.

The more you explore, the more you know, the more you experience, the more you grow. It’s all about the experience, NOT the outcome.

The outcome NEVER MATTERS, what matters is that you took a chance and rolled the dice to see what would happen. It’s called “having an experience” and life is filled with them.

Never judge your experiences as good or bad. Just keep having them. Experiences season you. They expand you. They help you get to know who you are and what you like, and what you don’t like. Experiences are critical to your personal growth.

Without experiences, you never live, and you are only on this planet to live. Never worry about “making a mistake and making a mess out of your life.” Live it. Do it all. Make it as messy as you possibly can, it shows you’ve lived it. Leave your mark on the world and by doing so, you’ll learn about yourself, you’ll grow/evolve and you’ll NEVER have any regrets. That’s a life well lived.

Life is messy, but you always have a choice, you can spend your time cleaning it up or you can spend your time living every experience it brings you. What will you decide?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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Getoutoftheway… helps life to flow MUCH EASIER.

But somehow we’re always getting in the way of ourselves. We make things harder then they need to be.

You’ll know that you’re in your own way because you’re trying to FORCE AN OUTCOME which is currently unavailable to you. In other words, there’s something in your life that you are trying hard to secure (a relationship, job, housing situation, etc… ) but unfortunately it’s NOT materializing with ease.

So what do you do? Most of us naturally try HARDER, it’s human nature to do so and that’s an appropriate response, but to what end? If you find yourself in a situation where you’re continually trying and trying to force an outcome and it’s still eluding you, BACK OFF and recognize that there’s a reason why you are being held back from that outcome. Accept that in this moment, there’s a better outcome for you that hasn’t yet been discovered.

Continually pushing past resistance doesn’t bring you what you want faster, it just exhausts you. That resistance we run into is very purposeful. It’s in place to safeguard us from achieving a desired outcome that isn’t right for us.

Be careful what you wish for. If you push hard enough, you just might get it. And if it isn’t the right thing for you, you’ll soon realize that you didn’t really want it after all.

Get out of the way of yourself and let what’s right for you, find it’s way to you. Stop thinking you have all the answers. We seldom do. Stop fighting to make something happen and let life bring you what is meant to happen. You may be pleasantly surprised.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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