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… is how it will show up for you.

It’s just the way it works.

If you see things as negative, dark and desperate, the universe will conspire to bring you more sadness, darkness and desperation. 

If you see things as positive, happy and inspiring, the universe will conspire to bring you more positivityhappiness and inspiration.

Life is a game. You have only to learn the rules of the game in order to play. The #1 rule is that YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE — you create every experience you will ever have in this life with the thoughts you think about it. So if you’re unhappy with your life, clean up your thoughts about it. See yourself as having the life of your dreams and watch that dream come into fruition.

The way you see your life is how it will show up for you. If you believe it, it will become your reality, if you don’t, it will simply fall away. Your reality is yours. How you react, how you think and how you feel molds every experience you will ever have.

Want to be happy? Don’t complicate it. Learn to see the happiness that is inherently present in your life and the universe will continually match it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… stop talking.

You can have the best of intentions and give the best advice but if someone is not in a place to hear it, they will NOT hear it.

Everyone has their own insecurities and their own sensitivities which bias the way they receive information.

For example, they might be sensitive to the content itself — to your tone — or to your deliveryThis is because everyone has their own lens from which they filter data — their perception becomes their reality and it is heightened when that perception is shaped by their insecurities. 

If someone is too sensitive to hear your constructive guidance, stop giving it. Stop trying to make your words relevant to them. Let them process the data in their own way and let go of the outcome.

When people can’t hear you, their filters are defensively rejecting your feedback. When they take your guidance “the wrong way,” they may be in the process of defending their ego. Step away.

There are always 2-sides to every story. All you can do is own your intentions; you cannot change others’ filter. If you truly feel you were helping someone with integrity and if that someone feels judged or attacked by your attempts to help them; they are not in a place to hear your guidance. Stop talking.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… is coming from you.

Always from YOU.

The external world is just a reflection of your own inner state of being. In other words, how you are feeling inside will always be mirrored back to you.

You can’t hide from yourself. The negativity you harbor will bitterly bite you back. The problematic communication you’ve been experiencing will cause problems in all your communications. The agitation and frustration you have been feeling will agitate and frustrate those around you.

The trouble you have with others is always coming from you. Your relationships are an external projection of an internal state of being. If you don’t know what’s going on inside of you, look at your landscape — what and who is showing up around you? How are people treating you? Know that they are always showing up in direct response to the energy that you are emitting.

Keep your side of the street clean. Know what’s yours and give the rest back. When you recognize that the problems you have with others are only projections of your own issues within yourself, you can accept responsibility for the turmoil in your life and ultimately shift it. Do the work inside to heal and your outside world will reflect the changes. The better you feel, the better it gets — it can be no other way.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

 

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… once you’re on it, you’re in for a ride.

And that ride is a tough one.

One negative thought begets another begets another, begets another. Once you set down the path of focusing on self-limiting beliefs, fears and anxieties, you spiral down the rabbit hole burying yourself under your own negative thought forms.

Trains have a tendency to pick up momentum as they barrel along the track. The negativity train is fueled by every fearful, depressing thought you’ve ever had and it gains speed and force along the way. Once that train is moving in a swift self-defeating direction, it’s almost impossible to stop the inevitable. 

To stop the negativity train, get out ahead of it. Stop those negative thoughts in their tracks before they gain momentum over you and learn to replace those thoughts with thoughts that are more constructive and more inspiring.

Your life is your own. Don’t let the runaway negativity train take you out. If you don’t stop the momentum before it builds, you’ll never know what hit you. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… you have to LET GO of something.

But many us hold onto the burdens of the past and drag them with us. If there is something that is weighing heavy on you and not uplifting you, it may be time to let it go.

The emotional and physical baggage that we drag along with us never gets lighter, it accumulates until eventually it buries us. What in your life are you not dealing with? What are you dragging around with you? If you allow yourself to keep struggling with someone or something in your life, it only brings you down.

If you want to lighten your load, you have to be willing to let go of what is not working in your life in order to make room for what will. You cannot have both.

No one is burdening you — you are choosing to drag what isn’t working in your life around with you. As soon as you decide that you are ready to let go of what is not working, you will create the space to find what will.

Your baggage is your own. Pack lightly. Remember, you carry it all with you.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

 

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… it’s the VIBRATION behind it that makes all the difference.

It’s not what you do, it’s WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE DOING that determines the outcome. 

Everything is energy. Your thoughts are always creating your reality. If you do one thing, but THINK SOMETHING ELSE about it, you are undermining the very action you are taking.

Your thoughts must be aligned with the action you are taking or they will NEVER manifest. 

For example, if you are pitching new business and you give a presentation, but secretly feel unprepared or as if you don’t have the experience necessary or if you are worried you will never land the account, that vibration is what manifests because it is the dominant vibration you are offering. It is the energy you are putting out into the universe.

Action can only take you so far. Your vibration is what closes the deal. 

Don’t waste your time and energy on physical action alone. It is limiting. You can walk the walk, but if your “self talk” is negative, it will take you down. 

Energy is everything. It isn’t about the action that you take in life, it’s the vibration behind it that determines the outcome. What’s in your vibration?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

 

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… doesn’t make things easier for you.

It makes them HARDER.

Things may not always go the way you intended them to go and that has to be ok. Sure it might be upsetting and sure you might have wished you’d done things differently, and sure you might’ve even tried another approach to fix things but unfortunately was unable. What do you do now?

You can’t change what’s done. Focusing on the disappointment of the past keeps you trapped there. Learning the lesson from that experience frees you to move on.

Learning what you will never do again is by far one of the most powerful lessons one can learn. Transformation is never easy. If it doesn’t hurt, it’ll probably never change you.

Being hard on yourself is never the answer. Transformation is hard work. If you beat yourself up over your learning process, you’ll just impede your growth. Mistakes make you better if you learn from them. Don’t waste your time lamenting those mistakes, use that time to apply the learning and make your future better because of it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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