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… it’s always taking you somewhere else.

Life is an uphill climb and it’s made up of many steps. There is no single step that is ever going to be forever. So why allow yourself to get tripped up over the step you’re on?

You’re never meant to get stuck on a step and you’re never meant to skip steps. Life moves in phases and when you’re finished with one step, it’s time to take the next one. But many of us get disheartened because we are unhappy with the step we’re on. It’s ok to dislike the step you’re on, you’re not meant to be on it forever — just keep climbing — you’re always on your way somewhere else and that step is a necessary evil in getting you there.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… but if you’re patient, it’ll work out even better.

Patience is the name of the game. Life is a delicate balance of effort and surrender and when we push against what isn’t working, we only create more resistance for ourselves. 

The ability to observe what is and not get caught up into wanting it to be different is the gift of wisdom. We may not be able to change what is happening to us in this moment, but we can absolutely change our reactions to what is happening and that reaction is what will create our next experience.

Life is a series of moments. What happens when things don’t work out the way you want them to? Do you spend your time and energy rallying around the injustice of it all or do you put your energy into moving forward so you can create a better experience in your next moment?

Life doesn’t always work out the way you want it to but if you accept that “it is the way it is,” you give yourself the ability to create change in the next moment. You are never going to change what happened, but if you surrender to it, accept it and recognize that you prefer to have a better experience next time, you will be on your way to creating it for yourself.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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… generates very different outcomes.

Fear and uncertainty are very different emotions and therefore create very different realities. Fear and uncertainty both represent a future that is unknown, but they will create very different futures based on their vibrational feedback.

Fear recognizes that the future is unknown yet anticipates the worst possible scenario and then stands back and activates it. 

Uncertainty also recognizes that the future is unknown yet holds the possibility that it might still yield a positive outcome. 

Uncertainty offers options for growth while fear assumes the worst. 

It’s ok to be cautious of the unknown, but it is never ok to fear it. Fear gives you no options — it’s  a death sentence. Recognize that the future is unknown but DON’T LABEL IT as fear; REDEFINE IT as uncertainty. 

Fear guarantees that that which you fear will ultimately reappear in your life. Uncertainty helps talk you off the ledge and encourages you to see the potential for positive outcomes.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… not the actual outcome.

When things don’t work out the way we hope they will, we suffer. We suffer because the outcome is less than desirable. When we take a closer look at our suffering, we can see that the pain is caused by our attachment to a given outcome. But the attachment is only a thought form — it’s a thought projection of an expected and probable outcome. 

When that expected and probable outcome does not occur, we are at a loss and suffering ensues. In reality, we may not be able to control the outcome, but we can absolutely control our thoughts about the outcome and the ability to shift those thoughts is what can help reduce suffering.

If the outcome you receive is not the outcome you were hoping for, the key is surrender. When you can surrender and accept the outcome (whether it is pleasing or not,) you can begin to change your thought about the outcome and shift your thought to a thought that is slightly more empowering.

The difference between happiness and suffering is the quality of the thought form. When your attachment is to thoughts that uplift you, you attract uplifting outcomes and when your attachment is to demotivating thoughts, you attract demotivating outcomes.

Your thoughts determine your reality. If you want to alleviate suffering, learn to change your thoughts about what you are experiencing. This is not to say “lie to yourself,” it is just to help you reframe the situations in your life so that you can begin to alter your thoughts so you can experience more positive outcomes. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… is how it will show up for you.

It’s just the way it works.

If you see things as negative, dark and desperate, the universe will conspire to bring you more sadness, darkness and desperation. 

If you see things as positive, happy and inspiring, the universe will conspire to bring you more positivityhappiness and inspiration.

Life is a game. You have only to learn the rules of the game in order to play. The #1 rule is that YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE — you create every experience you will ever have in this life with the thoughts you think about it. So if you’re unhappy with your life, clean up your thoughts about it. See yourself as having the life of your dreams and watch that dream come into fruition.

The way you see your life is how it will show up for you. If you believe it, it will become your reality, if you don’t, it will simply fall away. Your reality is yours. How you react, how you think and how you feel molds every experience you will ever have.

Want to be happy? Don’t complicate it. Learn to see the happiness that is inherently present in your life and the universe will continually match it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… stop talking.

You can have the best of intentions and give the best advice but if someone is not in a place to hear it, they will NOT hear it.

Everyone has their own insecurities and their own sensitivities which bias the way they receive information.

For example, they might be sensitive to the content itself — to your tone — or to your deliveryThis is because everyone has their own lens from which they filter data — their perception becomes their reality and it is heightened when that perception is shaped by their insecurities. 

If someone is too sensitive to hear your constructive guidance, stop giving it. Stop trying to make your words relevant to them. Let them process the data in their own way and let go of the outcome.

When people can’t hear you, their filters are defensively rejecting your feedback. When they take your guidance “the wrong way,” they may be in the process of defending their ego. Step away.

There are always 2-sides to every story. All you can do is own your intentions; you cannot change others’ filter. If you truly feel you were helping someone with integrity and if that someone feels judged or attacked by your attempts to help them; they are not in a place to hear your guidance. Stop talking.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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