If You’re Still Hating on Others

… you’re not healed.

Even if you think you are.

We only know who we are in relationship to another person, so our relationships are our greatest acid test for the consciousness we are holding.

If someone is able to trigger you into an emotional response, you are not resolved within yourself. Everyone has their own buttons, but if you allow someone else to push those buttons and it creates a reactance of anger and hate within you, that work is on YOU. Don’t spend your energy hating on that person for triggering you, ask yourself why you got triggered? Why does that person make you angry? What about them is triggering for you? That is what needs to be looked at. Blaming them for your anger is misdirected energy and it only keeps you stuck in your own unconscious and distorted mindset.

Hate and anger is a dead give-away for a soul who is still unhealed. A conscious and healed being doesn’t need to react with hate and anger, they’re able to tap into the higher realms of compassion and empathy for those for whom they may disagree with.

Hate is too heavy a burden to carry. If you hold hate for anyone in your life, you’ll never be free. You will forever be bound to that person because you were unable to resolve the hatred you hold in your heart. And that hatred is a venom that will only poison your soul. Life is too short to be buried under your own hate. The opportunity is now to find your own healing so your healing can inspire the healing of our planet. Are you ready to heal?

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If You React to It

… you don’t understand it.

A reaction is an emotional response to some stimuli or trigger. If you become triggered, that trigger is yours. But when we lack consciousness, we immediately blame another for triggering us; we think it’s their fault.

We all come to this planet with certain life lessons (a.k.a. certain buttons to be pressed which help to bring up our issues). It’s your dance partner’s (lover, sibling, friend, boss, etc..) job to push those buttons so that your shadows can surface and you can identify your work and begin processing it.

Getting triggered is a gift if you are awake and conscious. It can be a living hell if you’re projecting it out onto another. If you feel the need to react with heated emotions, you have not allowed yourself to process the trigger properly. You’ve avoided doing the personal process work and conveniently chosen to project your failures onto another.

Are you easily triggered/angered these days? It’s no one else’s fault. There’s nothing to take offense to. The work lies within yourself. Whenever you feel justified in angrily blaming another, recognize that it is YOU who needs to look in the mirror.

If you’re reacting to it, you don’t understand it. Go deeply within yourself and ask yourself why you are so upset? What are you really reacting to?

Where there is consciousness, there can be healing. When you truly understand a comment and where it’s coming from, there’s no need to react to it. There is only space for calm discourse.

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Playing in the Shallow End

… doesn’t keep you safe.

It only provides you with a false sense of security.

It’s much easier for us to play in the superficial realm of life and never go deeper. We skim the surface of our consciousness and get stuck in the matrix playing out materiality and confusing it with progress.

Prioritizing material possessions as a symbol of success only keeps the true rewards of a “life well-lived” hidden from sight. The fact is that we are here to grow and evolve our souls, not get sucked into the vortex of materiality. The focus on material possessions as a means of seeking fulfillment only keeps us bound and trapped in lower karmic programming. It makes us a slave to our possessions. It doesn’t represent a true sense of abundance, which only comes from within, never outside you.

The truth is the deeper you go in your evolution, the darker it can get. Sometimes it’s hard to see the bottom. It doesn’t mean you’re going to drown; it only means there are shadows lurking beneath you that may need to be brought to the surface before you can get to the next level. Most people fear those depths. They fear going into that darkness because it’s painful to transmute. They prefer to stay in the shallow end where they feel safer. But the shallow end doesn’t keep you safe. It only makes the deep-end scarier.

At one point in our lives, we find ourself adrift in the deep-end without a raft. But once we are there and we have brought up to the surface our shadows, we find a serenity in the deep-end that we never knew possible. Fulfillment lies in the deep-end of life. Living in the shallow never gets you to the depths of yourself. You have to be willing to lose everything in order to gain more than you could have ever imagined. It’s called the dark night of the soul. That is the secret to personal fulfillment; it’s lies in the deep-end. How deep are you willing to go to find yourself?

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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

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You Can’t Change People

… who can’t see an issue in their behavior.

Not everyone is conscious. Not everyone has the ability to see how their actions affect others. If you have to tell someone over and over again that they’re hurting you, they are unable to process your pain, most likely because they haven’t processed their own. 

In order for them to honor your feelings, they first have to look at themselves in the mirror and accept responsibility for how they’ve made you feel. But for many, that reflection can be very painful and bring up other past failures. No one wants to feel responsible for hurting someone else and no one wants to feel like a failure; it’s much easier to just shut down and become defensive — “let me prove to you that I don’t need to change, you do.”

If someone is truly evolved, they know they are not responsible for how you feel, BUT they will always have a degree of empathy for your feelings and will always be able to honor them in whatever way they can. 

If they can’t hear your pain, you’ll never be able to get them to honor it. If you’re trying to communicate your feelings and they’re being defensive, walk away, sometimes silence can be the greatest teacher. If your words aren’t enough to help them hear you, then stop talking and give them the time and space to hear what you have already said.

You can’t change people who can’t see an issue in their behavior. You can’t get anyone to stop hurting you until they come face to face with their own pain. If they cannot change themselves, how are you ever going to change them? Life is too short to try and teach unconscious people how to honor your feelings. Walk away and in time the universe will deliver you someone who can honor your heart.

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Closing Doors to the Past

… is the only way to OPEN to your future.

It’s only when you close one door that another one opens. 

Closing the door on the past keeps your energy focused in the present. It shuts out the noise of the past and gives clarity in this moment.

When the door to the past is left open, energies get confused. It’s too easy to hear the cries of the past and be drawn back into it’s grasp. Be strong, softly close the door and open to the stillness of the present moment where you can hear the whisper of your soul.

If something or someone is in your past, it’s behind you. You can close the door on it. If it was meant to be in your present, it would be standing right in front of you and if it is meant to be part of your future, it will come and find you when it’s time.

Close the door on the past so you can get clear with your present. If your past is ever meant to come back to you, it will come knocking once it is healed. Until then, close the door on it — get still with yourself and look for the new open door that’s been waiting for you all along.

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How You Leave Things

… determines how you move forward.

In life, the way you leave relationships and situations determines the lasting influence they will have over you.

Do you walk away angry or resentful? If so, you’re still attached to that person/situation; you’re not emotionally free. Harboring negative emotions keeps you bound to the very person/situation you are trying to escape.

Do you leave with understanding and compassion? If so, you are beginning to cultivate a degree of detachment from the scenario that has you bound.

It’s all about how you let go. If you let go with negative emotions, those emotions keep you stuck reliving the drama and keeping the pain alive — it keeps reminding you that there’s no resolution.

If you can start looking at the constructive reasons for letting go and the ways it benefits you, you’ll be released from the clutches of attachment and begin to free yourself from the pain of the past.

How you leave things determines how you move forward… Don’t hold onto the pain of the past, you will only carry it with you. Learn to let go with love and that love will transform every new encounter you have.

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Having a Breakthrough

… generally entails having a BREAKDOWN first. 

They usually work hand-in-hand.

Our greatest breakthroughs usually come after we’ve completely surrendered control over our lives.

You have to be willing to break down all your mental constructs and expectations of the way you think things should be and be open to a new way of seeing things that might be BETTER than you ever even imagined.

Once you’ve suffered a breakdown of a certain aspect of your life, you’ve learned to let it go. You no longer have any judgements or expectations of it being the way you needed it to be. You are now free to allow it to become anything it is meant to become for you.

Life has a funny way of working things out for you. You don’t always know what is right for you. If you’re breaking down over something, it wasn’t working for you and holding onto something that isn’t working, only keeps you trapped. Letting it go and letting it subsequently break you down is what will inevitably lead you to the breakthrough you’re seeking.

Breakdowns are hard, but the breakthroughs they lead you to are priceless.  Don’t avoid the breakdown, it’s in place to show you that YOU ARE ALMOST THERE. Just when you think it couldn’t get any darker, that’s the moment when the light returns. Don’t run from the breakdown, let it transform you and let it bring on the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for all along.

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Shortcuts in Life

… take LONGER in the end.

There are no shortcuts to your own life experience.

Life builds onto itself everyday with every new experience and EVERY NEW EXPERIENCE IS NEEDED TO MOVE ONTO THE NEXT PHASE OF YOUR LIFE. 

Your life is a step-by-step amalgamation of your experiences, so if you don’t explore the wisdom of the phase you’re currently in, YOU’LL NEVER MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE.

Don’t try to shortchange yourself by taking a shortcut, it’ll just leave you empty-handed and stuck in the same place. If you’re not moving forward in your life, ask yourself if you’ve sufficiently cleaned out your emotional attic? Every experience we have comes with its own attic we’d rather not open.

Think about it, you can’t renovate your upstairs if you still haven’t cleaned out your attic. If you don’t learn from and let go of old experiences, how can you move forward and build a new living situation for yourself? You can’t.

Shortcuts may seem like a great idea in the short run, but in the long run they leave you at a dead-end. Don’t look for the easy way out. The easy way out is just that — EASY, it’s NEVER better. 

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Ask For What You Need

… or you’ll NEVER get it.

Speak up or you’ll NEVER be heard.

And ironically if you don’t, you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.

Things do not magically change because you want them to change. They change when you do something about it. The name of the game is communication – simple, direct and honest.

In life, YOU DO NOT GET WHAT YOU DO NOT ASK FOR. So start asking. It isn’t anyone else’s responsibility to give you what you need, it is your responsibility to honor yourself and ask for it. People cannot help you if you do not first help yourself by articulating your unhappiness and being clear about what it is you really need.

But our biggest problem is that we stay stuck in situations that no longer serve us and relationships that no longer nurture our growth. And we wonder why we are left unhappy and depressed? By living your life in a state of inertia, nothing can ever change until an act of will propels the situation forward.

Don’t waste your time blaming others for your unhappiness. If you can’t articulate yourself clearly then you will NEVER get your needs met and you can NEVER blame anyone else for it.

If something in your life needs to change, speak up or forever hold your peace. And don’t think you are doing others a favor by staying quiet, you are hurting everyone by keeping the peace. Your life and believe it or not, the lives of others, only improves when you decide to do something about your situation. How do you want to live you life?

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