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… keeps you locked in a nightmare.

Dancing with fear is always a choice. Fearful thoughts lock you into a lower vibrational state; they elicit negative emotions which keep you trapped and looping in a pain-induced reality. But that’s not the way we’re meant to live. Once we understand the role of our feelings, we can begin to master our true alignment.

Feelings are key to mastering fear.

Feelings are a vibrational gauge as to the level of your consciousness you are holding and how you feel, determines how in-phase or out-of-phase you are to your true self. So, if you are feeling fearful, you are out of alignment with your highest potential.

It’s all about perspective. You are always in control of your own alignment. So learn to take control over your fear. Don’t let yourself fall into fear, change the way you feel about it.

Instead of fearing a doomed potential, why not allow yourself to see it as a “Jedi-warrior training? “I am not afraid of this fear, I am here to master it.” To master anything you must learn to dance with it properly. Don’t look to run from your fears, look at them as opportunities to master your emotions.

Shifting out of a fearful state is as easy as finding a more positive feeling that you can feel good about. You are learning to dance a better dance with fear; one where you are the one leading. Controlling your feelings can help to control your emotions and give you control over that which you fear.

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… is in learning to get up faster.

We are all continually on a path of strength training and agility training because the fall is inevitable. It’s an integral part of how we humans learn and become better.

The secret to mastering the art of the fall, is to become highly agile and flexible so that when we do fall, we can move through the impact much more quickly and it doesn’t take us out.

In other words…

The harder you are on yourself, the harder it will be to come back from the fall.

The easier you can be on yourself, the more easefully you will come back from the fall.

Punishing or blaming yourself for your mistakes hardens you and locks you into a no-win position; whereas identifying the mistakes and using them as a benchmark for progress opens you up to mastery.

Learn to roll with the punches. If you are too rigid, those punches will knock you out. But if you’re able to ease up on your ego to get the lesson and get out, your agility/humility will catapult you forward.

No one likes to fall, but when you do so, learn to get up faster. Move through the curriculum of life’s lessons and stand strong so no one and nothing can ever push you over again.

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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

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… generates very different outcomes.

Fear and uncertainty are very different emotions and therefore create very different realities. Fear and uncertainty both represent a future that is unknown, but they will create very different futures based on their vibrational feedback.

Fear recognizes that the future is unknown yet anticipates the worst possible scenario and then stands back and activates it. 

Uncertainty also recognizes that the future is unknown yet holds the possibility that it might still yield a positive outcome. 

Uncertainty offers options for growth while fear assumes the worst. 

It’s ok to be cautious of the unknown, but it is never ok to fear it. Fear gives you no options — it’s  a death sentence. Recognize that the future is unknown but DON’T LABEL IT as fear; REDEFINE IT as uncertainty. 

Fear guarantees that that which you fear will ultimately reappear in your life. Uncertainty helps talk you off the ledge and encourages you to see the potential for positive outcomes.

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… doesn’t make things easier for you.

It makes them HARDER.

Things may not always go the way you intended them to go and that has to be ok. Sure it might be upsetting and sure you might have wished you’d done things differently, and sure you might’ve even tried another approach to fix things but unfortunately was unable. What do you do now?

You can’t change what’s done. Focusing on the disappointment of the past keeps you trapped there. Learning the lesson from that experience frees you to move on.

Learning what you will never do again is by far one of the most powerful lessons one can learn. Transformation is never easy. If it doesn’t hurt, it’ll probably never change you.

Being hard on yourself is never the answer. Transformation is hard work. If you beat yourself up over your learning process, you’ll just impede your growth. Mistakes make you better if you learn from them. Don’t waste your time lamenting those mistakes, use that time to apply the learning and make your future better because of it.

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… to WHAT’S RIGHT for you.

And it pulls you away from WHAT’S NOT.

The way to know whether something is working for you or not is to take a break from it. 

Sometimes we are too close to what’s right in front of us to be able to see it objectively. Space gives you the opportunity to see more clearly.

When you take a time out, it gives you time to check back in with yourself and re-evaluate the situation to see whether or not it is supportive of your needs. If you’re too close to something, you’ll never see it clearly.

Distance is the greater arbiter of justice. If a relationship is healthy, space makes the heart grow fonder. If it’s unhealthy, it’ll destroy it. 

There is a process to your life. Learn to trust it. Don’t waste your time forcing a decision. Take some space from it. If it’s right for you, the distance will bring you closer. If it’s not, the distance will rip it away from you — and that is always a process you can trust.

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…. it’s something you CREATE for yourself.

We’re so conditioned to expect something OUTSIDE of us to make us happy, but WAITING for something to make you happy will NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY because happiness isn’t something you get, it’s something you create for yourself. It’s A STATE OF MIND which you, yourself, cultivate and once internally cultivated, it has the power to transform you.

You always have a choice as to the emotion you are experiencing. EMOTIONS ARE BORN OUT OF YOUR THOUGHTS. If you’re focusing on thoughts that support despair or negativity, you’re fostering unhappiness. But if you focus on thoughts that inspire you, YOU’LL NATURALLY CREATE A STATE OF HAPPINESS WITHIN. In other words, you’ll soon feel better because you’ve influenced your mind to do so.

Your thoughts dictate whether or not you’ll experience happiness. If you’re thinking a thought that is NOT making you happy, CHANGE IT until it does. And if it’s impossible to alter that thought, then shut it down and replace it with a thought that feels better to you. By creating a happier state of mind, the world relates to you differently — remember when you’re happy, the world smiles with you and when you’re sad, you cry alone. 

Happiness is your birthright. But you have to first learn to cultivate it from within. If you’re still waiting for external events outside of you to make you happy, you’ll be waiting an eternity. Don’t give your power over to any person or situation for your happiness. Take control of your thoughts and shift your emotions. When you learn to find ANY reason to be happy — you’ll have EVERY reason to be happy. 

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… certainty is already defined.

Most of us fear uncertainty because of its inherent promise of change. But isn’t it much better to be uncertain of where you are than to be certain you are in the wrong place?

Uncertainty brings options. Certainty brings confirmation. Certainty is limited in its potential to please you, but anything can come out of uncertainty.

With uncertainty, the decision is not yet made. Therefore within the uncertainty, there is lots of potential; it just needs to be embraced and embarked upon.

Certainty is already decided for you. Uncertainty gives you a myriad of options if you’re brave enough to explore them. If you can dream it, it can be an uncertain probable outcome.

Don’t fear the uncertainty; embrace it — it’s bringing you to a future which is still yet undefined. Don’t hide from it, make it yours. Grab the uncertainty and get excited at the potential that awaits you. ALWAYS better to be uncertain where you are then to be certain you are in the wrong place. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… is a step closer towards success.

But we were never taught that.

We view failure as a setback, but in reality “failure” is NOT a setback, but a necessary “step-BACK” along our path towards success. Sometimes it’s necessary to step back in life to regroup and re-calibrate so that we can move forward in a stronger, more definitive way.

It’s important to understand that success is very rarely a steady trajectory upwards. By it’s definition, it’s frought with many step-backs — it has to be. After all, if you didn’t know failure, how could you ever really come to know success?

Our lives are about taking 1-step forward, 2-steps back and it’s the steps-back that enable us to “re-trace” our steps in order to do things better next time. The steps back allow you to process the wisdom you’ve already garnered and make some new decisions with it.

Failure is never falling short of your goal — it’s part of the process it takes to get there. When you learn what doesn’t work, you begin to understand more about what will work. Rejoice in your failures, they innately set you up onto a more solid foundation moving forward. The only way to get to the next highest mountain top is to come down the side of the mountain you’re on. Don’t fight the downhill slide, use that experience to go higher up the next mountain.

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… it’s how quickly you can catch yourself.

We all fall. The cycle of life has many ups and downs. After all, what goes up must come down. Falling down isn’t the issue — learning to land more gracefully is.

How do you weather your falls? Do you crash and burn? Or do you catch yourself so you do not go down in flames? We innately understand how to catch ourselves when we trip over a curb, but we somehow get tripped up over our falls in life.

Falling isn’t the issue, it’s what we do once we fall that determines where we will end up. Are you adept at catching yourself and making it look like a seamless step or do you allow that stumble to bring you to your knees in tears for everyone to see.

Falling doesn’t have to mean falling apart. It can also mean falling into something new. Don’t buy into the drama of the fall, pretend that it was an intentional measure to showcase your strength and fortitude. What doesn’t kill you will always make you stronger as long as you manage to get up off the floor and keep moving.

Don’t get tripped up over the fall. Learn how to make a dance out of it. Be easy with yourself. Be light. And the next time you fall, it will not take you out; it will only make you laugh.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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