Your Problem is Never a Person

… it’s in learning what that person came to teach you. 

But no one ever teaches us that.

Why do we make it all about the other person? It doesn’t matter what that person does to you or what that person says to you/doesn’t say to you — however unpleasant the circumstances may be. It only matters what you learn from that person and how you make your life BETTER because of them.

We tend to get caught up in the drama-trauma zone of our lives and we become the victims of what others do/say to us. But it can never be about them. Our lives are ABOUT US and if those people are in our lives, we should only be interested in the affect their presence has over us. 

When we learn that no one has control over our lives unless we give it, everything shifts for us. 

Remember in life, it’s never about a person, they are just the relationship villain in place to teach you something about yourself. It’s about what you take away from that person that makes all the difference in the world. Get the lesson and get out; make your life better because they were in it. 

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If Something Is Right For You

… it FEELS right.

You just know it. It doesn’t have to make sense.

In life, it’s all about what you FEEL, not what you KNOW — believe it or not.

In our daily lives, we tend to make decisions from our head, not our heart; therein is our problem.

Decision making can be complicated — our first thought is always from the heart/the intuition/the soul — it gets you excited and enthusiastic about a course of action — “I can do this, I can leave my job and start something new for myself.”

The second thought is born of the head/fear/the ego — it quickly comes in to override your creative impulse and give you every reason why it CAN’T be done — “I can’t do this, I don’t have enough money saved, I don’t have the education or the experience, etc…”

The head is limiting. The heart is expansive.

The head will keep you small by “keeping you safe” while the heart will push you to take chances and will expand you beyond your comfort zone where greatness awaits.

A safe life will NEVER make you great. When making a decision ask yourself WHAT FEELS RIGHT — NOT WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT. The right answer is always in HOW YOU FEEL, NOT WHAT YOU KNOW.

Allow yourself to feel your way though your life and if something resonates with you, move in that direction. The resources and the know-how will always follow. You are never without your own guidance system. You will always know if something is right for you because of the way it makes you feel. How are you feeling today?

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Chasing the Years of Your Life

… doesn’t get you very far.

LIVING IT does.

Believe it or not, we spend most of our waking lives, ASLEEP – completely sleepwalking – repeating the same patterns that haven’t served us year after year and wondering why happiness always eludes us?

We wake up from our slumber some 10-years, 20-years later and ask, “how did I get here?”

Here’s the deal… racing your way through life doesn’t get you anywhere IF YOU ARE RUNNING IN CIRCLES. But no one ever tells us that. They just encourage us to keep running – to keep competing – to keep surviving.

The years go by and we keep running just “to keep up”, but never asking ourselves, “where are we running to?”

Do YOU know where you are going in life? Have you set the course or is the course driving you? Who’s in charge? If you do not know, you might just wake up from your run and realize you do not want to be where you ended up. Somehow the race took you off-path – off YOUR LIFE PATH, that is. But in reality, was it the path that led you astray or was it your unconscious decision to follow that path, the problem?

Chasing the years of your life keeps you running in circles. Stop running just to keep up and START asking yourself if you are even ON THE RIGHT PATH. Start there. Set your own life course and consciously follow it everyday. If you do that, you will never regret the path you find yourself on. It is the path you chose with absolute certainty; not the one you absent-mindedly found yourself on.

The years of your life go so quickly. How do you want to spend them? Chasing those lost years or driving the years you want to be living? When you are ready to stop blindly running and start mindfully living, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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Living Outside Your Comfort Zone

… is where the magic happens.

Because magic only lives in the realm of the unexpected. If it’s expected, it’s ordinary. To be extraordinary, one must find themselves OUTSIDE the expected.

Everyone wants magic, but not many are willing to step outside the safe, orderly haven of expectation and routine. Comfort zones dominate our decision making processes and therefore limit our potential for greatness. Comfort zones control our dreams and passions and stuff them into the small, safe and controllable boxes of routine which suffocates the spirit.

Nothing amazing is ever created within a comfort zone. Creativity can never fluorish within narrow confines of human thought. Boundaries must be pushed – walls must be torn down – and risks must be taken – in order for real magic to infiltrate our existence.

Do you believe in magic? Do you believe that magic exists for you? Staying in your comfort zone will never invite the energies of magic to dance with you. Comfort zones keep you safe, they do not make you great. 

Strive to be extraordinary. Get out of the ordinary box, leave your comfort zone behind and open up to the magic all around you. Challenge yourself to get out of that comfort zone and do something/be something amazing. Life is to short to sit back and accept mediocrity. Allow yourself to break through your confines and create the magic that you seek. You were never meant to stay safe, you were always meant to achieve greatness. What are you waiting for? You are the only one standing in your way.

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Sleepwalking Your Way Through Your Life

… will always leave you in a place you do NOT want to be.

How could it leave you anywhere else?

No one consciously sets out to sleepwalk. It is an unconscious programming – an unconscious walk throughout your life. If you are NOT consciously looking at your behavior and how you are showing up in life, then you are sleepwalking your way through it and most likely will wake up in a place you didn’t mean to be in.

Why is that the case? Because sleepwalking is unconscious. And only conscious behavior can bring you to where you want to be in your life. Sleepwalking only purports negative programming as it encourages repetitive deconstructive cycles – as in nighttime eating and dangerous walking, etc. Sleepwalking doesn’t get you ahead. It keeps you stuck in negative cycles.

If you are not looking at your behavioral patterns and questioning how it is you got to where you are in your life, then you are NOT doing the work of conscious walking. You are most likely reacting unconsciously to what is going on for you and subsequently sleepwalking your way through it.

You can keep blaming everyone else for the bad that happens in your life or you can wake up today from your debilitating slumber and realize that you have brought it all on yourself and decide that you want to change it. People who sleepwalk blame others for waking up naked outside. People who are awake acknowledge that they have some issues that are causing them to want to take off their clothes and run naked through the streets in their sleep and as a result, they begin to do the work on healing those issues so they can break the pattern.

Wake up, your life is too short to sleepwalk it away. Get back into the driver’s seat of your life and vow to identify your patterns and make the decision to address your issues more consciously. Personal transformation starts with the recognition that you want to WAKE UP TO YOUR LIFE. It is happening right here, right now and the sooner you can wake up and recognize that the decisions you may have made thus far are not serving you, the sooner you can make decisions that will better serve you.

Are you ready to wake up and own your life or are you still sleepwalking? Any time you are ready to stop hitting the snooze button, your life will truly begin.

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If You Do Not Like Where You’re Going

… rewrite your story.

After all, it’s YOURS to rewrite.

We all have a story. Our stories define our lives, but we forget that we are the authors of our stories and that we can rewrite our stories whenever we like.

You are never trapped in your story, if you do not like the chapter you find yourself in, rewrite a new ending – one that better fits you, one that better excites you, one that helps you make amends to the past and inspires you towards a better future.

It doesn’t matter where you have found yourself in your story, you can decide in this moment to change it. You are in full control and can change your story on a dime. If your past is harassing you, erase it and rewrite a new history for yourself and in your next moment, it will become your reality. If you do not like how you have shown up for yourself or others, start now and rewrite your role. Be the YOU you want to be and don’t feel imprisoned by the you you’ve been all along.

If you do not like what you are looking at, change it. You have a general script in place which is your destiny/fate. But you were given free will and that gives you the pencil/eraser to change any and all of it whenever you like. You are never bound to your story, you are always free to explore the parameters of your dreams.

What is holding you up? You are the only one keeping yourself stuck in a story that you’ve outgrown. When you decide to allow yourself to be happy, you will rewrite your story and allow yourself the opportunity to live the life you truly want to live, not the life you consequently find yourself living. There is a difference.

You hold the pen, you are the author, if you are unhappy with what is going on in your life, rewrite your story. Your story begins and ends with you. Why would you give anyone else the pen?

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The Story You Tell Yourself

… makes up the story of your life.

What stories are you telling yourself?

We all tell ourselves stories. They are usually the stories of our limitations… “I am not good enough to get that promotion,” “It’s too risky to start my own business, I have a family to feed,” “I am unhappy in my relationship but at my age what if I never meet anyone else?”

These stories we tell ourselves keep us small and stuck in repetitive cycles. They keep us from taking chances in life. They keep us from becoming great.

The stories you tell yourself create your reality. They are based in fear so they manifest very quickly and only succeed in creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Are you buying into your fears or are you going to buy into your dreams/aspirations?

If your stories aren’t working for you, change them. Dream up a new story for yourself. One that empowers you and one that will create a better outcome for you moving forward. Your life is your story and if you are bored with the chapter or if it is no longer inspiring you, don’t just shut down and accept that that is your “lot in life.” Make a change. Create a new story and work towards its realization.

Life is to short to tell yourself disempowering stories. Do you want those stories to become the story of your life? Probably not. Time to get creative and learn to start living the real story of your life – the one that depicts your highest goals and dreams. What other story do you want to tell?

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Donnalynn’s NEW BOOK is Now Available on Amazon!

Well, it is finally here! My NEW BOOK, “Life Lessons: Everything You Ever Wished You Had Learned in Kindergarten: is NOW AVAILABLE on AMAZON.COM for pre-sell!! It will be available at Barnes & Nobles and other major booksellers and for E-readers in the coming weeks! Stay tuned! ‪

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Doubting Yourself

… will make you crazy.

You already know what is right for you. It is built into your soul. Your intuition tells you right off the bat everything you need to know about a new person or a new situation. But do we every listen to it?

We are so conditioned to use our minds to process situations but that takes us out of our own intuitive guidance. Do you want to know if someone or something is right for you? Your answer is always in the first 30 seconds of contemplating the situation. Are you excited about it? Does it raise passion in you? Do you feel comfortable with this person? The soul gives you an intuitive answer right away. But it is the mind that steps in and re-evaluates things and causes complications, indecision and frustrations.

Don’t doubt yourself. Listen to yourself and stop the mind from overthinking, it takes you further away from what is right for you. If your intuition is pointing you in a direction, don’t doubt it – especially if it doesn’t make sense. Our intuitive guidance rarely makes sense, but it is there to help guide us in the right direction.

If you allow your mind to rationalize your life, it will run you all over the map. The only truth is spoken in your intuition. Listen to it; it will never lead you astray. Doubting your intuitive guidance will only make you crazy; listen to it and you will NEVER make a mistake.

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Miracles Happen

… and they happen everyday.

Especially at the New Year. If you want this year to be different, set your intention for it to be so and BELIEVE in it.

You can have anything you want in life – if you are clear in setting your intention for it and if you put your faith/belief in it. It’s very simple. Everything is energy and if your energy is clearly directed, and it’s placed with belief/faith, it will yield many gifts/surprises.

But if your energy very easily falls into patterns of disillusionment, disbelief and fear of not having enough, then your energy will be blocked and miracles will NEVER happen. Remember, you get what you put your energy into. If you are focusing on the negativity and pain in your life, you will never manifest the love and miracles you desire. Shift your vibration and put that high energy into believing in your ability to manifest your dreams and they will come true for you.

Believe in yourself. Believe in the love you have for yourself and know that you are worthy beyond measure of having your own miracles. Every being is worthy of having their own miracles, they just need to get out of their own way in order to bring those miracles to life. Miracles only happen where love, faith and belief are present.

Close the door on fear. If you stop believing, you will never see any magic. And it’s definitely the year for magic and miracles. What are the miracles you want to see in your life? It’s your time to shine. Miracles happen… and they happen everyday. Be realistic and expect them. Isn’t it about time?

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