In Order to Find Yourself

… you have to step outside the crowd.

And that’s never comfortable.

No one likes to step outside the known reality/the consensus reality because we falsely believe that there is “safety in numbers,” so we religiously “follow the herd.” We figure, “they must know something we don’t,” so we join them because we figure “it is better to be part of something than to stand idle alone.” But this is the greatest misnomer of our time.

Truth is, no individual can know themselves within the context of a group. The group dictates a standard that phase-locks individuals to a false identity. Therefore, one has to get outside the group in order to see their own colors, otherwise the group dynamic will muddy those colors.

Many of us get lost in the crowd and identify ourselves as part of the crowd. But who you truly are can never be identified if you are hiding in the crowd. In order to be who you are, you must step outside the crowd and stand in your own light. And that is what scares most of us and consequently what leads most of us to stay hidden in the crowd. No one wants the spotlight shown upon them.

Are you ready to be seen? Are you ready to take a stand for your self and your soul? Get out of the darkness and step into your light.

These days, the crowd is increasingly breaking down and the time is coming to make your own road home. Are you ready to chart your individual course? The universe is waiting on you.

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When You Are Alone

… you can see where you are. 

When you are surrounded by others, your view is blocked. 

I used to think I knew who I was and how I fit into the whole when I lived in NYC, but in reality, I couldn’t see anything. 

When you are alone, you have clear sight. But when you are surrounded by others, your view becomes muddied. It’s muddied because you only see yourself as a reflection of someone else. You do not have true clarity. True clarity only comes when you only see you. Anyone else around you is just a distraction from you knowing yourself. 

Most of us never know who we truly are. We are too busy competing with others around us (on social media) trying to prove to ourselves that we are better than them. But when you are constantly comparing yourself to those around you, you lose a bit of yourself. You turn that energy over to others and no longer have access to it. You give them your power. And why would you do that? Why would you not keep the integrity of your own power?

People can become distractions, albeit beautiful distractions, to us finding our way in the world. If you truly want to know yourself, step away from the crowd. You are not them. You will just get swallowed up and lost in that crowd.

Being alone is a chance to re-align yourself to who you truly are. When you no longer have the distractions of others, you can better see where you are headed.

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Imposter Syndrome

… challenges the fabric of who you are.

Imposter syndrome only challenges those who are brave enough to take themselves out of the matrix. Those are the individuals who no longer want to work for the corporate machine. They are those who know their hearts and know that their life’s work is higher than sitting in an oppressed cubicle day in and day out.

These beings take a chance on themselves.

They follow a higher calling.

They risk putting their reputations on the line.

They risk financial ruin.

Why?

Because they believe in something higher. Those who dream about being something greater in the world or contributing something greater to the world are those who are susceptible to imposter syndrome. Those who dream and aim higher, soar. Those who accept the status quo, stay safe but never rise into their highest potential.

You only doubt yourself when you challenge the system. Everyone feels like an imposter when they are trying to break out of a mold that suffocates them.

You have to really believe in yourself to go to bat for yourself. You have to be willing to fight the notion that you are somehow less than someone else who doesn’t bat for themselves.

Imposter syndrome challenges the very fabric of who you are. Down to the core. If you’re not strong enough to believe in yourself, you will never step into greatness. Imposters buck the system and take it down so they can create their own place within it. We are all secretly imposters who are trying to create something out of nothing and we only feel like imposters because it has never been done before the way we are doing it. And because we know that the something we are creating is something the world has been waiting for. #beanimposter

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If You Don’t Make Space

… you won’t have space for it.

Transitions can be disorienting. No one really likes change, especially when it is thrust onto you. But change represents growth and that is the life force that propels us forward in our lives.

The thing about change is that if you don’t clear a space for the newness that you are seeking, you will have no space for it when it arrives.

You have to let go of what you are holding onto in order to accept something new. But we don’t do that, we generally hold onto what isn’t working until it finally drags us to the floor and we unwittingly surrender our grasp.

You have to let go of what isn’t working to create the space for what will. You can’t have both. In times of transition, you have to trust that what doesn’t feel right, is no longer right for you. 

Learn to let your intuition guide you. If it feels good, move in that direction. If it doesn’t feel good, move away from that direction and let it go. Once you let go of what no longer feels right, the universe can replace it with something that IS right. 

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Feeling Lost

… is the best way to find yourself.

When you’re surrounded by others, it’s too easy to get lost in the crowd.

It’s so easy for us to get caught up in social and community groups that can give us a sense of purpose and belonging. But that can be a false sense of identity. True knowledge of self is only found within the confines of one’s own heart and one’s own being. It’s much easier to hide behind the cache of a group, then it is to stand apart from the crowd and be yourself.

You don’t have to have all the answers in life, you have only to stand up within yourself and be open to exploring the unknown. 

When you get still within yourself, answers always come. The feeling of being lost is a gift that opens you up to true vulnerability and within that vulnerability, you can dive deep into the vastness of your own being.

No one wants to feel lost, but if you allow yourself to go deep into the loneliness, you might just find who and what you were searching for all along. The answers you seek are never outside, but always lie within you.

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Dancing With Your Demons

… is easier than trying to lasso them to the ground.

It just is.

Think about it… when your demons come up (and they always do), it’s much harder to suppress them then it is to face them and renegotiate with them.

It takes so much emotional and physical strength to wrestle your demons back down when you see them come up. Then you have to be careful where you tread because you will naturally run into situations and people who trigger those demons. It’s exhausting to try and hypercontrol your life so to avoid awakening your demons. Better to face them when they come up and renegotiate a better plan for them.

When you address your demons straight on, you can learn from them, grow from them and transform them once and for all. No one says it will be easy, but it is the healthiest way to deal with those demons.

Don’t let your demons destroy you; they are very purposeful. They allow you to acknowledge the darkness, for it is only through your darkness that you can transform yourself into the light.

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An Ending is NEVER an Ending

… it’s ALWAYS the beginning of something new.

It has to be.

One door can’t close without another one opening. Everything is energy and that energy doesn’t just go away; it needs to be redirected. Energy doesn’t just stop; it transitions into something else. 

Endings must always lead somewhere new because life is cyclical and change is constant. Nothing ever stays the same. The seeds of what’s ending always fertilize a new beginning. So the question is never “what have I lost” it is “what will I create next?”

An ending is never an ending, it’s always the beginning of something new. Your work is not to lament the ending, but to focus on creating a new and better beginning.

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Searching For Yourself

… helps you to discover who you really are.

Finding yourself is a life-long journey and it starts with the search for clarity — “Who am I? What makes me happy? What’s my purpose? Why do people treat me the way they do?”

We all ask these questions but why ask them if we’re not willing to hear the answers and act upon them?

When you’re consciously walking through your life, you’re awake. You get it. You see it. You feel it. You don’t ignore it. You don’t push it aside and brush it under the rug. You listen to it, integrate it and transform because of it.

But when you’re sleepwalking your way through your life, you miss all the significance and you miss the simple synchronicities that are meant to transform you and the path you’re walking.

Pay attention to your life, it’s trying to tell you something. There’s a rhyme and reason for every situation and every person you encounter in life. And the more you understand that, the better your life gets. And the sooner you understand that, the faster the rewards come.

There’s a deeper meaning to your life if you’re willing to be conscious of it. The universe is always whispering the answers to you, you just have to become adept to hearing the responses and identifying the next step.

You’re never alone and you’re never without answers. The universe gives you several spiritual tools to help you to understand who you are and why your life is unfolding the way it is. Life is a process of uncovering yourself. Are you still hiding from yourself or are you ready to be found. Whenever you’re ready, the rest of your life is waiting to begin.

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It’s Only Through the Light of Others

… that we can truly see OURSELVES.

Searching for the self in isolation is a daunting task.

You only know who you are IN RELATIONSHIP to another human being. People are mirrors to us. They magnify back to us where we stand within ourselves.

We may not always be able to see ourselves clearly, but our reflection through others will show us how we are showing up in the world. And that reflection is our contribution to the whole.

We are all one. We come from one source and we are on a path towards unified consciousness. When one of us benefits, we all benefit. When one of us suffers, we all suffer.

There is strength in community and there is strife in isolation. We are not here to be alone. We are here to strengthen the collective consciousness. So know that blowing out someone else’s candle, will never make yours burn brighter. 

Don’t resist others, they are there to help you remember who you are and that you are part of the whole. For without the light of others, we’d be left standing in the dark alone.

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Wherever You Go, You Take Yourself With You

… where else would you go?

We all have our personal issues and they always seem to show up through the dance of relationship.

We are very quick to identify other people’s issues, but not as quick to identify our own.

When a breakdown in relationship occurs, there’s a natural tendency to blame and point fingers. But that’s the easy way out. In reality, it takes 2 to tango; issues are seldom one-sided. Learn to own what’s yours and give the rest back. 

You can jump out of a relationship when problems occur, but they’ll just follow you onto the next relationship because wherever you go, you take yourself with you. You pack up all your issues, sling them over your shoulder and bring them forward into the next relationship.

Our bags are pretty full and they’re weighing us down. Wouldn’t it be easier to unpack them, go through them and separate the dirty laundry from the clean? It’s more discreet and constructive to store our baggage in our new partner’s guest closet than it is to explode our dirty laundry all over their front foyer.

Do your work. Own what’s yours and give the rest back. No one is responsible for healing you. You can run from your problems, but you can’t run from yourself. It’ll just be a matter of time before you get caught.

Wherever you go, you take yourself with you. Life can be a long and exhaustive journey. Better to travel light and learn to check your emotions. 

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