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… doesn’t mean you are finished with it.

We think just because it’s behind us that we’re done with our past. But the past doesn’t work that way. The past is only in our past if we have learned what we needed to learn from it and subsequently let it go.

How do you know if you have let it go? You are no longer attached to it.

So if it’s in your past, but you’re still angry about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still upset about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still hurting over it, you’re still attached to it.

If after all this time, you’re still having a strong emotional response to that person or event, then clearly you are still attached to it and therefore NOT finished with it. For better or worse, it’s very much still alive in your mind and heart.

You cannot run from your past. Unfortunately if you do not deal with it, it will always come back. Your past has a funny way of finding you when it is time to deal with something you’ve buried. So when your past comes back to you, it’s NEVER an unfortunate mishap, it’s the universe’s way of providing you with another opportunity for closure. Take it.

Just because a chapter of your life closes, doesn’t mean you are finished with it. Learn to not only close it, but find the closure in it.

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letting-go-hands… to make room for what WILL.

You can’t have both.

Nor do you want both!

All too often we make the mistake of packing up WHAT DIDN’T WORK FOR US that year and dragging it forward into the new year thinking that it will somehow be different? But it NEVER is.

Chances are if something has been troublesome for you for awhile, it’s time for you to LET IT GO. Continued struggle is never a trajectory for success.

Stop the struggle. Learn to trust the process of your life. It will always bring you to where you need to be; you don’t have to control it. But you just have to be brave enough to know when it’s time to walk away and surrender.

If something didn’t work for you in this calendar year, LEAVE IT THERE. Put your focus on creating something BETTER for yourself. Even if you don’t know what that means just yet. It’s always better to start with nothing then to start off the year behind the 8-ball with the same drama. Why put yourself on that same road when you know exactly where that road leads?

The new year is a time for change. Don’t waste it packing up what didn’t work and dragging it into the new year. You don’t have enough space to find new answers if you are fighting the same dysfunction. Make some new year’s resolutions and resolve yourself to making them a reality. Get out of the way of yourself and let go of what was not working for you this year, so you truly have the space to find what will work.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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straight-flush… but you can ALWAYS change the way you play them.

And that’s EVERYTHING.

Sometimes we get caught up with the cards we’re dealt. Maybe they haven’t put us in a very favorable position? Maybe they haven’t set us up for success? Maybe they are presenting obstacles to our progress? Maybe… maybe…? But it doesn’t matter. You can’t change the cards you’ve been dealt, but you can absolutely change the way you play them and that ALWAYS determines your NEXT experience.

Bet you didn’t know that.

A hand is just a hand; the winning strategy is in the game plan. It doesn’t matter what you’ve been dealt in life, all that matters is that you play it to the best of your ability with integrity, authenticity and tenacity. Then your work is done.

Sure you can blame the cards you’re holding for the disarray in your life, but that NEVER serves you. The cards will NOT change for you, but you can get smart as to how you play them. Here’s the secret: playing a smart hand will bring you to an even better place then a great hand could have ever yielded.

Learn to stop lamenting a bad hand, and learn to accept the challenge of playing it. Life is too short to blame the hand you’ve been dealt. Recognize that a bad hand will always make you a better player. It can be no other way.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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getting-knocked-down… get yourself right back up again.

It doesn’t matter WHO knocked you down, WHY they knocked you down or HOW they knocked you down, if you’re down, it’s your responsibility to get yourself back up. No one else can do it for you.

You may not be in control of getting knocked down, but you are certainly in control of staying there. Staying on the ground is a choice. And it’s a choice that will ALWAYS keep you down.

Don’t focus on the drama of being knocked down. It’s just a story you tell yourself. Learn to re-frame that story to find the empowerment behind it. Pick yourself up, pick up the pieces, and put them back together the best way you know how in that moment and keep moving forward.

Sitting on the ground in the rain, just gets you wet. Learn to pick yourself up and run for shelter. You just have to decide that you want better for yourself. Get up and give yourself half a chance to find it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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stepping-backward… not backwards.

Bet you didn’t know that.

Setbacks are a necessary step along the path of life. They are your indication that the path you’ve been traveling is no longer working for you.

A setback literally STEPS YOU BACK from moving ahead in a given direction. It forces a timeout to get still within yourself and take stock of the direction you are going. A setback is never a punishment to who you are, it’s a recalibration of the path you’ve been traveling.

If you experience a setback, the universe is clearly telling you that it is NOT in your best interest to proceed in that direction. It helps to clarify that it is NEVER a SETBACK but a STEP BACK in order to take stock of where you are/where you are going. The STEP BACK puts your life momentarily on PAUSE. That pause is very purposeful because it demands that you re-chart a new path which is much better suited to your needs and desires.

The setback is NEVER SETTING YOU BACK. It’s only SETTING YOU UP for a much better path, if you can heed it. Setbacks move you forward, not back. Recognize that the setback is a protection against moving in the wrong direction, so allow it to guide you towards a new direction which will be more satisfying for you. You are never being SETBACK in your life, you are only being SET UP for the future that awaits you – you only need to allow yourself to be open to it. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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feeling pain… running from it is.

Believe it or not, pain isn’t a bad thing. It’s actually an indication that you are learning and growing. All growth requires some level of discomfort; it is called “growing pains.” This pain is inevitable and it signifies the emotional hard work and challenges that we all face day-to-day and for which we valiantly (hopefully) overcome.

But for some reason we try and avoid feeling this pain… we try and avoid it at all costs. But what we really do not understand is that avoiding the pain doesn’t make your life any better, it only intensifies the experience of the pain later on. Why? Because you can only stave off the lesson causing the pain for so long before it comes back with a vengeance. It’s just a matter of time before that lesson will come calling again and when it does, trust me, it means business.

Do yourself a favor. Don’t run from your life by hiding from your pain. Your escapism strategies (drugs, alcohol, food, tv, internet, sleeping, shopping, sex, etc..) only guarantee that you will get hit HARDER later on. Work through the pain when it presents itself the first time – get the lesson and get out so you can move forward with the rest of your life.

The pain isn’t there to torture you unduly so, it is there to enrich you and make you better. Pain is your friend. Go towards it and see what it has for you. When you allow yourself to fully go into the experience of the pain, you very quickly transform it and life gets better very easily. When you avoid that pain, you prolong and perpetuate the feelings of the pain for a very long time. Don’t wallow in your pain, do something about it. Stare it in the face and stare it down. Your life is too short to get shut out by your own pain. Feeling pain is never the problem, running from it always is.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th… unless you make it that way.

These are two completely different concepts. Do you know the difference?

Being alone assumes one loves themselves and fully enjoys and appreciates themselves. They are comfortable in their skin, emotionally well-adjusted and although they enjoy the company of others, they are quite contented to be alone and find just as much happiness and fulfillment in their aloneness.

Being lonely is when you are not comfortable within yourself, when your own company isn’t quite enough to soothe or entertain you. It is when you require someone or something outside of you to make you happy because you cannot find that happiness within yourself. It is when you default to any type of distraction (drugs, alcohol, food, tv, sleep, etc…) to keep you from feeling your own pain and loneliness because the solitude of being on your own is simply too painful to bear.

Running from yourself will always keep you lonely. Embracing yourself will always keep you fulfilled. Regardless of the image staring back at you in the mirror, learn to love it, learn to appreciate it and learn to honor it every day. Self love is your best and only real companion.

Do you want to be alone or continually feel lonely? The choice is yours. But nothing changes until you learn to love your own company, if you don’t, how can you ever ask someone else to?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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