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… loves WITHOUT conditions.

Anything else is conditional love which is predicated on meeting specific conditions…

Are they educated? check.

Are they the right age? check.

Are they the right body weight? check.

Do they make enough money? check.

Do they have the right social standing? check.

Will they make me look good in public? check.

But what if they didn’t tick these boxes? What then? What if you loved them anyway? Now there’s a dilemma.

But here’s what you need to know…

Conditional love is superficial. Unconditional love is eternal.

Conditional love falls apart when the conditions cease to exist. Unconditional love is free to grow because it’s not predicated on a condition.

Conditional love is choked by it’s own expectations. Unconditional love doesn’t have expectations, but remains open and hopeful.

Conditional love is about “ticking all the boxes.” Unconditional love abandons all requirements.

Conditional love looks to have all its needs met. Unconditional love looks to meet all needs.

Conditional love is selfish, self-centered and unilateral. Unconditional love is selfless and giving.

Conditional love is emotionally immature. Unconditional love is built on maturity and wisdom.

Conditional love is rigid and doesn’t like to take risks. Unconditional love is flexible and lives outside its comfort zone.

Conditional love suffocates under self-imposed rules. Unconditional love is freeing and knows no boundaries.

Conditional love is what you think you want. Unconditional love is what you never knew you wanted.

Unconditional love sneaks up on you — it shows up through a back door while you are at the front door waiting for something else.

Unconditional love is what was standing in front of you all along while you were busy ticking all your boxes and evaluating all your options.

Unconditional love is usually “the one that got away” while you were busy searching out the perfect conditions for it.

Unconditional love loves unconditionally. Anything else just doesn’t cut it. Ask yourself — how do you love?

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… until you don’t have any fight left.

If there is someone or something you want in life, you fight for it. Otherwise you lose it.

How do you know it’s worth fighting for?

If its presence in your life makes you better, makes you happier, lifts you, supports you and challenges you to think of things in a new way — it’s worth fighting for.

If its presence in your life doesn’t shift your consciousness, doesn’t make you feel happy & supported, doesn’t uplift you, doesn’t push you beyond yourself, and doesn’t encourage you to be a better version of yourself — it’s not worth the fight.

Just because it’s difficult DOESN’T MEAN it’s NOT worth fighting for.

Anything worth the fight is worth fighting for. And anything difficult that’s worth fighting for, is challenging your sense of commitment and dedication.

If something is right for you, there will always be solutions. If it is NOT right for you, options will seem impossible.

Listen to how you feel. Your emotions tell you everything you need to know about what is right for you. If it feels right to you, fight and fight harder; if it doesn’t feel right and you’re exhausted and depleted, walk away and give the situation time to heal.

Don’t give up the fight until you’ve lost your will to fight. Decide what is worth fighting for, put forth your best effort, and let the universe do the rest. Answers ALWAYS come when YOU DON’T GIVE UP THE FIGHT. 

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th-1… rewrite a new one.

We all have our own stories about our lives – past, present and future. But what we don’t realize is that we are in control of those stories. If we feel they are limiting us or holding us back, we can rewrite them and give them a new ending.

You are never controlled by your story, you are the author of it and it’s yours to rewrite over and over again. In other words, you’re never limited by the circumstances of your life, because you’re creating them at every juncture. So if you do not like how your story’s been playing out, reframe it, see it from a different perspective, one which empowers you, rather than disempowers you.

Just because something is true, doesn’t mean it has to become your truth. If it doesn’t fit your vision of who you are/who you want to be, then rewrite it. You may not be where you want to be in your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept being in a hole either.

Is your glass half empty or half full? It’s the same glass with the same water content, the only difference is the story you have given it. And the story you’ve given it always determines its outcome.

Learn to hold the highest story of yourself. Don’t allow yourself to be limited by your shortlist of shortcomings. Your glass is always half full, and if it’s not, rewrite the story until it is. How you see things is HOW THEY WILL SHOW UP FOR YOU. The stories we tell ourselves inevitably become our reality whether we want them to or not.

Nobody wants to hear the same story over and over again, especially if it’s a story of victimhood. You are only limited by the story you tell yourself. So, if your story is holding you back from greatness, rewrite it until it brings you the greatness you deserve.

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th…runs you in circles.
It keeps you in a self-imposed loop of doubt. When in reality, you knew the right answer all along.

Listen to yourself. Your FIRST impression is ALWAYS the right one. It comes from your intuitionyour heart, your inner knowing, you inner feeling – without bias, without overthinking it.

Your 2nd impression comes from the mind. It intervenes and tries to interject an element of FEAR or CONTROL into the situation to give it substantiation, negation or rationalization.

Don’t make yourself crazy. If it feels right, IT IS RIGHT. If it doesn’t feel right somehow, it will never change for you. Your intuition always knows what is right, the trick is getting your mind to shut up long enough for you to hear it.

Second guessing yourself runs you in circles. Going back is NEVER the answer. Going back will never change the outcome for you; it will just keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt.

Honor yourself. Learn to trust in the wisdom of your soul. Don’t go back. Recognize that if it didn’t feel right initially, it isn’t right and it will not all of a sudden become right for you. Don’t waste your time second guessing yourself, give yourself that time to open up to what is truly right for you and call it forth into your life. The sooner you can move beyond your self-imposed hole of self-doubt, the sooner you can move forward with your life.

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th-2… doesn’t make it right for you.

Or even make it better for that matter.

It just makes you tired of holding it.

Sometimes we think that if we hold on tighter to what is NOT working, it will all of a sudden become more of what we want. But it doesn’t work that way.

The longer you hold onto what is NOT working, the harder it gets to disassociate from it. And the longer you hold onto what is NOT working, the harder it gets to open up to something healthier and more fulfilling.

Obstacles are clear indicators that it might be time to let go of what you are holding onto. If it is getting harder and harder to hold onto what you are clutching in your fists, it might be time to relinquish your control over it. Holding onto it longer doesn’t make it better for you or even make it right, it just exhausts you and takes energy away from your ability find something much better.

It’s exhausting to hold on to something longer than you should. When you feel depleted and realize that what you are holding onto is not changing, offer it up to the universe to transform it appropriately. After all, if it is not working for you, there is always a reason why and perhaps a reason why you are unwilling to see it.

So, if you are holding on longer than you should, be brave and let it go. Give your knuckles a rest and open up your palms to receive something healthier and happier. It’s ALWAYS there for you whenever you are ready to release your grip. The rest of your life is waiting for you to let go of what isn’t working. Haven’t you carried it long enough?

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th… getting out of their way does.

After all, if you can’t fix them, you don’t want to get cut on their broken edges.

We tend to have expectations of people. We believe in “who they can be,” not necessarily who they have chosen to be. But it’s not your job to get people to change. Your wanting to change them (albeit for the own personal benefit) isn’t enough to get people to change. People have to feel that they are ready to make change and then embrace their own process to do so. Until then your words will fall on deaf ears and will only render you frustrated and create resentment on their part – everyone loses.

If you really want to “fix people,” help them to see why they may be broken. Highlight aspects of their behavior and kindly bring it to their attention and then STEP BACK. That might mean take yourself out of the equation for a bit so that they can do the work. If you stay in their life, they may not feel the need to do the work. But your absence may encourage them to reach higher. When you give people space, they generally find their own way towards change. When you sit on top of them, no doubt they will resist your efforts.

Choosing to stay in their life is fine as long as you detach from your need for them to change. You can’t make people be who you want them to be or be who you think they should be. You have to let people be who they are. And in the process of giving them that space, the seeds you plant with them will hopefully blossom over time.

You want to fix people? Teach them to plant better seeds for themselves and then GET OUT OF THEIR GARDEN. Let them nurture their own growth. And maybe one day, they will share their harvest with you.

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grateful… brings you MORE of what you WANT.

Believe it or not.

It’s very simple, you do not get more of what you want until you can fully appreciate the beauty that you currently hold. There is great richness in every one of our lives but it gets clouded over when there is something out of reach that we long for.

The act of “wanting” creates a strong position of lack in our lives. The act of “gratitude” creates a strong position of abundance.

When we feel incomplete without a certain person or material object, we are telling the universe that we are NOT WHOLE – that we are somehow less than we would like to be. The universe acknowledges that inadequacy and mirrors back to you more situations that will support your current state of lack.

But when you can express gratitude for what you currently have (especially if it doesn’t seem like much), the universe will read that as abundance and will continue to fill you up with more than you could ever ask for.

To be grateful for whatever it is that you have is to tell the universe that you DESERVE the abundance given to you and that you are worthy of more beauty – hence it will always make its way to you.

You will NEVER get what it is you want if you feel as if you don’t already have it. So fill yourself up with what you do have.

A lush summer garden in bloom will always attract more attention and support then will a barren desert plot of the same size. Are you a garden in bloom or are you a barren desert? Your hope of growing roses only exists if you create that garden. The choice is always yours.

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