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… keeps you both in darkness.

Why not learn to throw down a ladder instead?

There is a difference between trying to help someone and losing yourself in the process.

You can’t change people. You can’t fix people. You can’t drag people to a better version of themselves. They have to want to meet you there or they will never get there.

You can’t do the work for people. Giving them all the answers doesn’t help them to learn how to crawl out of the hole themselves. What happens the next time they fall in again?

Show them there is a better way to live. Throw them down a ladder and encourage them to climb out themselves. Lead by example. Stay out in the sunshine and entice them out of their darkness. But stay away from the edge, you might just fall in. If you try to do their work for them, you’ll both end up in the hole and then you won’t be of any use to them.

If you really want to help people, teach them how to work their way back up to the light. Give them the tools to help them climb out on their own and welcome them out into the sunshine. It’s a win-win for both of you.

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… brings you to the next.

Projecting into a future moment — leaves you stranded.

Being in the present moment is the roadmap to our lives. Living in a future moment sends us careening off-course.

Life isn’t about the future destination of where you’re headed, it’s about the present moment journey into yourself. And every great journey is born out of one step, because one step brings you to the next one, which brings you to the next one, and so on.

Being in the moment secures you on your path. When you are open to the wisdom of the moment, you are infinitely guided to the next step along your journey because you are moving along a path you are standing on. But when you’re living ahead of the moment and projecting yourself into a future moment (which doesn’t yet exist), you are throwing yourself off your path into the bushes and blind guessing where it might lead.

The future doesn’t have your answers. The moment has every answer you will ever need.

Don’t ask your future where you’re headed. The roadmap to your life is secured in this moment. The future moment may never come. If you base your destination on a future moment, you will have missed the richness of all the moments along the way.

Being in this moment brings you to the next. Never make a decision in the future based on a probable outcome which may never come. The only moment you have is in the NOW. When you make your decisions based on this moment, you’re on your path. When you make decisions based on a future moment, you are off in the bushes. Where do you want to be?

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… until you don’t have any fight left.

If there is someone or something you want in life, you fight for it. Otherwise you lose it.

How do you know it’s worth fighting for?

If its presence in your life makes you better, makes you happier, lifts you, supports you and challenges you to think of things in a new way — it’s worth fighting for.

If its presence in your life doesn’t shift your consciousness, doesn’t make you feel happy & supported, doesn’t uplift you, doesn’t push you beyond yourself, and doesn’t encourage you to be a better version of yourself — it’s not worth the fight.

Just because it’s difficult DOESN’T MEAN it’s NOT worth fighting for.

Anything worth the fight is worth fighting for. And anything difficult that’s worth fighting for, is challenging your sense of commitment and dedication.

If something is right for you, there will always be solutions. If it is NOT right for you, options will seem impossible.

Listen to how you feel. Your emotions tell you everything you need to know about what is right for you. If it feels right to you, fight and fight harder; if it doesn’t feel right and you’re exhausted and depleted, walk away and give the situation time to heal.

Don’t give up the fight until you’ve lost your will to fight. Decide what is worth fighting for, put forth your best effort, and let the universe do the rest. Answers ALWAYS come when YOU DON’T GIVE UP THE FIGHT. 

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… even when you think it isn’t.

You may not understand WHY things happen the way they do in your life, but that doesn’t mean that they’re NOT purposeful.

Not everything that happens to you will make sense right away. In fact, in most cases, things that you deem “bad,” will turn out to be the very best things that ever happened to you. Why, you might ask? Because we never have full clarity in the moment. We never realize why things are happening the way they are because transition stirs up the dust so we cannot see clearly. But once the dust settles, we can see why we are, where we are, and it always make sense.

All you can do in life is chart a course and then stay that course. But that does not mean that you’ll NOT be detoured off that course. In other words, you can pick a path for yourself, but if it’s a path that you’re not meant to be on, you’ll be tossed off it and thrown onto a different path. And as traumatic as that transition is, it always lands you onto a much better path. Trust that.

Trust the process of your life. Things are always working out for you, even when you do not realize that they are. The universe works behind the scenes to bring you to exactly the right circumstances for you. You may not always get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need, whether or not you know you need it at the time. Everything is always working out for you, you’re never at a loss. Once you understand that, your life will change in the most amazing ways.

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… and it will soon become comfortable.

Resisting “what is” makes things difficult. Making peace with the discomfort opens up opportunities.

We are comfort-seeking creatures. We would like everything to be easy and pleasurable, but life doesn’t always work that way.

When discomfort arises, we always have 2 choices: we can either RESIST IT and PUSH AGAINST IT or we can learn to LET IT PASS THROUGH US and DETACH FROM IT. We want to learn to transform the discomfort, not feed it.

Think about it — hitting your head on the wall over and over again only gives you a headache; it doesn’t move the wall. Learn to step back from the wall, take a breath and open your eyes, you might just realize that there is a way to WALK AROUND THE WALL. Not everything has to be difficult. Resistance increases your frustration, but acceptance allows you to find new alternatives.

Learn to be comfortable within the discomfort and you’ll transform it. Continue to focus on the frustration of the discomfort and you’ll create more of it. Life is not always going to bring you roses, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find joy in the rest of your garden. How comfortable are you in your life?

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head-in-hands-300x200-1… carrying it with you, is.

We make mistakes everyday, it’s human nature. In fact it’s an important part of life because it leads to our transformation.

The problem is NEVER in making the mistake, it’s in REGRETTING the mistake versus moving on with its wisdom. 

Regrets lead you nowhere. What’s done is done. Now you have the opportunity to apply the learning to move forward into a better life. Mistakes make you better. They teach you what you will never do again. They make you wiser and put you on a much better life trajectory.

But all too often we choose to focus our energies on regretting the very mistakes that were necessary for our growth. But regretting your mistakes will NEVER move you forward into a better future, it only keeps you stuck reliving your unfulfilling decisions – over and over again. And why would you want to do that?

Cut yourself a break. You’re human and you’re here to learn – mistakes are all part of that paradigm. You are who you are and you can only make the best decisions you can in that moment. Then you need to let go and NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP. Take the learning from the mistake and shut it down, then take that learning and make the rest of your life better for it. There isn’t any other way to live. Just know that making a mistake is NEVER the problem, carrying it with you, always is.

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trapped… you’re ONLY trapped by the choices you make.

All we have in our lives are our choices. They are our ticket to happiness, freedom and the life we want to live.

Believe it or not, you are NEVER bound by the circumstances of your life, you are ONLY bound by the choices you have made thus far.

In other words, if life isn’t working out the way you want it to, you always get to make another choice and put it on a better track. But most of us don’t realize that we can do that.

As humans, we tend to fear change. We tend to stay with what we know even if it makes us unhappy. Many of us get stuck in very dark places because that’s what we’ve come to know and we’re unsure as to how to change it, so we never do.

But here’s the deal, you are never meant to be unhappy. An unhappy life is an unfulfilled one.

You’re never trapped by your life, but you can be trapped by the choices you make. So if your choices are making you feel trapped, make a choice to free yourself. And realize that a choice to stay trapped (for whatever reason – obligation, responsibility, or uncertainty/fear) is still a choice.

Are you living the life you want to live? If you’re not, MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE. Remember you’re not trapped by your life, you are only trapped by the choices you make. You can never run out of choices, you can never run out of options, if you’re stuck in your life, you can always choose again. It’s your life, choose wisely.

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