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… who can’t see an issue in their behavior.

Not everyone is conscious. Not everyone has the ability to see how their actions affect others. If you have to tell someone over and over again that they’re hurting you, they are unable to process your pain, most likely because they haven’t processed their own. 

In order for them to honor your feelings, they first have to look at themselves in the mirror and accept responsibility for how they’ve made you feel. But for many, that reflection can be very painful and bring up other past failures. No one wants to feel responsible for hurting someone else and no one wants to feel like a failure; it’s much easier to just shut down and become defensive — “let me prove to you that I don’t need to change, you do.”

If someone is truly evolved, they know they are not responsible for how you feel, BUT they will always have a degree of empathy for your feelings and will always be able to honor them in whatever way they can. 

If they can’t hear your pain, you’ll never be able to get them to honor it. If you’re trying to communicate your feelings and they’re being defensive, walk away, sometimes silence can be the greatest teacher. If your words aren’t enough to help them hear you, then stop talking and give them the time and space to hear what you have already said.

You can’t change people who can’t see an issue in their behavior. You can’t get anyone to stop hurting you until they come face to face with their own pain. If they cannot change themselves, how are you ever going to change them? Life is too short to try and teach unconscious people how to honor your feelings. Walk away and in time the universe will deliver you someone who can honor your heart.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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… it only hurts the betrayer.

Ironic, but true.

To be betrayed is the greatest gift because it shows you someone’s true colors. But as humans, we get caught up in the drama of the betrayal. But in reality, it never matters WHY you were betrayed, or HOW you were betrayed, what matters is that you identify the betrayer. That person is NOT true to you nor do they hold your best interests. In the long run, that is much more valuable information.

Betrayal is a morality game. And by virtue of the fact that one betrays another, the karmic debt rests on their shoulders.

The betrayed can walk away with a clean conscience assuming they’re innocent. The betrayer must live with their actions and the consequences of which always carry a karmic price tag, not to mention the regret of deceit weighs heavily on the soul.

If you’ve been betrayed, don’t spend your energy trying to justify yourself or your situation and don’t feel victimized. Know you deserve better and pick your head up high and keep walking. The betrayer may have gotten what they wanted in the short run, but in the long run, the betrayed always wins because they now know who they will NEVER TRUST AGAIN and that alone is worth its weight in gold.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

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If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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… it only matters what you do with it.

How you react is what determines your next experience. 

A situation is just that — a situation. It has absolutely no bearing over your life unless you give it. Once you react to a situation, you make it real for you. Once you react, you become part of the game — you’re in it and now it has to be played out.

It doesn’t matter how bad the situation is, if you don’t engage it, it can never affect you. It literally has no control over you unless you allow it in.

Your power is in your reaction. How you react will determine what happens next. Any good game needs two players. Your move will always determine how things shake out for you. In life, it’s never what happens to you, it’s what you do with it that makes all the difference in the world. What will your next move be?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… just get on with your life.

It’s as simple as that.

Not everything works out the way we want it to, but things always work out the way they are meant to.

If something doesn’t work out for you, it’s because something better is waiting in the wings and if you throw your energy into lamenting what you didn’t get, you’ll miss the opportunity to step into what you are meant to get.  

Life is constantly moving and so should you. Getting stuck looking back at what didn’t work will never move you forward into your future. Don’t get caught up lamenting what you didn’t get. It doesn’t matter why you didn’t get it. Just get on with your life. Your life is always ahead of you, never behind you and it is always waiting for you to step bravely into it.

Simple wisdom — if it didn’t work out, it wasn’t right for you. And if you learn to stop chasing all the wrong things, you can give the right things a chance to catch up with you. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… everything moves with you.

And when you are not, nothing works.

When you are in the flow of your life – flowing downstream — everything flows along side you. When you are out of that flow – pushing upstream — things are much more difficult.

How do you know the difference? Ask yourself how it feels? If it’s hard, you’re pushing your boat upstream. If it’s easy, you’re flowing with the stream.

Your life path should be obvious and it will flow together easily when you are in the right place at the right time. If something in your life isn’t working, stop pushing, there is a reason why it is not coming together. Resistance is your friend, never your foe.

When you’re where you’re supposed to be in your life, things come together easily. If they aren’t coming together easily, they aren’t meant to, clearly there’s something better waiting to come together.

Don’t try to force something outside your flow. If it’s too hard, it’s not yours. Step away from it. Find your flow first and let it naturally carry you to what is right for you. It can be no other way.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… is how it will show up for you.

It’s just the way it works.

If you see things as negative, dark and desperate, the universe will conspire to bring you more sadness, darkness and desperation. 

If you see things as positive, happy and inspiring, the universe will conspire to bring you more positivityhappiness and inspiration.

Life is a game. You have only to learn the rules of the game in order to play. The #1 rule is that YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE — you create every experience you will ever have in this life with the thoughts you think about it. So if you’re unhappy with your life, clean up your thoughts about it. See yourself as having the life of your dreams and watch that dream come into fruition.

The way you see your life is how it will show up for you. If you believe it, it will become your reality, if you don’t, it will simply fall away. Your reality is yours. How you react, how you think and how you feel molds every experience you will ever have.

Want to be happy? Don’t complicate it. Learn to see the happiness that is inherently present in your life and the universe will continually match it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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… is the only way to OPEN to your future.

It’s only when you close one door that another one opens. 

Closing the door on the past keeps your energy focused in the present. It shuts out the noise of the past and gives clarity in this moment.

When the door to the past is left open, energies get confused. It’s too easy to hear the cries of the past and be drawn back into it’s grasp. Be strong, softly close the door and open to the stillness of the present moment where you can hear the whisper of your soul.

If something or someone is in your past, it’s behind you. You can close the door on it. If it was meant to be in your present, it would be standing right in front of you and if it is meant to be part of your future, it will come and find you when it’s time.

Close the door on the past so you can get clear with your present. If your past is ever meant to come back to you, it will come knocking once it is healed. Until then, close the door on it — get still with yourself and look for the new open door that’s been waiting for you all along.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Weekly Column at the NY OBSERVER, click here.

Follow Donnalynn on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook. 

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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