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… are opposite sides of the same coin.

These are difficult times where it’s very easy to fall into fear and allow it to destroy us. But that doesn’t serve anyone. We’re not here to be enslaved by our fears; we are here to champion our dreams.

It helps to know that humans exist in a state of duality where we need to experience both positive and negative polarity in order to find our way in life. There are only 2 directions — light/love and dark/fear and fear has a purpose, it exists as a necessary state of resistance meant to drive us back towards the higher frequency of love. In other words, fear is a vibrational default that keeps us from collapsing into a sinkhole. We come up to it, experience it and we’re meant to re-direct ourselves away from it and back into the light.

But many of us get caught in that sinkhole and collapse into a pit of darkness because we think we have no other choice. But there is always a choice. We can either choose to feed the fear and become worriers or we can choose to run towards love and become warriors.

Warriors ascend in consciousness whereas worriers descend into fear.

Warriors don’t give up whereas worriers give in to the fear, pressure and pain.

Warriors focus on realizing their dreams whereas worriers let their greatest fears run their life.

Warriors find a way to conquer any obstacle in their way whereas worriers give their power over at the first sign of distress. 

Warriors don’t take no for an answer whereas worriers accept less than they deserve.

Warriors find a way to make their lives better whereas worriers decide it can never get better.

In life, it never matters what happens to you, all that matters is what you do with it. Are you a warrior or a worrier? Life never gets better as a worrier, it only gets worse. Sadness and despair can only beget more of the same. Where are you going in life? Warriors go places whereas worriers can only go into a downward spiral. No more excuses, it’s time to step into the role of warrior. The rest of your life depends on it.

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… is in learning to get up faster.

We are all continually on a path of strength training and agility training because the fall is inevitable. It’s an integral part of how we humans learn and become better.

The secret to mastering the art of the fall, is to become highly agile and flexible so that when we do fall, we can move through the impact much more quickly and it doesn’t take us out.

In other words…

The harder you are on yourself, the harder it will be to come back from the fall.

The easier you can be on yourself, the more easefully you will come back from the fall.

Punishing or blaming yourself for your mistakes hardens you and locks you into a no-win position; whereas identifying the mistakes and using them as a benchmark for progress opens you up to mastery.

Learn to roll with the punches. If you are too rigid, those punches will knock you out. But if you’re able to ease up on your ego to get the lesson and get out, your agility/humility will catapult you forward.

No one likes to fall, but when you do so, learn to get up faster. Move through the curriculum of life’s lessons and stand strong so no one and nothing can ever push you over again.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… you can see where you are. 

When you are surrounded by others, your view is blocked. 

I used to think I knew who I was and how I fit into the whole when I lived in NYC, but in reality, I couldn’t see anything. 

When you are alone, you have clear sight. But when you are surrounded by others, your view becomes muddied. It’s muddied because you only see yourself as a reflection of someone else. You do not have true clarity. True clarity only comes when you only see you. Anyone else around you is just a distraction from you knowing yourself. 

Most of us never know who we truly are. We are too busy competing with others around us (on social media) trying to prove to ourselves that we are better than them. But when you are constantly comparing yourself to those around you, you lose a bit of yourself. You turn that energy over to others and no longer have access to it. You give them your power. And why would you do that? Why would you not keep the integrity of your own power?

People can become distractions, albeit beautiful distractions, to us finding our way in the world. If you truly want to know yourself, step away from the crowd. You are not them. You will just get swallowed up and lost in that crowd.

Being alone is a chance to re-align yourself to who you truly are. When you no longer have the distractions of others, you can better see where you are headed.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… you don’t understand it.

A reaction is an emotional response to some stimuli or trigger. If you become triggered, that trigger is yours. But when we lack consciousness, we immediately blame another for triggering us; we think it’s their fault.

We all come to this planet with certain life lessons (a.k.a. certain buttons to be pressed which help to bring up our issues). It’s your dance partner’s (lover, sibling, friend, boss, etc..) job to push those buttons so that your shadows can surface and you can identify your work and begin processing it.

Getting triggered is a gift if you are awake and conscious. It can be a living hell if you’re projecting it out onto another. If you feel the need to react with heated emotions, you have not allowed yourself to process the trigger properly. You’ve avoided doing the personal process work and conveniently chosen to project your failures onto another.

Are you easily triggered/angered these days? It’s no one else’s fault. There’s nothing to take offense to. The work lies within yourself. Whenever you feel justified in angrily blaming another, recognize that it is YOU who needs to look in the mirror.

If you’re reacting to it, you don’t understand it. Go deeply within yourself and ask yourself why you are so upset? What are you really reacting to?

Where there is consciousness, there can be healing. When you truly understand a comment and where it’s coming from, there’s no need to react to it. There is only space for calm discourse.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… but defaults to comfort.

It is in our nature as a soul to evolve, to become better, to push ourselves beyond our comfort zones into a field of infinite potential.

When we are healthy and not operating under extreme social trauma, we can think clearly and rationally and it allows for our evolution to higher states of consciousness. At our highest levels and in the absence of a collective psychosis, our capacities to transcend pain are efficient and abundant. But when we fall prey to a social trauma program, we trade our greatness for security. We give up on our happiness and we accept less than what we deserve. When we do this, we no longer walk the path of awakening consciousness, but fall blissfully back asleep, contented to allow a control system to ease our pain, quell our fears and give us “safety” restrictions which we happily accept in return for our freedoms.

This is not the path of humanity. This is not the path of the soul. Humanity is neither meant to control itself or be controlled. Humanity is sovereign. Every soul upon this planet has free will which can never be denied. And in turn, that free will has karmic repercussions. The choices you make and the actions you take will always return to you, be it in this life or the next.

As humanity, we must remember we are magical. We can be, do or have anything we want. We are aspects of pure light in a human body. What will we do with that? Will we stand up and believe in our power and honor our light OR will we give in to a control dynamic that tells us what we need to do in order to be healthy, happy or accepted as part of society?

Who should we trust? Ourselves or some other power? Humanity is meant to expand in it’s consciousness and evolve. Our magic is always waiting to be explored outside our comfort zone and it is only when we are pushed beyond our threshold of capacity that we can truly step into our own greatness. We never become great by giving into a control system that tells us how to operate. Don’t trade your eternal light for a glimmer of hope. It will never last. Once we stop defaulting to comfort and security, we can truly start living our best lives.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… are opposite sides of the spectrum of human experience.

Love is the natural innate response of humanity and hate is conditioned by a society. When a human loves themselves and respects themselves and respects the world around them, hate cannot exist within their cypher. But when a soul does not know how to love or respect themselves or love/respect the world around them, they are easily programmable by a societal machine driven by hate.

How do you know the difference? Love has nothing to prove whereas hate has everything to prove.

Hate wants to prove that it is better than you.

Hate wants to prove that you are less than. 

Hate wants to prove that you are wrong.

Hate wants to prove that you are evil, selfish, narcissistic, malevolent — all mirrors of it’s own dark shadow. 

Hate is filled with anger and it is easily triggered by love. 

and

Hate parades itself as love. It isn’t genuine to the human soul so it pretends to be something it is not. 

Love has no agenda. It has nothing to prove. It isn’t filled with venom and fake virtue. It just is. It allows for everyone to stand together despite their differences and it allows everyone to just be and to be in their own consciousness while they are growing, learning and unraveling their own karma without judgment of themselves or others. Love and hate are opposite sides of the spectrum of human experience. Where do you dwell these days? #belove 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… you have to go through it.

But no one wants to go through pain to transcend it. As humans, we prefer to bypass the pain and take the easy way out. Ironically though, the easy way out in life is never easier; it’s actually much harder. It may feel easier at the onset, but it becomes far more complex and painful as time goes on.

There is no way to transcend something painful without fully going into it. You have to get into the belly of the beast in order to invert it. Many who do not want to hit rock bottom will linger in the shadows of the dark end of the pool for decades, trying to avoid their fate. The brave of us know that to come back up into the light, we have to first bottom out; we have to hit rock bottom so we can spring off of it and rise to the surface even faster.

As humans, we are all here to transcend our lives, not collapse into them. But we will never transcend what we will not allow ourselves to face and work through. Your pain is fuel for transformation. You cannot sit on the sidelines of your life and evolve. Transcendence doesn’t work that way.

Running from the storms of your life doesn’t heal you. Learning to dance in the rain is the only way to push through those storms and transform the experience. It’s a metaphor for life… in order to transcend the storm, you have to go through it, and know that just beyond the pain and drama, through it to the other side, the sun is always shining and waiting to embrace you. It can be no other way.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… doesn’t keep you safe.

It only provides you with a false sense of security.

It’s much easier for us to play in the superficial realm of life and never go deeper. We skim the surface of our consciousness and get stuck in the matrix playing out materiality and confusing it with progress.

Prioritizing material possessions as a symbol of success only keeps the true rewards of a “life well-lived” hidden from sight. The fact is that we are here to grow and evolve our souls, not get sucked into the vortex of materiality. The focus on material possessions as a means of seeking fulfillment only keeps us bound and trapped in lower karmic programming. It makes us a slave to our possessions. It doesn’t represent a true sense of abundance, which only comes from within, never outside you.

The truth is the deeper you go in your evolution, the darker it can get. Sometimes it’s hard to see the bottom. It doesn’t mean you’re going to drown; it only means there are shadows lurking beneath you that may need to be brought to the surface before you can get to the next level. Most people fear those depths. They fear going into that darkness because it’s painful to transmute. They prefer to stay in the shallow end where they feel safer. But the shallow end doesn’t keep you safe. It only makes the deep-end scarier.

At one point in our lives, we find ourself adrift in the deep-end without a raft. But once we are there and we have brought up to the surface our shadows, we find a serenity in the deep-end that we never knew possible. Fulfillment lies in the deep-end of life. Living in the shallow never gets you to the depths of yourself. You have to be willing to lose everything in order to gain more than you could have ever imagined. It’s called the dark night of the soul. That is the secret to personal fulfillment; it’s lies in the deep-end. How deep are you willing to go to find yourself?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… you have to let them grow.

In life, expansion is key. You can’t get to the next level without moving through the level you’re in.

Progress in life is about embracing a feed forward system, not backwards. So in essence, you have to grow out of something, not hide from it. It has to be surmounted.

Expanding out of something means you have managed to rise above it and integrate its wisdom. It’s a feed forward of intelligent learning and it builds off the very problem you’ve struggled with.

Escaping your problems is akin to constricting and giving up, while allowing the problem to still exist. It may provide you with a momentary sense of relief, but since there’s been no expansion, the problem always comes back larger than life.

Expansion raises your vibration and escapism lowers it. You can’t get to a higher level by adopting a lower level strategy.

Problems cannot be escaped, they have to be expanded through. Expansion (transformation) is a higher vibrational game. It requires that you face the problem head on, surmount it, and use it as a springboard into higher levels of consciousness. Are you ready for expansion?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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… they make us better.

In fact, those bad times make us stronger, wiser and smarter. They push us to expand beyond our horizons and develop new skill sets. They don’t allow for complacency. They demand transformation.

The bad times are indeed the best times, but unfortunately many people only appreciate the good times. They want things to be easy and laced with rainbows and butterflies. But rainbows and butterflies don’t promote growth, they reward it.

Many of us shut down in the face of bad times. We numb ourselves from having to face the pain. But that only succeeds in keeping us stuck in a numbing void where we never grow.

Transformation is the path forward and although everyone wants to be transformed to some extent, no one wants to go through the pain of the transformational process. It’s never easy and generally requires sitting into the pain until it can be transmuted into higher frequencies.

The next time you want to feel victimized because you are stuck in some bad times, remember that the bad times are actually the best times, they make us stronger, better and wiser. They push us to become the being we are here to become. They push us to see what we are capable of. And the good times? Well, they are just the rewards for having done the work. Game on.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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