When the Burden Gets Too Heavy

… learn to lighten your load.

Not every issue has direct relevance on your life. Yet as humans, we tend to carry every burden on our shoulders as if it was our own. Maybe we are empathetic, maybe we are sensitive to other’s plights, maybe we are just kind people – whatever the excuse, we do not need to carry others’ issues, struggles or negative behaviors upon our shoulders. Life gets much simpler and easier when we learn to own what is ours and give the rest back.

Your work in life is to get yourself to the “top of the mountain” with as much ease and enjoyment as possible. You cannot get to the top of the mountain with ease if you are carrying bags upon bags of other people’s traumas and opinions and judgments. In order to succeed in your own life, you have only to carry what you need in order to make yourself happy. When you have what you need, you have enough to share with others, but when your bags are full of what isn’t serving you, you take yourself down, exhaust yourself and leave yourself feeling hopeless and filled with despair.

Decide today that you are not going to hold onto anything in life that doesn’t serve you – whether it may be a certain person or other’s opinions of you, or other’s dysfunction with themselves or with their peers, etc… Whatever drama or nonsense is going on around you, learn to let it pass through you. Don’t pack it up and take it up the mountain with you. If the situation doesn’t have a direct bearring on your life in a POSITIVE WAY, learn to not take it on as yours. The work in life is in learning to streamline your baggage, not in carrying everyone else’s up the mountain. Carrying other’s burdens does not make you the superhero, it makes you the fool. Afterall, your carrying their baggage doesn’t help them learn their lessons and by doing so, you have just made life harder for yourself. Who wins here? No one.

Give your back a rest. Give others their own baggage to carry up the mountain. Everyone will get there in their own time and with their own learnings and comfort level. Let the journey to the top begin.

 

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When You Are In A Hole

…stop digging.

After all, it’s not really going to lift you out of that hole, is it? A hole takes you deeper. Once you realize that, it is easier to make another choice for yourself.

We have a tendency to prove our own undoing. We dig ourselves into our own emotional holes. Every time we choose to dwell on negative emotions, we choose to dig that hole deeper. Every time we choose to buy into other’s criticisms of us, we dig ourselves deeper even still. In fact, it is very easy to bury ourselves beneath a shroud of negative emotion, insecurity and inferiority.

You have a choice everyday as to whether you will allow your negative state of emotions to affect you. You also have a choice as to whether you will allow other people’s negative state of emotions affect you. When dealing with others, it is important to remember that those emotions, criticisms and critiques are not yours, so why own them? You NEVER need to accept any of that as fodder to help you dig yourself deeper. It’s simply not necessary.

No one is digging that hole for you, but YOU. If you are in too deep, it is time to throw away the shovel and climb back out. Decide today that you choose NOT to be buried by your own or other’s negative rhetoric. You choose happiness and freedom from negative thought. Your life is yours. At some point, you must come to the conclusion that you are done beating yourself up. You deserve better. Once you can see that, the shovel no longer looks attractive. Trade in your shovel for new soil that will promise to grow you tomorrow’s abundance.

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The Truth Behind Sarcasm

… it is always there.

Don’t kid yourself, there is ALWAYS an element of truth behind every sarcastic remark. Every biting comment has a reason for being.

No doubt, people who are sarcastic are very entertaining. They have a way of saying things that others cannot say. But are they truly representing themselves or are they hiding behind their words?

In life, self-expressionism is key – the ability to speak your mind freely and willingly is what keeps you alive and thriving. But many people are too frightened to say what they need to say for fear of being judged, persecuted or fear of being vulnerable. Never censor yourself. If people do not like you for who you are and what you have to say, then they are not worth it. Never try to be something you are not.

Sarcastic individuals hide behind their humor and delivery. There is a sense of acceptance when they give a sarcastic remark that might not otherwise be tolerated. It is sort of a back-handed way of getting your point across. The problem with sarcasm is not just that it is a deep-seated example of passive aggressiveness and repression but it is also contains an extremely heavy and negative energy which breeds more of the same. Sarcasm carries many elements of jadedness, bitterness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc… It is not a freeing style of communication. This negativity is binding to the person who harbors it and also becomes toxic to those who engage it.

The truth behind sarcasm is that there is ALWAYS truth in every sarcastic comment. When we learn to allow ourselves to truly be who we are, we no longer need to hide behind a shroud of biting humor. That type of humor no longer becomes necessary to get our point across. When we let go of our fear of being judged and open up to being more vulnerable, our communication softens and our humor becomes less acidic/edgy and more engaging and inspiring. What’s your truth?

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