Doing The Same Thing, Expecting a Different Result

… will definitely drive you insane.

How could it not?

What we don’t realize is that if we want something to be different, we have to do something differently — otherwise nothing changes.

There are no coincidences in life. If something is showing up again, it is a pattern that needs to be worked through, NOT repeated; so the universe obliges and gives you yet another opportunity to work through the same pattern in a DIFFERENT way.

How will you respond this time is the question?

Coming to the SAME conclusions and engaging in the SAME behaviors will keep you stuck in the SAME cycle of learning.

Break the pattern and chains that bind you. Identify the pattern that is showing up and show up differently in response to it. If you don’t like the outcomes you’ve been receiving, show up differently, take different actions and watch your outcomes naturally differ.

Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is truly the definition of insanity. Learn to accept responsibility for you life. Learn to recognize your patterns and stop them in their tracks. Patterns are meant to be worked through, NEVER repeated. When you are ready to stop driving yourself crazy, a new life is ready to begin for you. What are you waiting for?

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Transformation Gets Ugly

… before it gets better.

No one ever said making change is easy. Growth takes hard work.

To become a beautiful butterfly, you have to live through the dark phase of the cocoon.

Giving up and staying in the cocoon isn’t an option. The struggle to get free of the cocoon is the struggle of transformation. How badly do you want to transform your life? Accepting the status quo will never get you out of that cocoon. To get to the light, often times you have to fight your way through the darkness.

Transformation is a lifelong process; it doesn’t happen overnight. Transformation is a series of steps that tend to make things appear worse before they can become better. It’s like any detox process, in order to cleanse the body and heal, the infection or toxins need to first rise to the surface before they can leave the body. So the darkness is temporarily exaggerated before the light of transformation can prevail.

To become something great, you have to do something great. Being great means using your inner strength to fight your way through your own cocoon of darkness. Remember giving up is never an option. Just when the catepillar was ready to give up his struggle, he transformed into a beautiful butterfly and flew away.

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Being In This Moment

… brings you to the next.

Projecting into a future moment — leaves you stranded.

Being in the present moment is the roadmap to our lives. Living in a future moment sends us careening off-course.

Life isn’t about the future destination of where you’re headed, it’s about the present moment journey into yourself. And every great journey is born out of one step, because one step brings you to the next one, which brings you to the next one, and so on.

Being in the moment secures you on your path. When you are open to the wisdom of the moment, you are infinitely guided to the next step along your journey because you are moving along a path you are standing on. But when you’re living ahead of the moment and projecting yourself into a future moment (which doesn’t yet exist), you are throwing yourself off your path into the bushes and blind guessing where it might lead.

The future doesn’t have your answers. The moment has every answer you will ever need.

Don’t ask your future where you’re headed. The roadmap to your life is secured in this moment. The future moment may never come. If you base your destination on a future moment, you will have missed the richness of all the moments along the way.

Being in this moment brings you to the next. Never make a decision in the future based on a probable outcome which may never come. The only moment you have is in the NOW. When you make your decisions based on this moment, you’re on your path. When you make decisions based on a future moment, you are off in the bushes. Where do you want to be?

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Don’t Give Up The Fight

… until you don’t have any fight left.

If there is someone or something you want in life, you fight for it. Otherwise you lose it.

How do you know it’s worth fighting for?

If its presence in your life makes you better, makes you happier, lifts you, supports you and challenges you to think of things in a new way — it’s worth fighting for.

If its presence in your life doesn’t shift your consciousness, doesn’t make you feel happy & supported, doesn’t uplift you, doesn’t push you beyond yourself, and doesn’t encourage you to be a better version of yourself — it’s not worth the fight.

Just because it’s difficult DOESN’T MEAN it’s NOT worth fighting for.

Anything worth the fight is worth fighting for. And anything difficult that’s worth fighting for, is challenging your sense of commitment and dedication.

If something is right for you, there will always be solutions. If it is NOT right for you, options will seem impossible.

Listen to how you feel. Your emotions tell you everything you need to know about what is right for you. If it feels right to you, fight and fight harder; if it doesn’t feel right and you’re exhausted and depleted, walk away and give the situation time to heal.

Don’t give up the fight until you’ve lost your will to fight. Decide what is worth fighting for, put forth your best effort, and let the universe do the rest. Answers ALWAYS come when YOU DON’T GIVE UP THE FIGHT. 

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History Repeats Itself

… until you CHANGE it.

How else would it stop?

History happens over and over again until you LEARN THE LESSON FROM THE PAST and use it to REDEFINE A BETTER FUTURE.

But how many of us know that?

How many of us realize that history ONLY repeats to give you ANOTHER CHANCE to make a DIFFERENT DECISION.

Instead of lamenting history repeating, wouldn’t it be better to learn the lesson from it’s past and move forward in a new way?

If you want a different result, you have to do something differently. Until then, history will continue to repeat itself in hopes to give you all the new chances you need to make any/all different decisions. Create a new future for yourself, show up differently when history repeats, and you’ll find that your life changes in the most amazing ways. What are you waiting for? Ready to change your history? Whenever you are, a new story is ready to begin.

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Second Guessing Yourself

…runs you in circles.

It keeps you in a self-imposed loop of doubt. When in reality, you knew the right answer all along.

Listen to yourself. Your FIRST impression is ALWAYS the right one. It comes from your intuition – your heart, your inner knowing, you inner feeling – without bias, without overthinking it.

Your 2nd impression comes from the mind. It intervenes and tries to interject an element of FEAR or CONTROL into the situation to give it substantiation, negation or rationalization.

Don’t make yourself crazy. If it feels right, IT IS RIGHT. If it doesn’t feel right somehow, it will never change for you. Your intuition always knows what is right, the trick is getting your mind to shut up long enough for you to hear it.

Second guessing yourself runs you in circles. Going back is NEVER the answer. Going back will never change the outcome for you; it will just keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt.

Honor yourself. Learn to trust in the wisdom of your soul. Don’t go back. Recognize that if it didn’t feel right initially, it isn’t right and it will not all of a sudden become right for you. Don’t waste your time second guessing yourself, give yourself that time to open up to what is truly right for you and call it forth into your life. The sooner you can move beyond your self-imposed hole of self-doubt, the sooner you can move forward with your life.

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Being Alone Isn’t Being Lonely

… unless you make it that way.

These are two completely different concepts. Do you know the difference?

Being alone assumes one loves themselves and fully enjoys and appreciates themselves. They are comfortable in their skin, emotionally well-adjusted and although they enjoy the company of others, they are quite contented to be alone and find just as much happiness and fulfillment in their aloneness.

Being lonely is when you are not comfortable within yourself, when your own company isn’t quite enough to soothe or entertain you. It is when you require someone or something outside of you to make you happy because you cannot find that happiness within yourself. It is when you default to any type of distraction (drugs, alcohol, food, tv, sleep, etc…) to keep you from feeling your own pain and loneliness because the solitude of being on your own is simply too painful to bear.

Running from yourself will always keep you lonely. Embracing yourself will always keep you fulfilled. Regardless of the image staring back at you in the mirror, learn to love it, learn to appreciate it and learn to honor it every day. Self love is your best and only real companion.

Do you want to be alone or continually feel lonely? The choice is yours. But nothing changes until you learn to love your own company, if you don’t, how can you ever ask someone else to?

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Feeling Lost

… is an indication that you are not where you want to be – YET.

But clearly you are on your way because feeling lost is the FIRST STEP – it’s the step of SURRENDER. It’s the step of “my career is not working, my relationship is not working, I need out of here.” It is the healthiest step one could make because it acknowledges that where you are in life is NO LONGER WORKING for you. It’s the hardest step to make BUT it’s the only one that will yield you the greatest propensity for change.

Once you make that first step away from what is not working, the feeling of “being lost” is inevitable. But believe it or not, in “being lost,” you are actually open to the myriad of possibility around you. In other words, when you surrender to “being lost,” the universe can bring new opportunities to you. This is because expectation blocks the manifestation process but when you have no expectations (because you don’t know where you are going), it opens up a whole universe of possibility for you. Think about it – when you are lost, you stumble upon so many new places and unexpected experiences that you would not have encountered had you had taken your usual route.

Stop thinking you have all the answers – especially if those answers are no longer working for you. Staying stuck somewhere you do not want to be doesn’t make you safe, it gives you a false sense of security and an even falser sense of identity which is truly the definition of BEING LOST.

Don’t fear and avoid feeling lost because let me tell you, “uncertain happiness” is ALWAYS much more productive than “certain unhappiness.” Knowing where you are isn’t better than being lost if where you are is making you unhappy. 

Feeling lost isn’t the problem, it is a temporary by-product of the solution towards change and finding real happiness. No one likes to feel lost, but when you realize that it’s actually a first step closer towards being in a new situation that is better suited for you, then there is no need to fall into the drama of feeling lost.

Feeling lost is temporary, but it’s presence guarantees you permanent happiness if you allow yourself to go into it fully. So don’t run from feeling lost, embrace it, open up to it and joyfully accept all the new opportunity that it always brings to the table for you.

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You Get To Where You Want To Be

… by being right where you are.

How else could you get there?

We’re not always where we want to be in our lives – that’s a given. But how can we get there? It’s very simple – by first acknowledging that where you are is NO LONGER WORKING FOR YOU.  It’s about taking that first step and acknowledging the need for change – that step will change EVERYTHING for you because it unlocks the energy of change.

You do not have to have all the answers in life. You have only to decide that where you are is no longer working and that you need to make a change. When you make that decision, the universe will conspire with you to help bring you the changes you need and deserve.

Life is a series of steps designed to get you to where you need to be. You will never be able to define your “end game” up front; so don’t even try. That’s not how it works. Your life is a step-by-step process of exploring yourself to find out. You only need to be open to the exploration.

Remember you do NOT have to know where you are going – you just need to plan your NEXT MOVE and then there will be another move right after that, and then another one, and then another, and so on… Before you know it, you will be deposited exactly where you need to be and by when you needed to be there.

But how do you know what that first step is? You don’t. And furthermore, it doesn’t matter what it is as long as you take one step away from what isn’t working. The answer is always in your heart, not your head. Listen to your intuition – if you know you are unhappy, then take a step away from your situation. And if there is something you desire or have been dreaming about, then take one step towards it. This way you will unlock the energy in the direction of the change you want to create; then opportunities and people will present themselves on queue.

Staying stuck somewhere you do not want to be keeps you locked there. Acknowledging where you are and making that first step away from it all opens all the doors. Life is about choices. What choice will you make next?

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Accepting Responsibility For Your Life

… empowers you.

Making others responsible for it, destroys you.

It doesn’t matter what happens to you in life, you own it. It’s your life, how are you going to make it better?

We call it the blame game. Blaming others for where you are in your life, doesn’t help you live it. No one is responsible for your life, but you. It’s no one else’s job to make sure you are happy or you are living your life the way you should be; it’s your job.

When you accept responsibility for where you are in your life, you are fully in charge of your destiny and where you are headed. You are in complete control. You are empowered to make the right decisions for yourself and because of that your life flows harmoniously.

But when you blame others for where you are in your life, you miss the opportunity to grow through your experience and evolve accordingly. And when you are blaming others for where you are in your life, you will never be able to get to where you need to be.

Being responsible is a responsibility and unfortunately not everyone is ready for it. Accepting responsibility for your life is a given. No one else can do it for you. If you are unhappy with any aspect of your life, change it. Don’t waste your time blaming someone else for it. Your life only begins the day you are able to fully accept responsibility for it. When you are ready, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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