Are You Comfortable?

… or have you become comfortably numb? 

There’s a difference.

Life is hard, it’s true, but finding comfort in this discomfort is key. True comfort can be found via conscious transformation of suffering. Do you allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and victim consciousness or do you move through the pain and back into higher mastery states of joy, gratitude and happiness?

Many of us get stuck in the pain and in order to cope, we shut down any sense of feeling. We numb ourselves from feeling the pain via alcohol, drugs, food, tv, social media, sex, etc… This is not true comfort, it is a coping mechanism disguised as comfort, otherwise known as the “comfortably numb zone.”

Comfort is the pure mastery of joy, while being comfortably numb is the epitome of sabotage and distraction. One shuts you down, while the other moves you through your consciousness evolution. Be careful not to mistake one for the other.

True comfort is available for anyone who is ready to master their pain — anyone who is ready to face their shadows and move beyond them. Once you learn to face all of it, you can override it and finally begin to heal.

Are you comfortable facing your life or are you more comfortably numbing the pain? There is a difference. One road leads to consciousness mastery and the other leads to an addictive spiral. Where do you find yourself?

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When You Walk With Your Head Down

… you walk into walls.

It’s common sense.

When you’re not looking where you’re going, you’re most likely going to end up somewhere you don’t want to be.

Most of us sleepwalk our way through our lives — running the mouse wheel of life. We are so busy trying to make a living that we completely miss the significance of our lives. We miss the small moments that are on our path to teach us.

Believe it or not, you are only here to learn, NOT to amass large amounts of material goods, real estate, money or collegiate accreditation. Your focus should always be on your relationships and your challenges — these are your mirrors that force your growth. They make you better, wiser and stronger. They change you. They bring you to a better place. In other words, your struggles are your guidepost to greatness; don’t ignore them.

Pay attention to your life, it’s trying to tell you something. If you don’t keep your head up, you’ll undoubtedly end up somewhere you don’t want to be. Life’s too short to keep your head down; there’s a world in front of you — keep your eye on it, it might just change you.

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Dealing with Drama Queens

… casts you onto their stage.

And you don’t need to be on their stage.

Everyone has a story and drama queens’ stories tend to be intense, erratic and exhausting. They’re needing a different type of connection to you which they’re currently not getting, so they create a type of drama in order to elicit it from you.

Sometimes they create drama in romantic relationships as a means of getting your attention if they are feeling a lack of connection/emotion/communication, etc..

Sometimes they create drama at work or other situations as a means of distraction away from something they do NOT want YOU to see or a distraction away from something THEY do NOT want to see. Sometimes they do it to distract themselves away from doing their own personal work.

And sometimes they create drama just so that they can feel some type of aliveness energy. They tend to be very passionate people who need to feel and if the situation isn’t giving them a rush, they might create some type of drama so that they can feel some sort of exhilaration.

But regardless, drama queens own their stage and you don’t need to be on it. Life is too short to be living out someone else’s drama. Recognize when the drama is starting and learn to exit stage left as quickly as possible.

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Patterns Repeat

… until you break them.

Our lives are cyclical. The lessons you are meant to learn show up as repeated patterns in your life. These patterns continually show up throughout your life giving you many chances to break through them.

Are you observing a pattern somewhere? If you are, it’s important to realize that it is NEVER a coincidence. If something is happening over and over again it’s purposeful, and it’s meant to be worked through differently. Because engaging a pattern the same way gives you the same outcome. But changing your engagement with the pattern, changes the outcome.

In other words, patterns repeat until you get them.

When you identify a pattern, know that it’s never a coincidence, but an opportunity to make change. Are you ready to grow and evolve? Stop repeating the same patterns over and over. If they show up, time to break the cycle. Approach the pattern differently and you’ll begin to have a different result. Patterns are meant to be broken, not repeated. Learn to break the pattern before it breaks you.

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Always Falling For “Almost”

… never brings you ALWAYS.

how could it?

“Always” always meets your needs, but “almost” rarely ever does. It is all in what you accept into your life. After all, you get what you accept and if what you are accepting isn’t quite cutting it, then send it back and tell the universe to try again.

“Almost” by definition doesn’t quite meet your needs. “Always” always does. Which reality do you want to fall for? The one that “almost” meets your needs or the one that “always” does.

You are worth a reality filled with always having your needs met, not almost. Almost creates a life of tension and frustration. Always awards you the happiness and satisfaction you innately deserve. Believe in yourself, you always deserve better. Don’t accept “almost” when it is put on offer, because doing so tells the universe you do not want better for yourself.

Do you want a life of “always having your needs met” or a life of “almost having them met.” The choice is yours. Aim higher and you will get higher. Prioritize yourself and your needs and recognize that always falling for “almost” can’t possibly give you “always.”

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Loving and Leaving

… is a natural cycle of life.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever.

Not every person is meant to be in your life forever.

People come in an out of your life for a reason and once that reason is served, they are free to move on… and it’s imperative that they move on.

People in your life are like trees… Some are like the leaves, they sway back and forth in the breeze and never seem to be a stable presence in your life and then they wither and die off. Some are like the branches, they have a slightly more sturdy presence in your life but may give way and betray you if you step out too far on them. And some are the roots, the roots are the people who are foundational in your life and will stand the test of time.

But not everyone in your life is a root. Nor are they meant to be. 

Most people are seasonal and come into your life to teach you certain things, inspire you, or support you on your path, and then that season is over…. and they are gone. They have to leave because they move with the seasons.

The seasons understand letting go – it happens naturally. But people fight this natural process and try to hold onto the season long after it has gone. It is important to understand that truly loving someone means letting them go when you realize the season has changed.

So leaving is a natural part of the loving process. You always have to make space for the next love to come in (both for yourself and for your partner). Don’t hold on too long to a dying leaf or a broken branch, offer it up to new growth. Recognize that you may be sad during that winter of your life, but know that spring is always just around the corner. Loving and leaving is a natural cycle of life. Love isn’t always forever, but its lessons last a lifetime.

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Giving To Those Who Cannot Give Back

… leaves you feeling drained and depleted.

We call them “energy vampires” – they take and take and never learn to give back in equal measure.

Some of us make the mistake of giving and giving – physically, mentally and emotionally to others and thinking that it will somehow come back to us? But it doesn’t always work that way. Givers are givers and takers tend to be takers. That doesn’t make them bad; it just makes them different from you. Not everyone is capable of giving to the same extent that you might be.

Some people are just naturally capable of GIVING MORE to others and some people are naturally accustomed to RECEIVING IT. Ask yourself how you show up in your relationships and then realize who you are and what level of giving you require in a harmonious relationship and DON’T ACCEPT LESS.

People will always take what is on offer so STOP GIVING if it is depleting you. It doesn’t win you any prizes. It isn’t necessary to continually support an energy vampire if they do not know how to support you in return. You never want to prioritize someone who makes you an option.

Even the sweetest, most kind-hearted and sensitive beings can be energy vampires if they do not know how to show up for you the way you need them to. Again, that doesn’t make them bad, it just makes them NOT RIGHT FOR YOU. Look for someone “in your league” – someone who deeply cares for you and for your wellbeing and someone WHO KNOWS HOW TO SHOW YOU THAT by SHOWING UP FOR YOU. In other words, look for someone who matches your level of giving. If it is “all about them,” they are most likely not at your level.

There’s no reason to be resentful. Don’t hold it against someone for not giving to you; most of them are simply incapable of doing so. A better question to be asking is – “why you have been giving someone so many chances to disappoint you?” It isn’t about someone NOT GIVING BACK TO YOU in as much as it’s about WHY YOU ARE CONTINUALLY GIVING TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T GIVE THE SAME IN RETURN.

People don’t change. Zebras don’t change their stripes because yours are prettier. It’s not enough enticement. Stop giving to those who cannot give back to you and start GIVING THEM UP. Give back to yourself the energy you put into them and before you know it, you will attract a much higher level soul who will be able to give back to you in equal measure. It’s all in the giving that we receive.

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If You Are Feeling Stuck in Your Life

… Change it up.

Explore MORE. Do MORE. Experience MORE.

Or risk staying in the same place forever.

Change doesn’t happen by standing still. Nothing ever changes in your life until you invite the powers of change in.

Everything is energy and when we repeat the same patterns of behavior that make us feel stuck and bound, we cement that energy around us. In other words, repetition is binding. By engaging in the same behavior over and over again, we create walls around us that keep us trapped in the unhappy place we’ve created for ourselves. It makes it impossible for any degree of change to reach us.

Change requires “flexible” energy – doing new things, experiencing new situations and exploring new sides to ourselves. This flexible energy has the ability to “poke holes” in the walls of stagnancy around us and bring about change.

So if you are feeling stuck, get out of your rut. Change up your routine. Do something new – anything new. Do even just one small thing differently and let that fresh energy begin to chip away at the walls that bind you.

Complacency breeds stagnancy and stagnancy cannot exist in a world where change reigns. You may not know how to get out of feeling stuck, but you can make small changes to your life and routine and those small changes have the power to break the chains that bind you.

If you are feeling stuck, change it up. Don’t let fear keep you complacent. You don’t have to have all the answers, you just have to make one small change and the universe will conspire with you to help break the chains that bind you. Anytime you are ready to be free, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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