Speak Up

… or no one will EVER hear you.

Our words are extremely powerful, yet we do not know how to use them. Generally speaking, we stuff them down and don’t say what we really want to say for fear of what others will think of us.

Your work is to be able to be honest with yourself and then honestly communicate yourself to others. You don’t win any points in life by holding back and not speaking your mind. When you hold back, you become a pawn in someone else’s play. And you are not here to live out someone else’s drama.

You are here to live YOUR PLAY, no one else’s. No one loses but you when you choose to NOT express yourself adequately. Now that does not mean to unleash fury onto people but it does expect that you speak your mind kindly, constructively and compassionately. When you can do that, you have done all you can to ensure a positive outcome in your own play.

The words we use can either make or break us. But the words we DON’T USE, never have the chance to help us.

Aren’t you tired of censoring yourself? Your feelings are important and your expression of your emotions leads to your evolution, so start talking. Your world cannot change around you if you are not communicating with others. After all, people are not mind readers and it is not their job to try and guess how you are feeling. It is your job to express yourself kindly, constructively and compassionately (without censorship) – then your work is done. You only get one life (this time around), don’t waste it holding your tongue. Things don’t get better by holding your tongue; they get better through clear, kind and constructive communication.

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The Truth Behind Sarcasm

… it is always there.

Don’t kid yourself, there is ALWAYS an element of truth behind every sarcastic remark. Every biting comment has a reason for being.

No doubt, people who are sarcastic are very entertaining. They have a way of saying things that others cannot say. But are they truly representing themselves or are they hiding behind their words?

In life, self-expressionism is key – the ability to speak your mind freely and willingly is what keeps you alive and thriving. But many people are too frightened to say what they need to say for fear of being judged, persecuted or fear of being vulnerable. Never censor yourself. If people do not like you for who you are and what you have to say, then they are not worth it. Never try to be something you are not.

Sarcastic individuals hide behind their humor and delivery. There is a sense of acceptance when they give a sarcastic remark that might not otherwise be tolerated. It is sort of a back-handed way of getting your point across. The problem with sarcasm is not just that it is a deep-seated example of passive aggressiveness and repression but it is also contains an extremely heavy and negative energy which breeds more of the same. Sarcasm carries many elements of jadedness, bitterness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc… It is not a freeing style of communication. This negativity is binding to the person who harbors it and also becomes toxic to those who engage it.

The truth behind sarcasm is that there is ALWAYS truth in every sarcastic comment. When we learn to allow ourselves to truly be who we are, we no longer need to hide behind a shroud of biting humor. That type of humor no longer becomes necessary to get our point across. When we let go of our fear of being judged and open up to being more vulnerable, our communication softens and our humor becomes less acidic/edgy and more engaging and inspiring. What’s your truth?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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