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People only see… and you can’t change that.

It’s NOT your job to change that.

Perception is reality.  A person’s perception is carefully colored by their personal experiences. Those experiences make them who they are and give them a unique perspective on the world. That perspective is their truth – whether it resonates with your or not – it’s their truth and needs to be acknowledged as such. It is important to realize that you don’t have to agree with them, you have only to accept that for them, this is their truth.

The name of the game is acceptance. In life, you want to learn to change the things you can and ACCEPT the things you can’t. There’s no use in trying to change someone’s viewpoint. It’s theirs. Your viewpoints might be in conflict because perception is reality and reality is always relative to the person perceiving it.

Save your energy the next time you are disagreeing with someone’s perception. After all, it is their reality you are challenging. The sooner that you can accept that other people will view the world and certain circumstances differently, the sooner you can head-off a potential conflict. It’s not your job to get people to see things the way you see them, it is your job to realize that people will see things through their own perceptive lens of reality and that may not match yours. And that has to be ok.

Acceptance is the name of the game. People only see what they want to see – or what they are conditioned to see, but regardless they see it through their own lens of reality. No need to fight against that lens, if it doesn’t work for you, don’t use it. Cast it aside and use your own lens. You don’t have to validate someone’s lens, you just have to accept that they have one.

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