Beating Yourself Up

… only brings you DOWN.

Where else could it bring you?

Being hard on yourself doesn’t make your life easier, it complicates things because it puts yourself in YOUR OWN WAY.

Life presents many challenges and when you’re hard on yourself, you add more challenge onto your plate and it’s self-inflicted. And for what? To make life harder? Why fight yourself? Why not work WITH YOURSELF to find solutions instead?

Regret is useless. You cannot change the past. But you CAN learn from it’s wisdom and make your future better for it.

Don’t spend time getting caught up in focusing on your faults/mistakes. Get the lesson from them and get out. Move forward and make your life better because of them. Great wisdom only comes from those faults/mistakes; they make you better. But if you beat yourself up over them, you use them as a weapon to take yourself out. And why would you use the experience that made you better as an excuse to sabotage yourself?

Recognize that wisdom comes from our mistakes. Don’t spend time beating yourself up. Spend that time applying the learning and your life will blossom in the most amazing ways.

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How People Treat You

… is about THEM and where they are in their life.

It’s NOT about you.

How you REACT is about YOU.

The way people treat you is more a reflection of who they are and where they are in their life at that moment, then it’s ever about you. But we tend to make it about us. 

You can never control how someone treats you, but you can always control how you react to them and that’s your only job.

As long as you are accepting responsibility for your life and your actions and you are consciously showing up as the best version of yourself everyday, then you’re being YOUR BEST YOU and no one can ask more of you.

How people treat you says more about where they are in their own level of consciousness and that is a playing field that you do not have to play in. Stay in your own field. Own your own behaviors, strive to be the best YOU everyday and if it isn’t good enough for someone else, realize that it’s most likely because they aren’t feeling good enough about themselves.

Stay in your own playing field. How people treat you is NEVER about you, it’s always about them. Let them learn to manage their own playing field and more importantly, keep them out of yours.

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Woulda – Shoulda – Coulda

… but you didn’t.

So move on.

Hindsight is always 20/20 but your sight in the moment is all that matters. When you make a decision, you make it with the best information you have at hand in that moment. And that is really all that matters. That is all you can do.

Circumstances and situations change all the time as people use their free will. All you can do is to acknowledge that you made the best possible decision in that moment given the information you had at hand and LET IT GO.

You cannot control every outcome. You cannot outsmart the universe. Situations unfold quite purposefully to bring you to where you need to be in your life – whether you recognize that or not.

In the moment you make a decision, recognize that at that moment in time, you made the BEST DECISION. If you made that decision from a calm, centered space and it was a decision that felt authentic to you and satisfied your needs, wants and an innate understanding of your truth, then you made the RIGHT DECISION in that moment. End of story.

It doesn’t matter what the future brings… hindsight is always 20/20 and there is always a reason why we are NOT given it upfront. If we knew all the answers before we made the decisions, we wouldn’t be learning and evolving.

Your life is always unfolding in front of you. If a decision you made seems to no longer serve you or appears to be the wrong decision for you, then it is time to make another decision. Don’t regret the decisions you make, only regret your inability to revise the equation and make amendments to it.

Life is not static… decisions are meant to evolve and grow with you. “Woulda Shoulda Coulda” is the song for victims. When you are truly empowered and in charge of your life, you realize that all is happening exactly the way it is supposed to be happening and you are being asked whether or not you can roll with the changes.

Make your decisions and DON’T LOOK BACK. Your decision was perfect in that moment. But in this new moment, you might want to readjust it slightly in order to account for your own personal evolution. Hindsight might always be 20/20 but your insight in this moment is always PERFECT.

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The Blame Game

… has NO winners.

It takes EVERYONE down.

We all want to point fingers when a situation in our lives does not play out the way we want it to. We somehow tend to blame others for our dissatisfaction in our relationships, careers, money, weight and/or in our addiction issues. We think “well, I am this way because someone did this to me” and we point fingers at others instead of accepting responsibility for where we are now. The truth is that it doesn’t matter what happened to you in the past – it’s over – and now YOU OWN IT, how are you going to make your life better? Recognize that looking back and blaming someone will certainly not make it any better because you are the ONLY one who can make a change in your life.

The fact of the matter is … you are where you are because of the choices you have made or the choices you have ALLOWED to be made. Believe it or not, no one put you anywhere that you haven’t allowed. For example, being in an abusive relationship with someone makes you the victim of abuse; BUT recognizing that you have allowed yourself to be in an abusive relationship empowers you to accept responsibility for your choices and inspires you to make better choices for yourself moving forward. In other words, you may have suffered abuse, but no one made you stay there. Blaming the abuser will not change your life. Empowering yourself to make the decision to leave will.

Pointing the finger assures you will always be the victim of your life. But accepting responsibility for how you have gotten to where you have gotten to always empowers you to make change.

No one wins the blame game. No matter how much you want to point the finger, it will NEVER change the past. If you are blaming others for your current situation, you have missed the opportunity to make a better situation for yourself.

Don’t blame others for where you are in life. Pointing fingers will never make your life better. Accept responsibility for your where you are and make changes that have the potential to create the life you really want. Haven’t you waited long enough?

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