Looking Back to the Past

… is only helpful to the extent it allows you to move forward into your future. 

If it doesn’t, it keeps you back.

Your life is only ever in front of you, never behind you. The past can be an informative tool if we don’t get trapped in it.

If you want to uncover the root of the problem, go to the source, but don’t stay there very long. You may forget why you went there. It’s very easy to get sucked into the pain of the past and by doing so, lose your footing along the path of your future.

Don’t look back, you’re not going that way, but if you need to get closure, look back for only as long as you can get the valuable learning from the experience. Get the lesson and get out — a better future is always waiting for you to apply the wisdom of the past.

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Life is a String of Moments

… one after another.

A moment in time is NEVER forever. A moment can change you and then it leaves you. Nothing ever stays the same; life is always in a constant state of flux.

Moments are fleeting – they can be special or they can be painful, but they cannot be forever — they’re always meant to be moved through and replaced by a new moment.

Don’t get attached to a happy moment, it is not here to stay. And don’t get attached to a unhappy moment, it’s always on its way out. 

Every moment is an opportunity for transformation. Every moment gives you a chance to recreate yourself anew — and then that moment is gone.

You’re also never trapped in a moment — if a moment in your life makes you unhappy, know that it will soon be over. That’s the beauty of the moment — you’re never where you are for very long.

Life is just a string of moments. No matter what the moment brings you — know that it’ll never last forever. Give gratitude for it and be patient with it. A new moment is coming, a new opportunity is dawning and a new chance to begin again is on its way.

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When People Can’t Hear You

… stop talking.

You can have the best of intentions and give the best advice but if someone is not in a place to hear it, they will NOT hear it.

Everyone has their own insecurities and their own sensitivities which bias the way they receive information.

For example, they might be sensitive to the content itself — to your tone — or to your delivery. This is because everyone has their own lens from which they filter data — their perception becomes their reality and it is heightened when that perception is shaped by their insecurities. 

If someone is too sensitive to hear your constructive guidance, stop giving it. Stop trying to make your words relevant to them. Let them process the data in their own way and let go of the outcome.

When people can’t hear you, their filters are defensively rejecting your feedback. When they take your guidance “the wrong way,” they may be in the process of defending their ego. Step away.

There are always 2-sides to every story. All you can do is own your intentions; you cannot change others’ filter. If you truly feel you were helping someone with integrity and if that someone feels judged or attacked by your attempts to help them; they are not in a place to hear your guidance. Stop talking.

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If It Excites You

… it’s right for you.

If it depletes you, it holds no value for you.

When making decisions you always want to follow your emotional guidance system. It tells you everything you need to know about WHAT’S RIGHT for you.

Passion is your purpose — it will always lead you to the right places. Don’t doubt the inspiration coming through you. It doesn’t have to make sense. You only have to trust it and move towards it.

When you move in the direction of things that make you happy/excited/inspired, you are open to the possibilities. When you resist your inspiration and ignore what feels exciting to you, you kill the impetus for change and keep yourself locked in a pattern of frustration and stagnation.

Not everything in life is meant to be difficult. Life is meant to be joyful. Why listen to the voices of despair when the voices of excitement are so much more encouraging.

Trust your intuition — if it excites you, it’s right for you. If it depletes you, it holds no value for you. It’s your life — you’re the only one who knows the difference.

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Your Story is Meant to Be Rewritten

… not reread.

What’s your story? Is it serving you? Is it bringing you to the place you want to be in your life?

If not, STOP REREADING IT and START REWRITING IT.

You do not have to pack up your history and bring it forward into your destiny. But many of us do. 

We do it everyday that we decide we’re going to pack up our negative experiences, thought forms and limited beliefs and define ourselves by them. We do it when we decide that we are a VICTIM of our circumstances rather than a MASTER of them.

Here’s the SECRET: it lies in your perception.

Just because something is true for you, doesn’t mean it has to become your truth. You are in charge of what becomes real for you. And what you give your attention to is what becomes your reality. So, if it isn’t working for you, do not give it any attention and watch it fall away.

The story you tell yourself becomes the story of your life. If that story isn’t working anymore, stop rereading it and start rewriting it. A new chapter is waiting to begin. The question is — are you ready to write it or are you still rereading the last one?

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Accepting Where You Are in Life

… can bring you somewhere new.

Fighting against it, will keep you stuck in it.

Resistance gets you nowhere. What you resists, persists — what you look at disappears. If you’re trying to run from something, it’ll forever have a hold over you. If you can accept it, you can move beyond it. 

Fighting against something keeps it alive in your experience, but accepting it can free up mental/emotional space to help you set your sights elsewhere to create something new. Once you accept the reality, you are free to transform it. 

Don’t spend your time fighting against what you don’t want. Accept that you are where you are in your life (for whatever reason got you there) and now make some new decisions to move into a new direction that better suits you.

Don’t lament where you are in your life. Experience brought you there and acceptance will free you — resistance keeps you trapped. Fighting with your demons keeps you embroiled in a battle with them. Make friends with those demons so that they step aside and let you move on with your life.

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Happiness isn’t something you GET

…. it’s something you CREATE for yourself.

We’re so conditioned to expect something OUTSIDE of us to make us happy, but WAITING for something to make you happy will NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY because happiness isn’t something you get, it’s something you create for yourself. It’s A STATE OF MIND which you, yourself, cultivate and once internally cultivated, it has the power to transform you.

You always have a choice as to the emotion you are experiencing. EMOTIONS ARE BORN OUT OF YOUR THOUGHTS. If you’re focusing on thoughts that support despair or negativity, you’re fostering unhappiness. But if you focus on thoughts that inspire you, YOU’LL NATURALLY CREATE A STATE OF HAPPINESS WITHIN. In other words, you’ll soon feel better because you’ve influenced your mind to do so.

Your thoughts dictate whether or not you’ll experience happiness. If you’re thinking a thought that is NOT making you happy, CHANGE IT until it does. And if it’s impossible to alter that thought, then shut it down and replace it with a thought that feels better to you. By creating a happier state of mind, the world relates to you differently — remember when you’re happy, the world smiles with you and when you’re sad, you cry alone. 

Happiness is your birthright. But you have to first learn to cultivate it from within. If you’re still waiting for external events outside of you to make you happy, you’ll be waiting an eternity. Don’t give your power over to any person or situation for your happiness. Take control of your thoughts and shift your emotions. When you learn to find ANY reason to be happy — you’ll have EVERY reason to be happy. 

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Practicing Gratitude

… grats you more.

When you’re grateful for what you have, you’re rewarded with more of it. This is because your attention to the positive aspects of life draw onto you more of the same.

But nobody teaches us that.

We’re so goal oriented that the focus tends to stay on what we do not have rather than relish what we do have, and subsequently because our focus is on the lack of what we desire, we only succeed in creating more of it. 

You can’t get to what you want by focusing on what you don’t. Learn to practice gratitude for what you have and it’ll continue to bring more of the same. Like attracts like — happy and fulfilled always brings more happiness and fulfillment. How could it not?

Take back control over your thoughts. Focusing on what you don’t have doesn’t bring it quicker. It only keeps it from you. 

By practicing gratitude, it’ll grat you even more than you desire. It’s not about NOT having what you want, it’s about being grateful for what you have. 

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Wherever You Go, You Take Yourself With You

… where else would you go?

We all have our personal issues and they always seem to show up through the dance of relationship.

We are very quick to identify other people’s issues, but not as quick to identify our own.

When a breakdown in relationship occurs, there’s a natural tendency to blame and point fingers. But that’s the easy way out. In reality, it takes 2 to tango; issues are seldom one-sided. Learn to own what’s yours and give the rest back. 

You can jump out of a relationship when problems occur, but they’ll just follow you onto the next relationship because wherever you go, you take yourself with you. You pack up all your issues, sling them over your shoulder and bring them forward into the next relationship.

Our bags are pretty full and they’re weighing us down. Wouldn’t it be easier to unpack them, go through them and separate the dirty laundry from the clean? It’s more discreet and constructive to store our baggage in our new partner’s guest closet than it is to explode our dirty laundry all over their front foyer.

Do your work. Own what’s yours and give the rest back. No one is responsible for healing you. You can run from your problems, but you can’t run from yourself. It’ll just be a matter of time before you get caught.

Wherever you go, you take yourself with you. Life can be a long and exhaustive journey. Better to travel light and learn to check your emotions. 

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Shortcuts in Life

… take LONGER in the end.

There are no shortcuts to your own life experience.

Life builds onto itself everyday with every new experience and EVERY NEW EXPERIENCE IS NEEDED TO MOVE ONTO THE NEXT PHASE OF YOUR LIFE. 

Your life is a step-by-step amalgamation of your experiences, so if you don’t explore the wisdom of the phase you’re currently in, YOU’LL NEVER MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE.

Don’t try to shortchange yourself by taking a shortcut, it’ll just leave you empty-handed and stuck in the same place. If you’re not moving forward in your life, ask yourself if you’ve sufficiently cleaned out your emotional attic? Every experience we have comes with its own attic we’d rather not open.

Think about it, you can’t renovate your upstairs if you still haven’t cleaned out your attic. If you don’t learn from and let go of old experiences, how can you move forward and build a new living situation for yourself? You can’t.

Shortcuts may seem like a great idea in the short run, but in the long run they leave you at a dead-end. Don’t look for the easy way out. The easy way out is just that — EASY, it’s NEVER better. 

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