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People only see… and you can’t change that.

It’s NOT your job to change that.

Perception is reality.  A person’s perception is carefully colored by their personal experiences. Those experiences make them who they are and give them a unique perspective on the world. That perspective is their truth – whether it resonates with your or not – it’s their truth and needs to be acknowledged as such. It is important to realize that you don’t have to agree with them, you have only to accept that for them, this is their truth.

The name of the game is acceptance. In life, you want to learn to change the things you can and ACCEPT the things you can’t. There’s no use in trying to change someone’s viewpoint. It’s theirs. Your viewpoints might be in conflict because perception is reality and reality is always relative to the person perceiving it.

Save your energy the next time you are disagreeing with someone’s perception. After all, it is their reality you are challenging. The sooner that you can accept that other people will view the world and certain circumstances differently, the sooner you can head-off a potential conflict. It’s not your job to get people to see things the way you see them, it is your job to realize that people will see things through their own perceptive lens of reality and that may not match yours. And that has to be ok.

Acceptance is the name of the game. People only see what they want to see – or what they are conditioned to see, but regardless they see it through their own lens of reality. No need to fight against that lens, if it doesn’t work for you, don’t use it. Cast it aside and use your own lens. You don’t have to validate someone’s lens, you just have to accept that they have one.

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tumblr_static_it-is-what-it-is… and it is ALWAYS going to be OK.

That is the only thing you ever need to remember in life. Whatever happens…  it is ALL going to be OK.

We are so quick to judge events in our lives as good or bad. If it gets labeled “good,” it’s time to go out and celebrate, and if it is labeled “bad,” we can easily fall into a dark space feeling somewhat victimized.

The difference between these two states is purely perception. All events in our lives are relatively equal in their capacity to teach us a lesson and mold us into smarter, wiser and more balanced human beings. But indeed, most of our best learning opportunities are experiences that have challenged us.

Don’t judge a situation as good or bad. Once it has been labeled by you, your perception creates your own reality. An event is just that – an event. You are the one who deems it positive or negative and then you will be the only one experiencing the fallout of your own perception.

The wise say, “When you are going through hell, just KEEP GOING.” Don’t stop and label it as hell and allow yourself to suffer. Just keep pushing through it and before you know it, you will come out the other side where the sun is shining. The sun never goes in. It is always out in some part of the world. Just like in life, the sun never sets on us, but we tend to want to wallow in pity and pain and as a result we drag ourselves into long, dark tunnels.

You are in control of whether or not you allow yourself to get stuck in a dark tunnel. Everything is what it is – and it is ALWAYS going to be OK however you decide to label it. So make it easier on yourself. Remember that you are never alone. You are supremely taken care of. There is a divine force in place that is guiding you towards learning and once we realize that our darkness is attributed to our own perceptions, then we can allow the sun to come out again.

Any event is what it is, but it will ALWAYS become what you make of it. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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