When Bad Things Happen

… your work is to make your life BETTER because of it.

End of story.

In life you always have a choice. A choice to either fall into the victimhood of the “bad” situation or you can muster up the energy to pick yourself up and transform the “bad” into something even better.

The choice to either let the situation destroy you or strengthen you is always yours. How you look at a situation determines its power over you. And how you respond to a situation determines the quality of your next life experience.

All bad experiences only happen to bring you to a better and higher place. The difficult situations are the real gifts – that’s where the real learning/growing takes place. The happier situations are just the rewards, there is no real growth during those periods.

When you can learn to pick yourself up after every fall, dust yourself off and keep going – the best way you know how – the universe always responds in kind and the rewards are tenfold. When you work towards your highest outcome, the universe will work with you to help you achieve that outcome. But when you slump into the lower outcome, it will let you sit there alone in your misery.

Do you want to rise up and live your best life? Keep searching for the higher place. Reframe all situations so that your life can be on the up-and-up. You will be given every assistance along the way as long as you are walking the higher side of your path.

When bad things happen, it is your job to make things better for yourself – any way possible. When you can get into the habit of becoming better for having had those experiences, the universe will bring you everything you desire. The choice is always yours.

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When It Rains, It Pours

… it always does.

Our life lessons are grouped. It is rare that you will be dealt just ONE lesson, they usually travel in packs. It is best to be prepared for them.

It is also important to realize that you are not being punished and that you are not a victim of them. You are in fact, in total control of how you get those lessons (or if you get them at all.)

Say you are in an important lesson-learning phase of your life to learn one major lesson (e.g. self-esteem) and you have 10 tests coming up to deliver that lesson to you. Your testing period could last as little as 3 months or as long as 10 years. You are in control of how quickly you get that lesson. Every time you get hit with the lesson, if you can pick yourself up and identify the lesson, then you will have “won” that round. Then the universe serves up the next test to you to see if you get that one. All the tests support the same lesson so it gets easier to see. The quicker you get the lesson, the quicker you get dealt the next test and ultimately the quicker you work through all tests. When you finish the tests, you have truly gotten the lesson and the lesson STOPS. You are free.

Now if you choose to NOT get the lesson and just feel sorry for yourself and play the victim, then the universe will hold off dishing you up the next test because it waits for you to be “relatively” ready for it. In your attempt to be happy, you keep yourself in a space of non-learning which feels like an unhappy, stagnant and frustrating space where nothing new happens. Maybe you have been there before?

When it rains, it pours. Let it pour down on you. Grow through those tests and get that lesson. Tell the universe to give you its best shot. If you are smart, you will NOT stay inside to avoid the rain, you will get a great umbrella and learn to dance your way through the rain. Life continues and the storms will get easier with each lesson learned. Are you ready to get wet?

 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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What Your Resist, Persists

…what you look at disappears.

In life, we fail to realize that everything is energy. When you do not want to have a specific experience because you deem it negative, you resist that experience. That action of resistance is a firm and decisive action that tells the universe, NO. But what we are not seeing is that it does not alleviate the experience you are having. It only brings more “NO” to your door. By resisting something, you are putting the energy of NO out into the universe.

For example, if you do not want to feel emotional pain from a relationship and you fight the experience you are having because you cannot surrender to the pain and transform it, then you only manage to perpetuate the pain you are feeling. And what is worse, you are putting out the sign on your front door saying, “No.” Again, that no does not stop your pain, but it will certainly put an end to good experiences that were coming your way. No simply attracts more NO – no happiness, no good fortune, no laughter, no new relationship, etc… No says means NO or nothing.

If we could learn to surrender to our life lessons and all experiences – both good and bad and not fight them, then we would remain open enough to invite the energy of “openness” or YES to the table. The sooner you can accept your situation and surrender to it’s greater lesson, the sooner that energy of YES will transform the situation and open you up to more positive experiences. Yes says, “I am open, I am willing, I would like to receive.”

Surrender to your experience and allow whatever is going to be, to be. Remember, what you resist, persists (and by doing so encourages the energy of NO). What you look at disappears (and by doing so transforms all experiences into YES). It is, by definition, always your choice.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynn, click here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coaching, click here.

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