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… walk away with love.

ALWAYS with love.

Our lives consist of many different types of relationships, but not every one of those relationships is meant to be in your life forever. And even those that are, seldom make it there, unfortunately.

Not everyone will understand you and support who you are. Not everyone will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Not everyone will make time for you. Not everyone will be able to communicate with you. Not everyone will recognize the beauty in your relationship until it’s too late. And certainly not everyone will recognize what they have lost until they have truly lost it. That’s generally how it works.

And some people NEVER learn but remain comfortable in their patterns — forever blaming their patterns for why they cannot move forward. And forever repeating those patterns in hopes that one day they find the “magic person” who can fix it for them. But that never works.

Relationships aren’t important for where they bring you to, they are only important for how they have changed you.

If people you are involved with cannot see the value of what you bring to the table, then they do not get to have you.

But love them anyway.

Love them because they taught you so much about yourself. Love them because they helped shape your heart and open your mind. Love them because they unveiled your hidden pain and your fears so you could work on them. Love them because they taught you what you do and DO NOT want to experience in a relationship. Love them because it is that love that will transform you. And finally love them, because if you don’t, you will just carry the scars of that hurt forward into your next relationship. And you deserve better than that.

When people can’t appreciate what they have in you, don’t fight them, quietly disappear from their lives, and take that love with you. When you leave with love, you leave with all the learning that made you BETTER. You are the one who wins. Let that love transform you on your path forward and happily open you up to a new tomorrow.

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letting-go-hands… to make room for what WILL.

You can’t have both.

Nor do you want both!

All too often we make the mistake of packing up WHAT DIDN’T WORK FOR US that year and dragging it forward into the new year thinking that it will somehow be different? But it NEVER is.

Chances are if something has been troublesome for you for awhile, it’s time for you to LET IT GO. Continued struggle is never a trajectory for success.

Stop the struggle. Learn to trust the process of your life. It will always bring you to where you need to be; you don’t have to control it. But you just have to be brave enough to know when it’s time to walk away and surrender.

If something didn’t work for you in this calendar year, LEAVE IT THERE. Put your focus on creating something BETTER for yourself. Even if you don’t know what that means just yet. It’s always better to start with nothing then to start off the year behind the 8-ball with the same drama. Why put yourself on that same road when you know exactly where that road leads?

The new year is a time for change. Don’t waste it packing up what didn’t work and dragging it into the new year. You don’t have enough space to find new answers if you are fighting the same dysfunction. Make some new year’s resolutions and resolve yourself to making them a reality. Get out of the way of yourself and let go of what was not working for you this year, so you truly have the space to find what will work.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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never-expect-people… and you’ll NEVER be disappointed.

It’s a beautiful gift to be able to see the potential in people – to be able to see what they’re capable of and to believe in them (even when they don’t believe in themselves).

But just because you see the potential in someone doesn’t mean they themselves are ready to rise to that potential. Not everyone is ready to embody the idealized version of them you might be holding. Expectations destroy relationships. Never expect someone to be other than who they are. It’s unfair to them and it’s unfair to you.

When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. And don’t expect them to show up otherwise. It doesn’t serve you to EXPECT that people act in a certain way. It only sets you up for disappointment when they don’t.

Stop believing in people’s potential and start believing in how they are showing up in this moment. Because that is all you have. Nothing else is real.

The easiest way to destroy a relationship is to expect someone to act in a way that is not authentic to them. Let your expectations go. Stop trying to change people. People have to want to change on their own.

Let people be who they are and if who they are doesn’t work for you, make another decision. But don’t spend one more second trying to make them into who you think they should be. When people tell you who they are, believe them and never expect them to be other than who they are and you will NEVER be disappointed.

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head-in-hands-300x200-1… carrying it with you, is.

We make mistakes everyday, it’s human nature. In fact it’s an important part of life because it leads to our transformation.

The problem is NEVER in making the mistake, it’s in REGRETTING the mistake versus moving on with its wisdom. 

Regrets lead you nowhere. What’s done is done. Now you have the opportunity to apply the learning to move forward into a better life. Mistakes make you better. They teach you what you will never do again. They make you wiser and put you on a much better life trajectory.

But all too often we choose to focus our energies on regretting the very mistakes that were necessary for our growth. But regretting your mistakes will NEVER move you forward into a better future, it only keeps you stuck reliving your unfulfilling decisions – over and over again. And why would you want to do that?

Cut yourself a break. You’re human and you’re here to learn – mistakes are all part of that paradigm. You are who you are and you can only make the best decisions you can in that moment. Then you need to let go and NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP. Take the learning from the mistake and shut it down, then take that learning and make the rest of your life better for it. There isn’t any other way to live. Just know that making a mistake is NEVER the problem, carrying it with you, always is.

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Feeling Fulfilled… it’s keeping you back.

Because it exhausts you to stay in a place where you are NOT being fulfilled. 

It takes energy from you, weakening you and rendering you powerless.

We feed energy to unfulfilling jobs, unfulfilling relationships and unfulfilling situations all the time, never realizing the energetic footprint it has on our lives.

When you feed energy to someone/something, the hope is that it is a smart investment of energy and that it will yield an abundant return, but that is NOT always the case. When the energy invested is not giving back in equal measure, it is depleting you and working against you by keeping you unhappy and powerless to get out of it.

What fulfills you, feeds you. What doesn’t fulfill you depletes you. Where do you want to place your energy? Into something or someone that is sucking the life out of you or into something that has the potential to give back and feed you in return? The choice is always yours.

Own your actions. You control where you put your energetic resources. No one is responsible for draining the life out of you, but you. If it isn’t fulfilling you, it’s keeping you back and keeping you from experiencing your true magnificence. The name of the game is FULFILLMENT and if it isn’t fulfilling you, it’s hurting you. Time to make a move.

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th-3… it’s because BETTER things are working their way towards you.

Yet somehow we never see that.

We prefer to fall into the sadness and depression of it all wondering, “why does this always happen to me?”

Truth is that nothing in life ever happens to you, it always happens for you to bring you to a BETTER place, whether or not you can see that at the time.

The disappointments are never there to crush your spirit or tear you down. They are specifically happening to tell you that what you were hoping for was never a viable option and to keep walking because there is something better suited for you right around the corner.

You can never lose what is real for you. If you lose it, it was never going to be yours for the long term.

Things only leave our lives when it is time for them to be replaced with something more suitable and fulfilling. The mistake we make is in trying to hold onto what is leaving our hands. The universe knows what is best for you and it will always clear the decks to make room for it.

If it doesn’t work out for you, it wasn’t fulfilling you on some level and maybe you were reluctant to see that. You can never lose what is real. If it is not working out, learn to detach from it and move on with grace. Recognize that when things don’t work out for you, it is ALWAYS because better things are working their way towards you. Learn to trust the process of your life. Get out of the way of yourself and get excited for what is waiting in the wings.

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th… is a natural cycle of life.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever.

Not every person is meant to be in your life forever.

People come in an out of your life for a reason and once that reason is served, they are free to move on… and it’s imperative that they move on.

People in your life are like trees… Some are like the leaves, they sway back and forth in the breeze and never seem to be a stable presence in your life and then they wither and die off. Some are like the branches, they have a slightly more sturdy presence in your life but may give way and betray you if you step out too far on them. And some are the roots, the roots are the people who are foundational in your life and will stand the test of time.

But not everyone in your life is a root. Nor are they meant to be. 

Most people are seasonal and come into your life to teach you certain things, inspire you, or support you on your path, and then that season is over…. and they are gone. They have to leave because they move with the seasons.

The seasons understand letting go – it happens naturally. But people fight this natural process and try to hold onto the season long after it has gone. It is important to understand that truly loving someone means letting them go when you realize the season has changed.

So leaving is a natural part of the loving process. You always have to make space for the next love to come in (both for yourself and for your partner). Don’t hold on too long to a dying leaf or a broken branch, offer it up to new growth. Recognize that you may be sad during that winter of your life, but know that spring is always just around the corner. Loving and leaving is a natural cycle of life. Love isn’t always forever, but its lessons last a lifetime.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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