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difference-between-depression-and-sadness… it’s about your state of mind.

So change it.

Reducing your stress level (about your schedule) is about controlling your mind, NOT your schedule.

Understandably so, most of us become stressed due to the schedules we work under. We’re time-impoverished and that creates a source of stress in our lives.

But believe it or not, stress is a choice. It’s a choice in perception.

You can either allow your schedule to “stress you out” or you can change your perception of your schedule. In other words, your schedule doesn’t have to be a source of stress, but the way you mentally label it will be.

You may not always be able to control your schedule, but you can always control HOW YOU REACT TO IT. So, know that you can change the way you are viewing your schedule. For instance, you can either see your schedule as “full and fulfilling” or it can be seen as “busy and overwhelming.”

A schedule is just that, a schedule; the mental perception we attach to it is the way we will experience it. The same holds for anything in life – an event/situation/person is just that, but the perception we attach to it, is how we will experience it.

Do you want to feel more in control of your life? Do you want to have less stress? Learn to redefine what you’re looking at. When you redefine your situation, you will experience it very differently. You are always in control of how you see things. Just know that stress is never about your schedule, it’s about your state of mind as you make your way through it. 

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How people treat you… is about THEM and where they are in their life.

It’s NOT about you.

How you REACT is about YOU.

The way people treat you is more a reflection of who they are and where they are in their life at that moment, then it’s ever about you. But we tend to make it about us. 

You can never control how someone treats you, but you can always control how you react to them and that’s your only job.

As long as you are accepting responsibility for your life and your actions and you are consciously showing up as the best version of yourself everyday, then you’re being YOUR BEST YOU and no one can ask more of you.

How people treat you says more about where they are in their own level of consciousness and that is a playing field that you do not have to play in. Stay in your own field. Own your own behaviors, strive to be the best YOU everyday and if it isn’t good enough for someone else, realize that it’s most likely because they aren’t feeling good enough about themselves.

Stay in your own playing field. How people treat you is NEVER about you, it’s always about them. Let them learn to manage their own playing field and more importantly, keep them out of yours.

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th… brings it RIGHT TO YOU.

Detaching from it, dissolves it for you.

Which sounds like the path of least resistance?

We have it wrong in our society, we continually FIGHT AGAINST what we DON’T WANT in our lives. But in doing so, we actually feed energy to the very thing we don’t want.

So, if there is something in your life that you do NOT want, do NOT give it any attention at all. Detach from it. Take back your energy and don’t feed energy into your thoughts of resistance, anger, worries or fears of it happening. Just re-focus your thoughts on something else. When you re-focus your thoughts, you put the energy into a different arena and what you are resisting slowly dissipates from your reality.

Thoughts need energy to become real. And you are always in control of whether or not you make any thought real. Take back your power and put your energy ONLY into the thoughts you want to experience in your life. Fighting against something makes sure you get it, detaching from the mere thought of it assures that it will NEVER make its way into your existence. Which way would you prefer to live?

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The road of life… is contingent on the quality of your driving.

How good a driver are you?

Are you in the driver’s seat of your life or is your life driving you?

You are always in control of your life although so many of us tend to fall asleep at the wheel. We go on auto-pilot and miss the key exits that we should have taken along the way – the exits that would have broadened our horizons and took us on amazing journeys into ourselves.

Sometimes we shut down to living our life and we adopt coping mechanisms that numb our performance. We just set the cruise control, sit back and passively let life pass us by. We hide behind “too busy at work to deal,” “too busy with family,” “too busy trying to make money to survive,” etc… These tactics coupled with drug use, alcohol, binge tv watching, over-eating, etc… are convenient distraction strategies which prohibit you from taking control over your life.

It’s your life. You are behind the wheel. How are you driving it? Are you living up to your potential or are you letting life pass you by? Are you missing the exits of your life that could enrich you? Or are you driving in the fast lane and in complete control of your destiny? The road of life is contingent on the quality of your driving. The more conscious, aware and mindful you are of the road, the less likely you are to lose control over your life. Wake up and get into the drivers seat of your life. Take control and steer your life in the direction you want it to go. For if you don’t, you will never be driving your life, you will forever be at the mercy of the road.

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a healthy ego… and NOTHING to prove.

So if you have something to prove, you may want to check-in with your ego.

Healthy egos create healthy humans. But in our fast paced society of competition and status, sometimes our egos default to the power outside of us rather than highlighting the power within us.  Our egos can become misguided and singularly focused on some notion of external power. But real power has nothing to prove. It just is. If your ego is healthy, you have NO NEED to wield your power over others, you are happy to use that power in support of others’ development. But when your ego is unhealthy, it needs to use it’s power outside of itself to control and manipulate everyone around you in order to feel safe and/or important, valued and validated.

How healthy is your ego? Where is your power center? Inside or outside? When you learn that a healthy ego is inwardly directed, you realize that you have it all within yourself. If people do not see how fabulous you are, it isn’t your job to prove it to them. It is only your job to prove it to yourself. So always put that external energy back into yourself and in time, everyone will see that you are “the REAL DEAL,” not only because you have everything to offer, but because you truly have absolutely no need to prove it to anyone. A healthy ego validates itself; it never needs validation from outside.

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th-5… doesn’t get you very far.

LIVING IT does.

Believe it or not, we spend most of our waking lives, ASLEEP – completely sleepwalking – repeating the same patterns that haven’t served us year after year and wondering why happiness always eludes us?

We wake up from our slumber some 10-years, 20-years later and ask, “how did I get here?”

Here’s the deal… racing your way through life doesn’t get you anywhere IF YOU ARE RUNNING IN CIRCLES. But no one ever tells us that. They just encourage us to keep running – to keep competing – to keep surviving.

The years go by and we keep running just “to keep up”, but never asking ourselves, “where are we running to?”

Do YOU know where you are going in life? Have you set the course or is the course driving you? Who’s in charge? If you do not know, you might just wake up from your run and realize you do not want to be where you ended up. Somehow the race took you off-path – off YOUR LIFE PATH, that is. But in reality, was it the path that led you astray or was it your unconscious decision to follow that path, the problem?

Chasing the years of your life keeps you running in circles. Stop running just to keep up and START asking yourself if you are even ON THE RIGHT PATH. Start there. Set your own life course and consciously follow it everyday. If you do that, you will never regret the path you find yourself on. It is the path you chose with absolute certainty; not the one you absent-mindedly found yourself on.

The years of your life go so quickly. How do you want to spend them? Chasing those lost years or driving the years you want to be living? When you are ready to stop blindly running and start mindfully living, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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th… it’s trying to tell you something.

Every event and every situation that shows up in your life is guiding you along your path. There are NO coincidences.

The events and situations that occur in your life are very purposeful – they are happening to awaken you and bring you to a higher level of consciousness and happiness. They are specifically bringing you to a better place – if you can pay attention to them.

Unfortunately, most people do not pay attention to their lives. They are sleepwalking their way through their lives – bumping into the same walls and hitting the same obstacles over and over again. They run the all too familiar mouse wheel of existence because it is anesthetizingly familiar.

Pay attention to your life. It has something to teach you. Wake up and listen.

Life whispers to you through every feeling you have, subtly saying, “wake up… make a turn here…. you are unhappy. Get off this road.”

Life whispers to you through every new person you encounter.

Life whispers to you through every experience and every new road you venture down.

Life whispers to you through every line in a movie and every lyric of a song.

It is always whispering… “listen to me.. pay attention to this…. this will help you… this is the answer you are seeking.”

Listen to the whispers of your life and let them lead you to the life you are meant to be living. If you do not pay attention to your life, you will miss the subtle bends in the road and may end up in a ditch.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR LIFE, nothing haphazardly happens to you. Every situation/event is carefully orchestrated to bring you towards higher learning and a higher understanding of yourself and your needs.

Wake up. Don’t let your life pass you by without getting the meaning from it. Pay attention and catch the open doors of opportunity before they slam shut in front of you.

Your life is your road map to success… pay attention to it; it is ALWAYS trying to tell you something.

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The Blame Game… has NO winners.

It takes EVERYONE down.

We all want to point fingers when a situation in our lives does not play out the way we want it to. We somehow tend to blame others for our dissatisfaction in our relationships, careers, money, weight and/or in our addiction issues. We think “well, I am this way because someone did this to me” and we point fingers at others instead of accepting responsibility for where we are now. The truth is that it doesn’t matter what happened to you in the past – it’s over – and now YOU OWN IT, how are you going to make your life better? Recognize that looking back and blaming someone will certainly not make it any better because you are the ONLY one who can make a change in your life.

The fact of the matter is … you are where you are because of the choices you have made or the choices you have ALLOWED to be made. Believe it or not, no one put you anywhere that you haven’t allowed. For example, being in an abusive relationship with someone makes you the victim of abuse; BUT recognizing that you have allowed yourself to be in an abusive relationship empowers you to accept responsibility for your choices and inspires you to make better choices for yourself moving forward. In other words, you may have suffered abuse, but no one made you stay there. Blaming the abuser will not change your life. Empowering yourself to make the decision to leave will.

Pointing the finger assures you will always be the victim of your life. But accepting responsibility for how you have gotten to where you have gotten to always empowers you to make change.

No one wins the blame game. No matter how much you want to point the finger, it will NEVER change the past. If you are blaming others for your current situation, you have missed the opportunity to make a better situation for yourself.

Don’t blame others for where you are in life. Pointing fingers will never make your life better. Accept responsibility for your where you are and make changes that have the potential to create the life you really want. Haven’t you waited long enough?

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th-7… makes you JUST as crazy.

Yet we try to do it anyway.

In life, your only responsibility is to express yourself to others and to do so kindly, constructively and compassionately. Then your work is DONE. You owe nothing else.

Your work is never to make the other person understand you. In fact, they may NEVER understand you. They may never be able to understand you. But that is about them, NOT YOU.

People always come to the table with their own bag of tricks – their own fears, struggles and hidden pains that generally create protective barriers around them. In other words, people shut down to hearing what might very well cause them pain or confusion or burst their bubble of “reality.”

But here’s the deal… those walls are theirs and it is not your job to try and tear them down so that they can hear you. Your job is only to express your truth in the kindest fashion possible and then LET IT GO. Don’t need them to agree with you. And certainly don’t argue with them either. Instead give them space to hear and digest what you have said. They will come around in their own time and if they don’t, they might not be the right people to have in your life at that moment.

It is also important to remember that people who are hurting naturally come across as “illogical and irrational” in their speech, but again, you cannot change that for them. You can only offer your truth with kindness, compassion and understanding. And realize at that point that your work is done. Bless them and walk away.

Trying to negotiate with crazy will make you just as crazy. Recognize that it’s NEVER your job to convince someone of your feelings and intentions. It is only your job to express them with kindness and let others find their way with them. When they are ready, they will hear you and in the interim, invest in others who are more open to who you are and what you have to say. After all, life is too short to feel like you are talking to a wall. Don’t make yourself crazy, put your energy into talking with someone whom you can actually have a 2-way dialogue with.

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sleepwalking… will always leave you in a place you do NOT want to be.

How could it leave you anywhere else?

No one consciously sets out to sleepwalk. It is an unconscious programming – an unconscious walk throughout your life. If you are NOT consciously looking at your behavior and how you are showing up in life, then you are sleepwalking your way through it and most likely will wake up in a place you didn’t mean to be in.

Why is that the case? Because sleepwalking is unconscious. And only conscious behavior can bring you to where you want to be in your life. Sleepwalking only purports negative programming as it encourages repetitive deconstructive cycles – as in nighttime eating and dangerous walking, etc. Sleepwalking doesn’t get you ahead. It keeps you stuck in negative cycles.

If you are not looking at your behavioral patterns and questioning how it is you got to where you are in your life, then you are NOT doing the work of conscious walking. You are most likely reacting unconsciously to what is going on for you and subsequently sleepwalking your way through it.

You can keep blaming everyone else for the bad that happens in your life or you can wake up today from your debilitating slumber and realize that you have brought it all on yourself and decide that you want to change it. People who sleepwalk blame others for waking up naked outside. People who are awake acknowledge that they have some issues that are causing them to want to take off their clothes and run naked through the streets in their sleep and as a result, they begin to do the work on healing those issues so they can break the pattern.

Wake up, your life is too short to sleepwalk it away. Get back into the driver’s seat of your life and vow to identify your patterns and make the decision to address your issues more consciously. Personal transformation starts with the recognition that you want to WAKE UP TO YOUR LIFE. It is happening right here, right now and the sooner you can wake up and recognize that the decisions you may have made thus far are not serving you, the sooner you can make decisions that will better serve you.

Are you ready to wake up and own your life or are you still sleepwalking? Any time you are ready to stop hitting the snooze button, your life will truly begin.

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