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fear-of-harming-killing1-300x201… is good enough.

In fact, it is better than good enough. It’s awesome.

At an early age we are trained in our society that we have to conform to a certain standard for social acceptance and respect in our communities. We mistakenly believe we have to attend the “right schools,” hold the “right jobs,” live in the “right type of home” in the “right neighborhood” and be part of the “right social group,” etc…

Where has all this “righteousness” gotten us? Devoid of any individuality, that’s for sure. Conformity is never the answer. It is better to stand apart from the crowd and rest in the knowledge that who you are is ALWAYS better than the sum of the conformists combined.

When we sell ourselves out for acceptance into a group, we lose ourselves. By conforming to another’s standard, you never become YOU. Conformity depletes your power and renders you “just another lemming in a sea of lemmings.” But when you rise above conformity and focus on your own individuality, you soar higher than any lemming partner.

It doesn’t matter what others think of you. It ONLY matters what you think of you. You are not responsible for other people’s lives, you are only responsible for your own. If you are caught up living a life that isn’t your own but that you think looks good, you will forever be caught in a sea of monotony and never find your true direction. Finding who you are means breaking all the rules and redefining them on your own terms. Bring the color back to your life, empower yourself to make your own choices. If you stand as an individual with integrity, purpose and kindness, people will naturally be drawn to you.

But even if others do not follow you, they will always respect you for being an individual. It is much harder but more gratifying to walk the path less traveled. Think about it… it is easier to join a group and blindly follow their definition of success then it is to put it out there yourself and strive for something higher.

Who you are is good enough. It always was. Don’t trade it in for some ideal of acceptance. That is never the way to grow higher in life, it’s the way to keep yourself locked in mediocrity.

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… it doesn’t matter who likes you, it only matters that YOU like you.

In life, you are not always going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and that HAS to be alright. Nor should you want to be everyone’s cup of tea. We are not in high school anymore, your value and self-worth should not be judged by what other people think of you. It should come from within. The only judgment we should be concerned with in life is the judgment we place on ourselves.

We tend to look outside of ourselves for validation within. We compare ourselves to others – what they are doing with their careers, how they are living, how successful they are, their relationships, etc… Your life will never be yours if you are forever looking to others for inspiration.

Here’s the deal… Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to understand you. Not everyone is going to “get you.” It’s just the way it is. Feel great about yourself anyway because who you are is ALWAYS good enough. In fact, it is better than good. It is perfect.

When you can learn to love the person that you are separate from those around you, that is when your life will really take off. Channel all that energy – thinking about all those people and what they are doing “better than you” and how you are measuring up and put that energy into your goals, your passions and really start to feed your soul from the inside-out. You will start to see that you will emanate a glow that will make others want to be near you. Popularity is an inside job. Do the work inside, and the world around you will be magnetically drawn to you. 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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