You Are Where You Are and That’s OK

… because you’re always on your way somewhere else.

In other words, where you are is always just a stop over to where you want to be. It’s part of the process of exploring who you are.

Finding yourself is a lifelong process – you are on a journey – one step at a time. And during that journey, you never stay anywhere very long. You only stay long enough to learn something new. That is because the nature of life is to change and evolve. So recognize that where you are in your life is NEVER permanent, therefore don’t get caught up in the drama of not being exactly where you want to be. There is always something new waiting around the corner for you.

Life can change on a dime. No sense in beating yourself up for not having everything that you want in this moment. In due time, you’ll have all the experiences that you need to help you find who you are.

Look at it this way, life is like a planned holiday to 5 different European cities. You’ve carefully planned this itinerary (of life) before you were born. Just because you do not like city #1 doesn’t mean you have to shut down and get frustrated because you are not yet at city #4. You can sit back and appreciate city #1 for what it gives you, knowing that you are moving on in the next day or so. Remember that in your life, you will always have more cities to explore. You are never finished exploring cities until you are finished exploring your life.

You are where you are and that’s ok. You are always just passing through and if where you are doesn’t feel good, know that you are on your way to something much bigger and better. You just need to allow yourself to get there. Don’t stay stuck in city #1 feeling bad for yourself. Know that the journey of exploration is ahead of you. Learn what you can from this moment and recognize that you do not have to stay in this place. You want to explore the other 4 cities, don’t you? Just because you are not there yet, doesn’t mean those cities don’t exist. Trust that they are ahead of you and pick yourself up out of the city that you are done with and find the strength to move forward. The rest of your life is ALWAYS ahead of you. On to the next city of your life!

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Comparisons Don’t Feed the Soul

…. yet we do it anyway. In life it only matters who YOU are and what YOU are doing with your life. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. When we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, we dilute the dynamic energy of the self and divert it into negative states such as jealousy, envy and resentment. Those states of behavior are very deconstructive and counterproductive. They keep you small, stuck and spiraling in the wrong direction. Envying someone for what they have keeps you locked in a state of “wanting and lack,” which is fear based. When you focus on the Self and your dreams, aspirations and hopes (love based), you open yourself up to the many opportunities around you. Things flow easily to you when you focus on the Self whereas when you are focused on what others have, you are locked in a state of lack, and because of that, you keep the very things that you seek far from you.  Time spent looking outside of ourselves for our own worth is wasted. Comparisons do not feed the soul. They do not feed the energy of where it is you want to be in your life. They do the exact opposite – they throw you backwards and lock you into a “wanting” pattern that is hard to get out of. Already believe you have everything that you want and need. Visualize yourself as having the life you want and borrow a tiny bit from that vision every day to make it a reality. We do not get what we want in life by wishing someone else did not have it. We only get it by believing that we, ourselves have the ability to create it for ourselves. Use the people around you as inspiration for you to have the same. Do not begrudge them, bless them and say to yourself, “I admire their lifestyle. I will have that as well” and then watch the doors begin to open. Learn to reframe the situation – turn your resentment into inspiration; it is the key to having the life you want.

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