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… makes things harder then they need to be.

No one is saying don’t work hard, but there is a tipping point where trying too hard and pushing against resistance creates more problems.

How do you know when “working hard” becomes “trying too hard”?

When it ceases to be enjoyable.

When you feel like your efforts are going nowhere.

When you find you are hitting your head on the same wall over and over again and it is still not yielding.

When the frustration and stagnation of the current stasis has sufficiently depleted you.

If something is not coming together, there is usually a reason why – and that reason is always valid. Resistance on your path is very purposeful. It keeps you from progressing further in a given direction. Recognize that the resistance is there to help you, not hurt you. Pushing against the resistance makes things harder then they need to be. By pushing your agenda forward, you are complicating your life.

Don’t make your life harder then it needs to be. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. And in time you’ll realize that you never really wanted it.

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… gives you a new view.

How you look at things is how they will show up for you. So, if you want to see something differently, shift your perspective of it.

You get what you focus on and so if what you’re focusing on is making you uncomfortable or unhappy, you’ll only foster more of it by focusing your attention onto it. If you want to see something different, refocus your perception of it in order to see it differently.

In other words, you’ll never get to what makes you happy by focusing on what doesn’t, because by focusing on it, you attract more of it.

You can’t change the things you’re looking at, but you can absolutely change the WAY you’re looking at them and that will change everything for you. Take your focus off what is upsetting you and put it onto something that feels better. Focus on the good and you’ll get more of it, focus on the bad and it’ll take over.

You get what you think about whether you want it or not. You cannot control others but you can absolutely control the way they affect you.

Do you want clarity? Don’t just accept the view you’re handed, learn to refocus your lens so you can always see things clearer.

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… until you don’t have any fight left.

If there is someone or something you want in life, you fight for it. Otherwise you lose it.

How do you know it’s worth fighting for?

If its presence in your life makes you better, makes you happier, lifts you, supports you and challenges you to think of things in a new way — it’s worth fighting for.

If its presence in your life doesn’t shift your consciousness, doesn’t make you feel happy & supported, doesn’t uplift you, doesn’t push you beyond yourself, and doesn’t encourage you to be a better version of yourself — it’s not worth the fight.

Just because it’s difficult DOESN’T MEAN it’s NOT worth fighting for.

Anything worth the fight is worth fighting for. And anything difficult that’s worth fighting for, is challenging your sense of commitment and dedication.

If something is right for you, there will always be solutions. If it is NOT right for you, options will seem impossible.

Listen to how you feel. Your emotions tell you everything you need to know about what is right for you. If it feels right to you, fight and fight harder; if it doesn’t feel right and you’re exhausted and depleted, walk away and give the situation time to heal.

Don’t give up the fight until you’ve lost your will to fight. Decide what is worth fighting for, put forth your best effort, and let the universe do the rest. Answers ALWAYS come when YOU DON’T GIVE UP THE FIGHT. 

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th… needs from others.

Being emotionally independent needs ONLY from oneself.

If you continually need someone to do/say something in order for you to feel validated and secure, then you’re emotionally needy. Needing others in order to feel fulfilled within yourself is a losing strategy.

Others are NOT YOU. Others come and go into your life and their opinions are subjective. So to base your identity on the whim of outside opinion denies you of your ability to define yourself. If your own validation is contingent on someone/something outside of you, then it’s NOT YOURS.

When you need someone to do/say something to make you feel better about yourself, you’re GIVING YOUR POWER OVER TO THEM. When you give your power over to others to dictate how you feel, you lose your yourself.

Needing something outside of you tells you that YOU DO NOT HAVE IT.

Needing someone outside of you tells you that YOU ARE NOT IT.

No one has something that you do not already have. You have all you need inside yourself. Remember, no one has control over your life unless you give it to them. Once you give your control over to others, your happiness and identity is in their hands and your emotions are at their mercy.

Your power is yours. Your only consistency is within yourself. Don’t be emotionally needy. Take back control over your life and learn how to be emotionally independent within yourself. No more needing, it’s your life, you do not need anyone else to help you define any of it. Now, it’s just time to live it.

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th… is happening FOR YOU – to bring you to a much better place.

You are always meant to be MOVING UP in life – towards better situations. Challenging circumstances come up in your life NOT to beat you down, but to bring you to that higher place in your life. Think of it this way… where there is pain, there is ALWAYS GAIN, but that gain requires that you can look beyond the short term discomfort, anxiety and confusion and re-frame the situation to get the learning from it and allow it to bring you to a better place.

Life’s perfect dichotomy is this: If it seems bad, it’s bringing you to good; and if it’s good, it’s a reward for having gotten there. 

Nothing is ever truly bad in our lives (even though it can seem that way). If something seems “bad,” it’s because the good hasn’t YET been revealed to you. But it’s ALWAYS there. The trick is not to fall into the drama of what seems to be temporarily “bad” because bad is ALWAYS temporary. Good prevails indefinitely.

What happens to you, is happening FOR YOU – to bring you to a much better place. You can label an event as “bad,” but bad is always temporary, so if you are stuck in bad, give it time because in that time, the good will always be revealed.

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th… gets you compromised.

How could it not?

When you feel as if you have to be something or do something that is inauthentic to who you are, you are compromising yourself. If you feel you have to compromise who you are in order to fit into a given situation or a relationship, then it ISN’T THE RIGHT ONE for you.

In life, you get what you accept and if you are compromising yourself to fit into a less-than-ideal situation, then you are only hurting yourself. You are also telling the universe that you do NOT want better and that you are ok with changing yourself for this less-than-desirable outcome. Why would you do that?

The right situations for you in life require YOU TO BE YOURSELF. As soon as you realize that you are in territory where you have to compromise yourself, recognize that that is territory where you DO NOT BELONG. Staying there and trying to fit in will never make it right for you, it will just dilute your power and weaken you. When you compromise yourself for someone or something, you are not operating at peak capacity and thus will never rise to your potential.

Do you want to live the higher side of your life or do you want to undermine yourself to fit into someone else’s half-hearted vision? Compromising yourself gets you compromised. Accepting less than who you are will NEVER GIVE YOU MORE. Be yourself and walk the path of your own life. If who you are (as you are) doesn’t work for someone, then that person doesn’t work in your life. Don’t take yourself down to someone else’s level, keep moving up, the view from the atop always puts you on top of the world.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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relating to others… NOT just to yourself.

Sounds obvious, but it’s not.

Relationships are a 2-way street. They require that 2 people relate to each other, deeply connect to each other, communicate with each other and share their lives with each other. 

If you are not doing this, you are NOT in a relationship. After all, you can’t just BE in a relationship, you have to RELATE to someone in a relationship. That’s how they work.

Relating isn’t just physical, it is emotional and mental as well. Relating is the magic ingredient that turns strangers into friends, roommates into lovers and lovers into committed partners. Relating is what keeps couples growing and evolving together, learning new things about each other and keeping their relationship fresh and exciting.

Where there is NO relating, there is NO relationship. If you are not relating to someone you are involved with, you are just co-existing together and that makes for a very lonely existence. Talking to your partner shouldn’t feel like talking to a wall. Being with your partner shouldn’t make you feel more lonely. If your presence in someone’s life isn’t adding value, why are you there? Without the deeper process of relating and developing a real connection, 2 people are just 2 people in a room, ghosts passing in the night, and after awhile those 2 people will no longer have a reason to be together. Don’t let your relationship get to that point. No one wants to sit across from their lover in silence because they’ve lost their connection to each other or worse – never had one.

Take the time to relate to another person. Get to know them deeply and take an active interest in them – engage them – get to know what’s important to them – share in their experiences and in turn, EQUALLY SHARE YOUR LIFE with them. Let them into your world and find ways to weave your lives together and from there grow your connection everyday. For if you don’t, you will forever remain just 2 people in a room.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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