Feeling Lost

… is the best way to find yourself.

When you’re surrounded by others, it’s too easy to get lost in the crowd.

It’s so easy for us to get caught up in social and community groups that can give us a sense of purpose and belonging. But that can be a false sense of identity. True knowledge of self is only found within the confines of one’s own heart and one’s own being. It’s much easier to hide behind the cache of a group, then it is to stand apart from the crowd and be yourself.

You don’t have to have all the answers in life, you have only to stand up within yourself and be open to exploring the unknown. 

When you get still within yourself, answers always come. The feeling of being lost is a gift that opens you up to true vulnerability and within that vulnerability, you can dive deep into the vastness of your own being.

No one wants to feel lost, but if you allow yourself to go deep into the loneliness, you might just find who and what you were searching for all along. The answers you seek are never outside, but always lie within you.

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When You’re Unhappy With Your Life

… your life KEEPS YOU unhappy.

It’s a vicious cycle.

Nothing and no one will bring you joy because your happiness can NEVER be found OUTSIDE OF YOU.

Happiness is an inside job but as humans, we project our need for happiness outside of us. We sit and wait for something to make us happy…

If I could just get that new job, I’ll be happy.

If I could just get that promotion, I’d be happy.

If I could just get the raise, I’d be happy.

If I could just close the deal, I’d be happy.

And so on…

But here’s the irony… no lasting happiness can be found outside of you — it’s fleeting. Once you get something you want, there will undoubtedly be something else that you’ll want in order to be happy. You’ll always want more therefore you’ll always end up chasing happiness. 

Start learning to change the way you are looking at things — when you learn to find the best in ANY situation, you’ll find the happiness it has for you. Every moment of your life offers you a small gift of happiness if you are conscious enough to see it.

But our tendency is to only look at things at face value — is it good or bad — does it makes me happy or sad? But life isn’t black or white — happiness exists in the shades of grey. And those shades are waiting to be defined each and every day by YOU.

When you are unhappy with your life, your life keeps you unhappy — it will continue to bring you situations that match your unhappy vibration. Happiness is an inside job — find any reason to be happy and let it raise your vibration. Like attracts like. When you learn to find ANY reason to be happy, the universe will bring you EVERY reason to be happy. 

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Feeling Pain Isn’t a Problem

… running from it is.

Believe it or not, pain isn’t a bad thing. It’s actually an indication that you are learning and growing. All growth requires some level of discomfort; it is called “growing pains.” This pain is inevitable and it signifies the emotional hard work and challenges that we all face day-to-day and for which we valiantly (hopefully) overcome.

But for some reason we try and avoid feeling this pain… we try and avoid it at all costs. But what we really do not understand is that avoiding the pain doesn’t make your life any better, it only intensifies the experience of the pain later on. Why? Because you can only stave off the lesson causing the pain for so long before it comes back with a vengeance. It’s just a matter of time before that lesson will come calling again and when it does, trust me, it means business.

Do yourself a favor. Don’t run from your life by hiding from your pain. Your escapism strategies (drugs, alcohol, food, tv, internet, sleeping, shopping, sex, etc..) only guarantee that you will get hit HARDER later on. Work through the pain when it presents itself the first time – get the lesson and get out so you can move forward with the rest of your life.

The pain isn’t there to torture you unduly so, it is there to enrich you and make you better. Pain is your friend. Go towards it and see what it has for you. When you allow yourself to fully go into the experience of the pain, you very quickly transform it and life gets better very easily. When you avoid that pain, you prolong and perpetuate the feelings of the pain for a very long time. Don’t wallow in your pain, do something about it. Stare it in the face and stare it down. Your life is too short to get shut out by your own pain. Feeling pain is never the problem, running from it always is.

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