Putting Your Destiny in Others’ Hands

… NEVER works.

Waiting around for others to make a decision that affects you, takes away your power. 

Never give anyone power over your life to decide your future. If you’re waiting on someone else to make a decision over your Plan A, make sure you have an EVEN BETTER Plan B and C in place.

You’re in control of your destiny, no one else is. Waiting on others to decide your future is a slippery slope. Putting anyone in the power position over your life puts you in the back seat. Get back into the driver seat of your own life and steer it home.

It’s ok to temporarily wait on someone else’s decision, it’s NOT OK to put your life ON HOLD while someone else decides your fate. Take back control over your life, have viable alternate options laid out for you and ready to rock once the decision is made and don’t look back.

Don’t spend time lamenting someone else’s decision over you, if the decision wasn’t in your favor, that option wasn’t in your best interest or aligned with your highest good — let it go. Move on to your personal Plan B and make it A-worthy.

Putting your destiny in other’s hands NEVER works. Why give someone else power/authority over you to decide your fate? Your life is yours. Never be without a plan you can love and never accept a plan you can’t live with. It’s your life. Don’t let anyone else live it.

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Your Past Never Defines You

… what you decide to do with it, DOES.

Your past is in THE PAST. The only thing it does is create a FOUNDATION for which you are meant to BUILD UPWARDS.

This foundation has shaped you and molded you into the being you are today. But as with any foundation, you’re meant to BUILD UPON IT and move UPWARDS, not stay stuck on it.

You were never meant to be tied to the very foundation you’ve come from. It was only ever a starting point for who you were going to become. Moving forward, you’re meant to be evolving yourself, building a NEW YOU on top of that foundation.

But many of us forget that. We get mired in the past and we allow it to limit our growth. But here’s the deal, you always have a choice in every moment as to how you will use your past. Will you allow yourself to be held back by that past or will you be strong enough to make your life better based on your learnings from that past? That choice is always yours.

Your past no longer has any control over you, because IT IS OVER. Leave your past in the past where it belongs. Don’t focus on the foundation anymore – it’s there, it’s solid, it’s not going anywhere. It will support the new you that you are building on top of it. Use that foundation to build something extraordinary – something unique – something that will leave its mark on the world. If you just stop at the foundation, you will never explore the depths of what you could become.

Your past never defines you; what you do with it, does. Always know that just because it’s part of your history does NOT mean it has to become part of your destiny. Only you can decide that.

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The Road to Success

…. is paved with FAILURES.

It has to be. How else would you get there?

Success is an uphill battle – everyday. It’s a steep incline up a treacherous mountain that few dare to tread. It is not for everyone. It not only requires hard work, dedication and laser-sharp focus; it requires perseverance and a will to NEVER GIVE UP.

But what most people do not realize is that success also requires FAILURE – and lots of it. In short, our mistakes are what make us great – they push us to become stronger, wiser and more adaptable. They push us to learn and evolve and become keenly resourceful and supremely strategic.

The question isn’t – “are you successful?” It is “have you done the work necessary to BECOME a success.” A lot of people do not want to do the work necessary to become a success, they just want it, expect it, feel entitled to it and put out the bare minimum to get it.

To have a successful career, you have to work HARD at it everyday.

To have a successful relationship, you have to work HARD at it everyday.

To have a successful anything, you have to WORK HARD to earn that success. You do not just get it because you want it.

Nothing good ever comes easy and nothing easy is ever really worth having. Newsflash: if you are looking for anything in your life to “just be easy,” you will get easy, but you will NOT get success. They are two entirely different initiatives. But somehow we forget that. Easy is just that, EASY… it is never better and it will NEVER bring you success.

Success is not for the faint-hearted; its for the few who are extraordinary and who want the best that life has to offer. They are willing to work at it everyday and willing to fail at it everyday in order to get the greatness that they know they deserve. After all, how can you know success if you haven’t first learned to fail? How would you ever appreciate success if you didn’t have to do the work necessary to earn it? You wouldn’t.

Be extraordinary. Do the real HARD WORK to become your own success story – not only in your own life, but in your career and in your key relationships. Don’t be afraid to fail. Failures make you great. Without those failures, you are just living a life of mediocrity – the easy life. Greatness awaits you at the top of the mountain. What are you waiting for? Time to start climbing.

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Life is a Maze

… and consciousness is your map.

Do you want to succeed through life? Pay attention.

Don’t sleep walk your way through the maze. Every twist and turn has something for you. Every person you meet, every situation you encounter is quite purposefully planted in your path for your growth.

Open your eyes and get to know the terrain. Notice when you have gone down the same corridor and make another choice – don’t get looped into the same trap over and over again. If it looks familiar to you, chances are you’ve been down that path before.

Open your eyes and practice conscious awareness of the path you are on. You are always in charge of the path you take, but if you are not awake and conscious of the choices you are making, the maze will run you in circles.

Pick your head up. Stop running into dead ends. Be more strategic about your life. Learn when certain corridors lead you down darker paths and learn to look for the light.

But at the same time, don’t be afraid to explore and make mistakes. You might think that you know the direction that your path is taking you, but you may not. It may lead you towards a different outcome completely and believe it or not, that outcome would be for your highest good.

Practice consciousness towards your life. Pay attention to what is going on along your path – what are others saying to you and how others are treating you? The seeds of your life lessons are happening every day if you are conscious enough to watch them play out and learn the rules of the engagement. After all, it is the game of your life, and it is a maze which can be successfully navigated by waking up.

Your life is too short to run yourself around in circles. Do you want to be in a better place in your life? Wake up and find the nature of the path you have been following and if you realize that it hasn’t been serving you, it’s time to take another path.

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Learn To See Your Patterns

… otherwise you will repeat them.

We all have patterns, we are just not acutely aware of them. In fact, we spend our lifetimes going through the same patterns over and over again. It’s called sleepwalking our way through our lives. We keep hitting our head on the walls over and over again wondering “why things like this keep happening to us?” We feel victimized by the pattern instead of empowered and awakened to make necessary change.

What is a pattern you might ask? Any obstacle, hardship or adverse encounter that continually shows up in our lives signifies a pattern. Clearly the pattern continues in our lives until it’s addressed. Our patterns show up everywhere in our lives – at work, at home, in our relationships with lovers, colleagues, family, friends and strangers. Patterns are highlighted over and over in our lives until we work through them. If we do not catch the pattern, it will undoubtedly repeat again, but with a new situation and a new cast of characters.

Your work is to wake up to the patterns, catch them and heal them so that you can be freed of them. Once you wake up and apply a certain degree of conscious awareness to your life, your life changes. Patterns are meant to be addressed and worked through, not experienced over and over again.

The next time you find yourself in a tough spot, stop and ask yourself if there is a pattern here that you are not seeing. Has something similar happened before? Once you catch the pattern, you can choose to show up differently and make a new decision that will change your outcome. As long as you stay stuck repeating negative patterns of behavior, you keep yourself back in life. Patterns keep you stuck. Healing the patterns set you free. Where do you want to be?

 

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Learn To Take One Step

… the universe will do the rest.

We don’t become huge successes over night. Nor do we find our passions, our soul-mates, or our life purposes over night. The journey to become ourselves can take a lifetime. But that lifetime begins with one step. 

We often judge ourselves for where we are and what we have accomplished. You do not need the perfect solution for your problems, the perfect game plan for success or the perfect strategy to find a mate, all you need to do is take one step, any step in any direction will invite the powers of destiny to join you. 

Once you open the door and open your energy to “the next step”, the universe will support you on your path. You are never alone. Taking one step releases energetic blockages that might otherwise be holding you back. Taking that one step (especially when you do not know where it will lead you) will bring opportunities and connections to you that you would have never dreamed of.

The journey of a lifetime always begins with one step. You do not need all the answer to take that one step. You just have to take it. No more fear. Your life begins the moment you can take that one step. What are you waiting for?

 

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A Year Gone By

… and what have YOU learned?

As Socrates said, “the unexamined life is not worth living.”  This is the truth but how many of us actually take the time to look back at the year gone by and ask ourselves what it is we learned?

Truth is, we are in too much of a rush to get the New Year started that we seldom look back and reflect upon the situations/people that helped get us to where we are today.

It is only in looking back (briefly) and learning from the past that we can build a better future. Yes, the unexamined life is NEVER worth living.  So, lets live differently. Take stock of what you learned last year, where you are now and what you want out of life this coming year. That will help to make all the difference in the world.

Do you want things to get better? It’s up to you to make those improvements. Ask yourself…

What worked for me last year?

What didn’t work?

What do I need in my life that I do not currently have?

What behavior served me well?

What behavior didn’t serve me at all?

What would I change if I could?

Answering these questions reflects the difference between consciously walking forward in life and passively sleepwalking your way through it. Which one do you want to be doing? Here’s the deal, if we do not learn from our past, we are destined to repeat it.

Time to get the learning. Do you want to walk into the new year awake, alive and conscious or do you want to continue sleepwalking? It’s a new year and the choice is always yours. Happy New Year!

 

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It’s Always Darkest Before The Dawn

… that is how you know a new day is coming.

Just when you think you cannot bare anymore darkness, life shifts. It has to. Nothing ever stays the same. Life is in constant fluctuation and change.

The ending of a phase of life heralds in the dawn of a new day. It is important to remember the nature of life’s cycles. Darkness is the phase where one simply cannot see and Light is the phase where answers can be readily found.

When you are in a period of darkness, it can only last so long.  It is NEVER forever. Once it hits its darkest point, the light must return. Vice versa, once the light has shown us the way, it is time for the darkness to return in order for us to learn something new about ourselves. The darkness brings opportunity for growth. It brings us situations and people that challenge us and force us to look beyond our limitations for answers.

The light is our reward for finding our way through the darkness. The darkness shapes your character and is one of your greatest teachers.

Don’t be afraid of the dark. Find new ways of moving through the darkness and keep your head up because you know once you hit the darkest point, the sun has to return, it can be no other way. In the interim, don’t just wait for the sun to come out; learn how to navigate your way through the darkness. Managing the darkness will make you much happier and much more adept at enjoying the light of your life.

 

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What You Focus on EXPANDS

… so focus on what you WANT, not what you don’t.

Everything is energy and where we put our focus is what we will continue to experience – whether we want to experience it or not.

It’s very simple. You do not get what you want in life by focusing on what you do NOT want.

In life, we only attract a vibrational experience that matches our own vibration. So, if our feeling is sadness and frustration and our focus is on that which we do not like about our significant other or job, then we will only succeed in creating more of the same because that is where our focus is. Whereas if we were to focus on the positive aspects of our relationship and/or job, then we would be raising our vibration and therefore able to attract a much higher outcome.

You have to feel good to have good in your life. If you feel bad, you will only be able to attract those situations that are unpleasant and unsatisfactory.  If you do not feel as if there is any good in your life to focus on, then focus on your dreams. When you focus on that which you truly want, and that which will truly make you happy, then that is all you need to feel good and then the universe can respond accordingly by bringing you more of that good feeling. This is the law of attraction – it is a spiritual law of the universe and cannot be changed.

When we learn how the universe works, we learn how to get what we want out of life. If you continually feel badly and focus on what you do not have, you will only create more lack and unhappiness. Time to learn how to play the game.  Focusing on what you DO NOT WANT in your life CAN NEVER bring you that which you truly desire, so focus on what you DO WANT. It’s the only way to make sure you get it.

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When People Walk Away

… let them go.

Their part in your story is over.

As humans we have a very hard time letting go, but its important to remember that not everyone is supposed to be in your life forever. People filter in and out of your life during certain times to fulfill certain roles and when those roles are fulfilled, they are free to move on.

Some people in our lives are like the limbs of a tree, they grow with the tree and they weather the storm with the tree. And some people are like the leaves, they come in during a season of your life to change you, support you or inspire you and then they move on. It is important to be able to distinguish who is a limb and who is a leaf in your life. Once you identify your limbs, it is much easier to let the leaves fall to the wayside. A tree cannot hold onto its leaves, when it is time, they will organically wither and die off – it is a natural cycle of life. Why would we think relationships would be any different?

Anyone who walks away without a fight was never going to stay for the long haul.

Bless those leaves as they fall from your life and focus on the limbs of your tree, they are always there to support you. There will always be new leaves again in the springtime and the cycle will always repeat. Learn who your limbs are and let the leaves go, they were only there for a season of your life and that season has gone.

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