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… doesn’t mean you are finished with it.

We think just because it’s behind us that we’re done with our past. But the past doesn’t work that way. The past is only in our past if we have learned what we needed to learn from it and subsequently let it go.

How do you know if you have let it go? You are no longer attached to it.

So if it’s in your past, but you’re still angry about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still upset about it, you’re still attached to it.

If it’s in your past, but you’re still hurting over it, you’re still attached to it.

If after all this time, you’re still having a strong emotional response to that person or event, then clearly you are still attached to it and therefore NOT finished with it. For better or worse, it’s very much still alive in your mind and heart.

You cannot run from your past. Unfortunately if you do not deal with it, it will always come back. Your past has a funny way of finding you when it is time to deal with something you’ve buried. So when your past comes back to you, it’s NEVER an unfortunate mishap, it’s the universe’s way of providing you with another opportunity for closure. Take it.

Just because a chapter of your life closes, doesn’t mean you are finished with it. Learn to not only close it, but find the closure in it.

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letting-go-hands… to make room for what WILL.

You can’t have both.

Nor do you want both!

All too often we make the mistake of packing up WHAT DIDN’T WORK FOR US that year and dragging it forward into the new year thinking that it will somehow be different? But it NEVER is.

Chances are if something has been troublesome for you for awhile, it’s time for you to LET IT GO. Continued struggle is never a trajectory for success.

Stop the struggle. Learn to trust the process of your life. It will always bring you to where you need to be; you don’t have to control it. But you just have to be brave enough to know when it’s time to walk away and surrender.

If something didn’t work for you in this calendar year, LEAVE IT THERE. Put your focus on creating something BETTER for yourself. Even if you don’t know what that means just yet. It’s always better to start with nothing then to start off the year behind the 8-ball with the same drama. Why put yourself on that same road when you know exactly where that road leads?

The new year is a time for change. Don’t waste it packing up what didn’t work and dragging it into the new year. You don’t have enough space to find new answers if you are fighting the same dysfunction. Make some new year’s resolutions and resolve yourself to making them a reality. Get out of the way of yourself and let go of what was not working for you this year, so you truly have the space to find what will work.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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never-expect-people… and you’ll NEVER be disappointed.

It’s a beautiful gift to be able to see the potential in people – to be able to see what they’re capable of and to believe in them (even when they don’t believe in themselves).

But just because you see the potential in someone doesn’t mean they themselves are ready to rise to that potential. Not everyone is ready to embody the idealized version of them you might be holding. Expectations destroy relationships. Never expect someone to be other than who they are. It’s unfair to them and it’s unfair to you.

When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. And don’t expect them to show up otherwise. It doesn’t serve you to EXPECT that people act in a certain way. It only sets you up for disappointment when they don’t.

Stop believing in people’s potential and start believing in how they are showing up in this moment. Because that is all you have. Nothing else is real.

The easiest way to destroy a relationship is to expect someone to act in a way that is not authentic to them. Let your expectations go. Stop trying to change people. People have to want to change on their own.

Let people be who they are and if who they are doesn’t work for you, make another decision. But don’t spend one more second trying to make them into who you think they should be. When people tell you who they are, believe them and never expect them to be other than who they are and you will NEVER be disappointed.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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head-in-hands-300x200-1… carrying it with you, is.

We make mistakes everyday, it’s human nature. In fact it’s an important part of life because it leads to our transformation.

The problem is NEVER in making the mistake, it’s in REGRETTING the mistake versus moving on with its wisdom. 

Regrets lead you nowhere. What’s done is done. Now you have the opportunity to apply the learning to move forward into a better life. Mistakes make you better. They teach you what you will never do again. They make you wiser and put you on a much better life trajectory.

But all too often we choose to focus our energies on regretting the very mistakes that were necessary for our growth. But regretting your mistakes will NEVER move you forward into a better future, it only keeps you stuck reliving your unfulfilling decisions – over and over again. And why would you want to do that?

Cut yourself a break. You’re human and you’re here to learn – mistakes are all part of that paradigm. You are who you are and you can only make the best decisions you can in that moment. Then you need to let go and NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP. Take the learning from the mistake and shut it down, then take that learning and make the rest of your life better for it. There isn’t any other way to live. Just know that making a mistake is NEVER the problem, carrying it with you, always is.

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the flow of life… gets you washed out.

There is a flow to your life, but many times we resist it. We naturally fear change. So when life provides us with opportunities to grow in a new direction, sometimes we shun it in favor of staying where we are. But there is a reason why life offers new opportunities; it’s usually because it’s time to grow and expand. When it’s time to move on, the universe will push us along our path and challenge us to take a risk to move forward.

You are always in control of your life and if you use your free will to resist this new current, you will only succeed in exhausting yourself. Swimming upstream makes you tired; it’s literally an uphill battle. Surrender is the name of the game. If life seems to be pushing you in a certain direction and you are resisting it, ask yourself why? What are you afraid of? Fears are meant to be pushed through because freedom and success are always on the other side.

Fears keep you small, risks make you great. By flowing with the path of your life, you are always certain to get to where you need to be. The river knows where it ends. Swimming back upstream to change the direction of your life never serves you. If you weren’t meant to be on that river, you wouldn’t be on it. Trust that the river knows where it is meant to be flowing and kick back and enjoy the ride.

Whatever happens is bringing you to a better place, if you can just trust in the process. Stop trying so hard to resist your life. Acceptance and trust goes a long way to helping you create the life of your dreams. Fighting the flow of your life gets you washed out; flowing with it brings you to where you need to be (even if you didn’t realize you needed to be there.) After all, if you weren’t meant to be on that river, you wouldn’t be on it; since you’re on it, you’re meant to flow with it, not fight against it.

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Feeling Fulfilled… it’s keeping you back.

Because it exhausts you to stay in a place where you are NOT being fulfilled. 

It takes energy from you, weakening you and rendering you powerless.

We feed energy to unfulfilling jobs, unfulfilling relationships and unfulfilling situations all the time, never realizing the energetic footprint it has on our lives.

When you feed energy to someone/something, the hope is that it is a smart investment of energy and that it will yield an abundant return, but that is NOT always the case. When the energy invested is not giving back in equal measure, it is depleting you and working against you by keeping you unhappy and powerless to get out of it.

What fulfills you, feeds you. What doesn’t fulfill you depletes you. Where do you want to place your energy? Into something or someone that is sucking the life out of you or into something that has the potential to give back and feed you in return? The choice is always yours.

Own your actions. You control where you put your energetic resources. No one is responsible for draining the life out of you, but you. If it isn’t fulfilling you, it’s keeping you back and keeping you from experiencing your true magnificence. The name of the game is FULFILLMENT and if it isn’t fulfilling you, it’s hurting you. Time to make a move.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th-3… it’s because BETTER things are working their way towards you.

Yet somehow we never see that.

We prefer to fall into the sadness and depression of it all wondering, “why does this always happen to me?”

Truth is that nothing in life ever happens to you, it always happens for you to bring you to a BETTER place, whether or not you can see that at the time.

The disappointments are never there to crush your spirit or tear you down. They are specifically happening to tell you that what you were hoping for was never a viable option and to keep walking because there is something better suited for you right around the corner.

You can never lose what is real for you. If you lose it, it was never going to be yours for the long term.

Things only leave our lives when it is time for them to be replaced with something more suitable and fulfilling. The mistake we make is in trying to hold onto what is leaving our hands. The universe knows what is best for you and it will always clear the decks to make room for it.

If it doesn’t work out for you, it wasn’t fulfilling you on some level and maybe you were reluctant to see that. You can never lose what is real. If it is not working out, learn to detach from it and move on with grace. Recognize that when things don’t work out for you, it is ALWAYS because better things are working their way towards you. Learn to trust the process of your life. Get out of the way of yourself and get excited for what is waiting in the wings.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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