Ask For What You Need

… or you’ll NEVER get it.

Speak up or you’ll NEVER be heard.

And ironically if you don’t, you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.

Things do not magically change because you want them to change. They change when you do something about it. The name of the game is communication – simple, direct and honest.

In life, YOU DO NOT GET WHAT YOU DO NOT ASK FOR. So start asking. It isn’t anyone else’s responsibility to give you what you need, it is your responsibility to honor yourself and ask for it. People cannot help you if you do not first help yourself by articulating your unhappiness and being clear about what it is you really need.

But our biggest problem is that we stay stuck in situations that no longer serve us and relationships that no longer nurture our growth. And we wonder why we are left unhappy and depressed? By living your life in a state of inertia, nothing can ever change until an act of will propels the situation forward.

Don’t waste your time blaming others for your unhappiness. If you can’t articulate yourself clearly then you will NEVER get your needs met and you can NEVER blame anyone else for it.

If something in your life needs to change, speak up or forever hold your peace. And don’t think you are doing others a favor by staying quiet, you are hurting everyone by keeping the peace. Your life and believe it or not, the lives of others, only improves when you decide to do something about your situation. How do you want to live you life?

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Woulda – Shoulda – Coulda

… but you didn’t.

So move on.

Hindsight is always 20/20 but your sight in the moment is all that matters. When you make a decision, you make it with the best information you have at hand in that moment. And that is really all that matters. That is all you can do.

Circumstances and situations change all the time as people use their free will. All you can do is to acknowledge that you made the best possible decision in that moment given the information you had at hand and LET IT GO.

You cannot control every outcome. You cannot outsmart the universe. Situations unfold quite purposefully to bring you to where you need to be in your life – whether you recognize that or not.

In the moment you make a decision, recognize that at that moment in time, you made the BEST DECISION. If you made that decision from a calm, centered space and it was a decision that felt authentic to you and satisfied your needs, wants and an innate understanding of your truth, then you made the RIGHT DECISION in that moment. End of story.

It doesn’t matter what the future brings… hindsight is always 20/20 and there is always a reason why we are NOT given it upfront. If we knew all the answers before we made the decisions, we wouldn’t be learning and evolving.

Your life is always unfolding in front of you. If a decision you made seems to no longer serve you or appears to be the wrong decision for you, then it is time to make another decision. Don’t regret the decisions you make, only regret your inability to revise the equation and make amendments to it.

Life is not static… decisions are meant to evolve and grow with you. “Woulda Shoulda Coulda” is the song for victims. When you are truly empowered and in charge of your life, you realize that all is happening exactly the way it is supposed to be happening and you are being asked whether or not you can roll with the changes.

Make your decisions and DON’T LOOK BACK. Your decision was perfect in that moment. But in this new moment, you might want to readjust it slightly in order to account for your own personal evolution. Hindsight might always be 20/20 but your insight in this moment is always PERFECT.

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Lead By Example

… or get OUT of the way.

True leaders know how to lead. They set a precedent of behavior for others to follow. They are influencers. They inspire others to be better. They create powerful initiatives and encourage change in the world around them. They are transformation makers who seek to shake up the status quo and demand better for themselves and the world around them.

People who lead by example are making a difference in the world, just by being in it. Their presence and their kindness and altruism make the world a better place.

If in your tiny part of the world, you are NOT leading by example then you are setting the WRONG example. But when you live your highest life with integrity, you encourage others to do the same. How are you showing up in your life? Are you the best version of yourself everyday? Do you strive to lead or are you lying back and just following the crowd?

Making the world a better place starts with YOU. Ask yourself if you are making a difference or if you are just going along for the ride? Life is too short NOT to lead. If you are NOT making a difference, GET OUT OF THE WAY and make room for those who will. We can all make a difference, lead by example, you never know who is following.

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Doubting Yourself

… will make you crazy.

You already know what is right for you. It is built into your soul. Your intuition tells you right off the bat everything you need to know about a new person or a new situation. But do we every listen to it?

We are so conditioned to use our minds to process situations but that takes us out of our own intuitive guidance. Do you want to know if someone or something is right for you? Your answer is always in the first 30 seconds of contemplating the situation. Are you excited about it? Does it raise passion in you? Do you feel comfortable with this person? The soul gives you an intuitive answer right away. But it is the mind that steps in and re-evaluates things and causes complications, indecision and frustrations.

Don’t doubt yourself. Listen to yourself and stop the mind from overthinking, it takes you further away from what is right for you. If your intuition is pointing you in a direction, don’t doubt it – especially if it doesn’t make sense. Our intuitive guidance rarely makes sense, but it is there to help guide us in the right direction.

If you allow your mind to rationalize your life, it will run you all over the map. The only truth is spoken in your intuition. Listen to it; it will never lead you astray. Doubting your intuitive guidance will only make you crazy; listen to it and you will NEVER make a mistake.

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