When You Leave Something

… leave it with LOVE.

Otherwise you’ll be attached to it. And not in a good way.

In other words, if you hate it or resent it, it will follow you. And if you’re done with something/someone, do you really want it hanging over you and preventing your happiness?

Negative emotions such as anger, hatred, resentment, frustration, guilt, and pain carry a dense vibration; they keep you locked and engaged in a very painful dialogue with your past. As long as you harbor those emotions, you are not free to move forward into your future. Those emotions will keep you trapped in the place you’ve struggled to move away from.

The answer? Let go with love…

Translation? Learn the reasons why that person/situation was on your path. What did they bring to the table for you? What did they teach you? How did they make you better? Acknowledge all the good the relationship bestowed upon you and be grateful for the experience. It made you who you are. Bless it and let it go – but always let it go with love – kindly, constructively and compassionately – then your work is done.

Letting go with love sets you free because it assures that you have allowed yourself to get the learning from the experience and you pass that love along to the person/situation you walk away from. That love is kind and mutually supportive – it’s a win-win situation for everyone. As humans, to be heard and understood and to hear and understand another is the greatest gift we can offer each other. It’s the greatest gift that love offers.

So when you leave something/someone, leave it with love. That quality of love will sustain and nurture both of you as it heals the past and opens the doors to a much happier and healthier tomorrow.

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Your Greatest Pain Is Your Greatest Fuel

… for change.

Let it drive your transformation.

In other words – if it hurts you, it will change you. And that’s a good thing.

We all run from pain, no one likes to feel it. Everyone labels it as “bad.” But the reality is that it’s only through your pain that you are able to truly transform yourself because YOU HAVE TO. You can no longer go on experiencing the pain nor do you want to go back to the source that caused it. Therefore the only way through your pain is literally through it and out the other end. And that is where change lies.

When you let yourself truly feel the pain, you innately know which direction to go in, in order to heal. Just like a child touching a hot stove, it is only through the pain of a burned finger that he learns never to do that again, never to engage in similar behavior again.

If you never allow yourself to feel the pain, how can you transform the behavior? You can’t. If you ignore the pain and push it down, where’s the learning? There isn’t any. Where there is no pain, there can be no transformation and where there is no transformation, there can never be growth and with no growth, there can be no happiness. It’s a simple as that.

You always have a choice. But the highest choice is to allow yourself to feel the pain, hit rock bottom with it and let it transform you from a stubborn caterpillar into that beautiful butterfly. And as we all know, the view from above is always much more liberating.

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Everything Has Its Season

… and then that season is gone.

The seasons of our lives come and go – and that is a good thing.

People come into our lives and then leave. Jobs come into our lives and then leave. Opportunities come into our lives and then leave. Nothing is meant to stay in your life forever. Nothing.

As the seasons change, so do our lives. It is a natural process in our soul’s evolution. You cannot hold onto a season of your life when it is ready to leave your hands. Just like the trees cannot hold onto their late autumn leaves when it is time for them to wither and fall off. When one phase of your life is complete, it is time to enter a new phase and so those old leaves are replaced with new growth in the springtime. It doesn’t behoove you to hold onto the dying leaves, those leaves will not take you into the next season of your life. Those leaves represent an ending and holding onto endings will always leave you feeling stuck, stagnant and as if you are being held back in your life.

Give up those old leaves and give them over to the new growth in your life. Don’t let fear keep you back from completing a cycle in your life. The seasons of our lives are natural cycles that are meant to keep us moving forward in our experiences and our life lessons. Any attempt to fight the natural seasons of our lives will only cause pain and frustration.

Trust the seasons of your life to give you the closure you need to move into a new cycle for yourself. You can’t fight the seasons. They will come whether you or ready for them or not. Learn to trust the seasons of your life to bring you to exactly the next experience you need in your own evolution. After all, nothing is meant to stay the same. Everything is meant to change and you are meant to easily adapt to each new season of your life. After all, your future is ahead of you, never behind you.

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When You Are Going Through a Transition

… you have the time to see yourself.

When you are either in the past or a future space, you do not always have that luxury.

In life, we get caught up with the material world and how we are performing, where we are working, how we are dressing, who we are involved with, where we are living, etc…  Life gives us so many distractions and we unconsciously tend to focus all of our energy on these distractions. We drain ourselves over our daily mundane existence. We overestimate the importance of our to-do lists and we miss the bigger picture of why we are here and what we are meant to be learning/contributing. In other words, we get so busy trying to make a living, that we completely miss our lives. That is why transitions are so helpful. They can provide that much-needed time-out from life so you can regroup and get back on track.

When you are in transition, it is an enforced separation from your previous situation and because the new situation is not yet at hand, you have the time and space to focus on who you are and what you want out of life. Transitions are the perfect retreat and perfect opportunity for you to reflect upon your life.

Learn to be comfortable with yourself. Learn to allow yourself to fully embrace the energy of the transition. You do not need to have all the answers. You can spend the transition looking for them. What’s your rush? You will be delivered back into your mundane reality sooner than you realize. Enjoy the silence of the transition.

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You Can’t Keep What Isn’t Working

… it will be TAKEN AWAY from you.

And so it should be.

Why would you want to hold onto what isn’t working? It doesn’t serve you to hold onto it. But we do it all the time. We hold onto relationships and jobs that have outlived their usefulness in our lives. We get too comfortable with the routine even when it causes us unhappiness.

Maybe we hope we are wrong about them? Maybe we hope they will change? Maybe we are just not ready to admit that they aren’t working? Maybe we would feel like a failure if we were to admit they weren’t working?

Whatever the reason – holding onto what isn’t working in your life blocks your growth. It keeps you stuck and stagnant while you struggle to keep a hold of it. But here’s the deal… you can only hold onto what isn’t working in your life for so long until the universe takes it away from you – very abruptly.

You may have had a relationship or job ripped away from you. Rest assured that if you lose something (especially if you lost it suddenly or out of nowhere) that it was purposely meant to leave your hands at that moment. You may not be able to trust your own decisions, but you can always trust the universe to deliver the exact action that you require to bring your life into balance. In other words, you may not always get what you want, but you will always get what you need – whether or not you know you need it at the time.

Nothing in life is happening to you. It is happening FOR YOU to have a better life even if you cannot recognize that. If it isn’t working and you have held on too long, it will be ripped away from you – to help you make the decision you should have made for yourself months/years earlier.

Trust the process of your life to lead you to where you need to be. If something leaves your hands, let it go and trust that it will be replaced with something much better and something much more attuned to your needs and your growth. Don’t kid yourself. If it isn’t working, spare yourself the pain of having it taken from you – offer it up yourself.

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Growing Together, Growing Apart

… which do you prefer?

It’s human nature to continue to grow throughout your lifetime.

And when we are in a relationship with someone, we have a choice, we can either grow with them or we can grow apart from them, but we will continue to grow regardless. It is the way the universe works.

The question remains, how do you want to grow in your relationship?

The hope is that the relationship you choose supports your growth and the direction you want to move into in your life. But that isn’t always the case. Sometimes we choose partners for other reasons only to find out after a period of time that we no longer have anything in common and our desires/passions have waned.

That doesn’t mean that someone has to be exactly like you but it does mean that they have to be able to push you/challenge you in new ways to grow and expand your mind. Mutual respect and admiration will keep the two of you learning about each other and interested in each other’s journey. If you are on different paths and you are NOT interested in each other’s journey, nor is there any shared journey, it will NEVER last. Clearly you are growing apart.

Having said that, growing together isn’t necessarily easy. Don’t look for the easy way out. Easy is just that, EASY. It doesn’t mean better. And easy will more often than not turn into boring very quickly.

A better relationship is generally a bit more challenging. A better relationship should inspire you but at the same time should challenge you to pick it up a bit. It keeps you on your toes and keeps you growing and evolving. This dynamism will never tire and never get boring.

In any relationship it is important to know who you are. Know what’s important to you and pick relationships that can support and nurture you on that journey.

Don’t kid yourself – you will grow regardless so it’s best to be conscious of the tide you are riding before you find yourself in a place you didn’t mean to get to. Do you want to grow together or grow apart? The choice is always yours. Choose wisely.

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When The Dust Settles

… you can see more clearly.

But not until then.

We all go through really confusing situations from time to time. And while you are going through them, they never make sense. They are NOT supposed to. At the time, you just need to get through them. But once the dust settles, you can begin to understand just why that situation was happening to you.

Clarity only comes with time. Take a step back from those painful, confusing situations and put your energy into something else. All the wanting in the world for answers will NOT bring them any quicker. Situations resolve and lessons are learned when the timing is right.

Let the chaos around you settle down, don’t try and force the dust to settle either. You cannot control the amount of time you are caught in that dust storm. So best to put on your goggles and gear and trudge onwards. The important thing is that you nurture yourself along the way. All dust storms create uncertainty, confusion and of course bring up fear of the unknown. But as long as you know that going in to the drama, then you can remind yourself that the dust isn’t forever, it is just an illusion and before you know it, that the dust will settle and you will have complete clarity.

Life is a process and everyone gets caught in the dust storm; the question is how do you ride it out? Don’t take it too seriously, the dust will settle and you will see what was there for you all along. You don’t always get what you want in life, but you always get what you need and once the dust settles, you can see what that is.

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Lose What Doesn’t Work

… to make room for what will.

We have a tendency to hold onto things and situations in our lives that do NOT work. It is almost as if we think that by holding tighter to what isn’t working that it will all of a sudden somehow become what we need? But this never happens.

In life we need space to create what we want/need and when that space is filled up with what isn’t working, it takes up valuable real estate and tells the universe that we do NOT want better.

You have to free yourself of what is not working so you can fill the space with what will work. Trying to force something to work NEVER makes it work. Taking a step back and giving the situation the space to breathe will allow the energies to re-align and bring about the highest outcome for all involved.

Sometimes in life you have to lose to win. Riding a broken bike will never win you the bikathon, but retiring the bike to the bike shoppe for a period of time will guarantee that you are ready to get back behind the starting line of the next one.

Life is too short to hold onto what doesn’t work for you. Let it go and love yourself enough to ask for better. Losing is the great arbiter of justice. By losing it all, you have half a chance of finding what will work better for you. Losing is definitely the winning strategy. Be happy to lose!

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If It’s Showing Up In Your Life

… it’s there to teach you something.

Otherwise it wouldn’t be happening.

Nothing ever shows up around us that doesn’t somehow reflect what’s going on inside of us. Believe it or not, all events that occur in our lives are our barometers for what we need to work on.

People mistakenly think that they are disconnected from the drama and complications in their lives. They feel that somehow these events are just happening to them and that they are innocent bystanders. Nothing ever shows up in your life that doesn’t have a reason for being. Nothing. Events happen in our lives for many reasons, some of which to:

– bring to light an issue that needs to be worked through

– change direction on your path and open you up to something new

– make you stronger and give you the tools to strengthen your coping mechanisms

– slow you down/stop you in your tracks and get you to focus on what is right in front of you instead of what you are chasing

Needless to say, if it is showing up in your life, it is on YOUR path and it is meant for YOU to experience. So make the most of the experience and realize that you are not a victim of the events in your life, you are the master of the program. Start applying consciousness to your life. Ask yourself why these events might be happening? What are you meant to get out of them? What are you needing to learn or change or grow from? Consciousness helps you to take responsibility for your life. Once you take responsibility and own your life, the rest is simply a walk in the park.

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