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… who can’t see an issue in their behavior.

Not everyone is conscious. Not everyone has the ability to see how their actions affect others. If you have to tell someone over and over again that they’re hurting you, they are unable to process your pain, most likely because they haven’t processed their own. 

In order for them to honor your feelings, they first have to look at themselves in the mirror and accept responsibility for how they’ve made you feel. But for many, that reflection can be very painful and bring up other past failures. No one wants to feel responsible for hurting someone else and no one wants to feel like a failure; it’s much easier to just shut down and become defensive — “let me prove to you that I don’t need to change, you do.”

If someone is truly evolved, they know they are not responsible for how you feel, BUT they will always have a degree of empathy for your feelings and will always be able to honor them in whatever way they can. 

If they can’t hear your pain, you’ll never be able to get them to honor it. If you’re trying to communicate your feelings and they’re being defensive, walk away, sometimes silence can be the greatest teacher. If your words aren’t enough to help them hear you, then stop talking and give them the time and space to hear what you have already said.

You can’t change people who can’t see an issue in their behavior. You can’t get anyone to stop hurting you until they come face to face with their own pain. If they cannot change themselves, how are you ever going to change them? Life is too short to try and teach unconscious people how to honor your feelings. Walk away and in time the universe will deliver you someone who can honor your heart.

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th-3… it’s because BETTER things are working their way towards you.

Yet somehow we never see that.

We prefer to fall into the sadness and depression of it all wondering, “why does this always happen to me?”

Truth is that nothing in life ever happens to you, it always happens for you to bring you to a BETTER place, whether or not you can see that at the time.

The disappointments are never there to crush your spirit or tear you down. They are specifically happening to tell you that what you were hoping for was never a viable option and to keep walking because there is something better suited for you right around the corner.

You can never lose what is real for you. If you lose it, it was never going to be yours for the long term.

Things only leave our lives when it is time for them to be replaced with something more suitable and fulfilling. The mistake we make is in trying to hold onto what is leaving our hands. The universe knows what is best for you and it will always clear the decks to make room for it.

If it doesn’t work out for you, it wasn’t fulfilling you on some level and maybe you were reluctant to see that. You can never lose what is real. If it is not working out, learn to detach from it and move on with grace. Recognize that when things don’t work out for you, it is ALWAYS because better things are working their way towards you. Learn to trust the process of your life. Get out of the way of yourself and get excited for what is waiting in the wings.

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th-1… you can see the stars.

They are always there.

They are those bright spots in your life that will guide you onwards on your path… if you can see them.

The stars are always there, but do we ever see them? We are used to focusing on the darkness in our lives but we do not realize that with all darkness is the potential to see the brightest stars. The stars are only visible through that darkness. We live in a world of opposites – you have to be in the darkness to be able to see the light of the stars. But we always stop and get stuck in the darkness.

When the darkness of your life descends upon you, time to open your eyes and see the stars that are all around you. Those stars are the people and situations that have the innate ability to help you shine. They are always there if you can just learn to adjust your eyes.

You will always see what you want to see. Do you want to see the darkness or do you want to see the opportunities for light? Learn what your stars are and learn how to find them in the darkness. They are always there to guide you and lead you through your darkest night. Your ability to re-adjust your eyes to see that light will help you to transform the fear of the darkness into the optimism of that shining star.

Life is too short to hide from the darkness. Open your eyes and allow those stars to guide you on your path. You are never alone. When you are in the darkness, trust that those stars will guide you on your way. Their light will never dim.

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