Having a Breakthrough

… generally entails having a BREAKDOWN first. 

They usually work hand-in-hand.

Our greatest breakthroughs usually come after we’ve completely surrendered control over our lives.

You have to be willing to break down all your mental constructs and expectations of the way you think things should be and be open to a new way of seeing things that might be BETTER than you ever even imagined.

Once you’ve suffered a breakdown of a certain aspect of your life, you’ve learned to let it go. You no longer have any judgements or expectations of it being the way you needed it to be. You are now free to allow it to become anything it is meant to become for you.

Life has a funny way of working things out for you. You don’t always know what is right for you. If you’re breaking down over something, it wasn’t working for you and holding onto something that isn’t working, only keeps you trapped. Letting it go and letting it subsequently break you down is what will inevitably lead you to the breakthrough you’re seeking.

Breakdowns are hard, but the breakthroughs they lead you to are priceless.  Don’t avoid the breakdown, it’s in place to show you that YOU ARE ALMOST THERE. Just when you think it couldn’t get any darker, that’s the moment when the light returns. Don’t run from the breakdown, let it transform you and let it bring on the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for all along.

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When a Relationship Ends

… you are supposed to MOVE ON.

It doesn’t matter how or why it ends, it only matters that you acknowledge the ending and take the learning with you.

Relationships are opportunities for us to grow and learn. When you learn what you have needed to learn from each other, then the relationship ends. It is time to start a new chapter to practice your learning in a new situation.

Now, that does NOT mean that the relationship will never come back to you in a newer, healed form later on. But it does tell you that for now, your work with each other is complete.

Problems arise when we do not let go of the relationship, but hold on out of fear of need or fear of being alone. When you hold on too long, it only creates frustration, pain and stagnation and ultimately will keep all happiness and growth from you.

When a relationship ends, the most important thing you can do is to be strong and learn to graciously accept the new changes. Trust in the universe to bring you to where you need to be. If your relationship was not meant to end, it wouldn’t be ending. If it is ending, it is because it is time for it to do so.

Don’t drive your relationship into the ground by holding on too long. Everything happens for a reason and despite the fact that you may feel it is not yet time for your relationship to be ending, the universe may just have other plans for you. Learn to trust and learn to find the “good” in “goodbye,” for it is ALWAYS there.

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The Wheel of Karma Keeps Spinning

… as long as you’re still on it.

If there is negativity between you and someone else, then you are karmically connected to that person whether you want to be or not. Did they harm you, humiliate you or slight you in any way? Are you angry with them or hurt by their actions? If so, you are karmically bound to them until that karma is repaid or worked through somehow.

How do you work through it, you might ask? Working through karma is NEVER about winning or getting even. If you are still feeling the need to do that, you haven’t gotten the lesson yet. Do you really want to be free of this person? Then learn to free yourself from the karmic wheel. Freedom does NOT come from fighting and winning, it comes from FORGIVENESS – forgiving yourself as well as forgiving the other person.

Every negative situation you encounter helps you to be a better person. Once you can understand what you were meant to learn from the experience and how it made you grow into a better person, then you can forgive the situation and eventually forgive the other person thus freeing you from karma’s grip. That is the space where real freedom and healing takes place.

Balancing karma establishes harmony in relationships. You do not have to balance karma by playing the “tit for tat” game. You can rise above that game and jump ahead to your own freedom by forgiving yourself and forgiving the person/situation.

Forgiveness frees you from the karmic wheel. Trying to get even keeps you stuck on it. The wheel of karma will always keep spinning. Ask yourself if you want to be on it?

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