Accepting Responsibility For Your Life

… empowers you.

Making others responsible for it, destroys you.

It doesn’t matter what happens to you in life, you own it. It’s your life, how are you going to make it better?

We call it the blame game. Blaming others for where you are in your life, doesn’t help you live it. No one is responsible for your life, but you. It’s no one else’s job to make sure you are happy or you are living your life the way you should be; it’s your job.

When you accept responsibility for where you are in your life, you are fully in charge of your destiny and where you are headed. You are in complete control. You are empowered to make the right decisions for yourself and because of that your life flows harmoniously.

But when you blame others for where you are in your life, you miss the opportunity to grow through your experience and evolve accordingly. And when you are blaming others for where you are in your life, you will never be able to get to where you need to be.

Being responsible is a responsibility and unfortunately not everyone is ready for it. Accepting responsibility for your life is a given. No one else can do it for you. If you are unhappy with any aspect of your life, change it. Don’t waste your time blaming someone else for it. Your life only begins the day you are able to fully accept responsibility for it. When you are ready, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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A Change of Pace

… changes everything.

How could it not?

Change is the essence of life. Nothing ever stays the same. Life is designed to give us new experiences every so often – if we are open to it. But as humans we tend towards repetitive patterns that are familiar to us and thus make us feel safe. But there is a difference between safety and stagnancy. There is NO safety in staying stuck in your life.

Routine has the tendency to inhibit growth and new experiences. Routine keeps you trapped in your own creation of existence. Routine keeps you small; it prevents you from taking chances in your life that could potentially make all the difference in the world for you.

Time to break the ties that bind you – they are the routines that keep us trapped in cycles and cause a feeling of frustration and stagnancy. Your life will evolve as soon you as you allow yourself to breathe NEW life into it. It is up to you… you have to break the cycle; the cycle will NOT break itself.

So if you are feeling stuck in your life, CHANGE IT UP. Break the monotony. Take a risk. Challenge yourself. Do something different and invite the energy of change into your life. Look at things from a new perspective. Take a trip to a new destination. Experience a new culture. Show the universe that you are indeed ready to have a new experience in your life.

You do NOT have to change everything, you only have to give yourself a simple change of pace – in any one area with any one direction and that will ALWAYS be enough to invite the forces of change to dance with you.

Remember you only have to take one step and the universe will conspire with you to bring you the change you desire and deserve in your life. But that first step has to be yours. Staying still will always keep you stuck in your situation, but a change of pace will absolutely change everything for you. What are you waiting for?

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Do YOUR Work

… and let others do theirs.

You can’t do it for them. And they won’t appreciate your efforts if you try.

All relationships require work on both parts to make it a true partnership. But NOT everyone is conscious enough to own what their part of that work is.

You can only do YOUR work. You cannot do the work for other people. If you try to, you will be enabling bad behavior in the relationship and it will make you an accomplice to their ignorance. It also forces you to make up the imbalance yourself which only creates resentment on your part.

Where there is NO AWARENESS, there is NO GROWTH. If you try to do the work for them, you rob them of their own opportunity for growth. You cannot remedy that situation by continuing to try and do the work for them. Nothing will change and after awhile, you will grow extremely frustrated because you are not getting your needs met and they will become frustrated because they will not understand what their work is – because you have been doing it for them all along. You cannot get upset with a situation that you condoned from the start.

Doing people’s work for them gets you nowhere. Do your work and let others do theirs. Nobody wins by your trying to do the work for both of you.  If you do not do the work, and just step back… you will give your partner space to recognize that there is a need for that work to be done and then you can start the dialogue towards healing. What options do you have?

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Growing Together, Growing Apart

… which do you prefer?

It’s human nature to continue to grow throughout your lifetime.

And when we are in a relationship with someone, we have a choice, we can either grow with them or we can grow apart from them, but we will continue to grow regardless. It is the way the universe works.

The question remains, how do you want to grow in your relationship?

The hope is that the relationship you choose supports your growth and the direction you want to move into in your life. But that isn’t always the case. Sometimes we choose partners for other reasons only to find out after a period of time that we no longer have anything in common and our desires/passions have waned.

That doesn’t mean that someone has to be exactly like you but it does mean that they have to be able to push you/challenge you in new ways to grow and expand your mind. Mutual respect and admiration will keep the two of you learning about each other and interested in each other’s journey. If you are on different paths and you are NOT interested in each other’s journey, nor is there any shared journey, it will NEVER last. Clearly you are growing apart.

Having said that, growing together isn’t necessarily easy. Don’t look for the easy way out. Easy is just that, EASY. It doesn’t mean better. And easy will more often than not turn into boring very quickly.

A better relationship is generally a bit more challenging. A better relationship should inspire you but at the same time should challenge you to pick it up a bit. It keeps you on your toes and keeps you growing and evolving. This dynamism will never tire and never get boring.

In any relationship it is important to know who you are. Know what’s important to you and pick relationships that can support and nurture you on that journey.

Don’t kid yourself – you will grow regardless so it’s best to be conscious of the tide you are riding before you find yourself in a place you didn’t mean to get to. Do you want to grow together or grow apart? The choice is always yours. Choose wisely.

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