Giving and Receiving

… must be in equal measure.

ALWAYS.

The name of the game is “boundaries.” Giving is a beautiful thing but if you GIVE TOO MUCH, there will always be an expectation for that level of giving. And if you are giving too much without giving to yourself, you will be depleting your own resources. So who wins here? Is it the one who plays the martyr and gives everything away and loses themselves in the process? No. In fact no one wins.

Any relationship is about balance – that goes for love relationships, parent-child relationships, working relationships, etc. Giving and receiving must be in equal measure. If you are giving to yourself while receiving from others, you are in beautiful place to give to others. But as soon as the balance of power shifts and everything is given to the other, then you are left with nothing and feel consequently exhausted, depleted, depressed, resentful and angry. But who set it up that way? No one took anything from you that wasn’t on offer. 

If you are unhappy with what you are receiving from others, STOP GIVING. Define your boundaries and express yourself. People respect people who respect themselves. People walk on doormats because they are put out for just that purpose. If you need more from someone, giving more to them will NOT get you there. Time to pull it back and put that energy into yourself. When you give to you, you have more to give to others. And when you give to you, others will recognize and respect that they need to give to you in order to continue to receive what they need from you. This is the essence of a healthy, balanced relationship.

No sense in being angry with your situation. You are where you are because you’ve allowed it. Giving and receiving must be in equal measure, if it’s not, it’s time to make another decision.

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It Is In Giving That We Receive

… so if you want something, GIVE it to someone else.

Everything is energy.  The universe reads what is around you and continues to give you more of it. It doesn’t matter if you are receiving it or giving it, the energy of it is around you. So if you feel as if it is NOT specifically in your life, give it to someone else and the energy of having “it around you” will bring it directly to you.

Think of it as a Karmic bank account. In order to withdrawl something, you must put something into the account. So to withdrawl exactly what you want, it must already be in the account. If you are putting it out into the universe for others, it will be in your account to withdraw at your leisure when you want it. If you are not putting it out into the universe, there is nothing in your account to withdrawl and things do not change.

When you give, you receive the same energy in return. For example:

If you want more money… donate money to a cause or someone who needs it.

If you want a more supportive work environment… give support to others in your life (family, friends, colleagues)

If you want romantic love… give love to others (family, friends, pets, strangers)

If you want more appreciation for the work you do – show appreciation for everything around you (gifts, friendships, food, experiences)

If you wish people were kinder to you – show small acts of kindness to everyone around you (whether they deserve it or not)

It is only in giving that we receive, so this holiday season, if you want something, GIVE it to someone else. There is no big secret here. The universe may seem to work in mysterious ways, but it is all very logical. It is only in the giving that we will ever receive what we want in life. Are you ready to give? Happy Holidays!

 

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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