If You’re Stuck in the Same Place

… you’re NOT ready to leave it.

Obviously there’s something there for you that has yet to be uncovered.

If you’re trying to move forward, but can’t, it’s important to recognize that you’re being held back for a reason. There’s something in the place where you currently stand that requires your attention — there’s a learning there for you — there’s a lesson there that needs to be integrated before you can move onto the next stage.

The process of being held back is quite purposeful because your path builds onto itself and each stage of life entails prerequisite learning. Therefore, if you haven’t internalized a lesson at a given stage, you’ll be prevented from moving onto the next stage.

What are you not seeing? What are you not looking at? It’s usually something that you’ve shoved away in a closet with resolve never to open. Rest assured that your life will not let you move forward until you open it and do the work on moving past it. 

If you’re stuck in the same place, you’re not ready to leave it. You may WANT to leave it, but you lack the learning necessary to move forward. The universe will always protect you from moving onto a stage until you have the tools to deal with it. Don’t spend your time being frustrated, spend it cleaning out your closets. Skeletons don’t go away, they’ll only haunt you until you pull them out of your closet — then they are just a pile of bones.

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The Truth Behind Sarcasm

… it is always there.

Don’t kid yourself, there is ALWAYS an element of truth behind every sarcastic remark. Every biting comment has a reason for being.

No doubt, people who are sarcastic are very entertaining. They have a way of saying things that others cannot say. But are they truly representing themselves or are they hiding behind their words?

In life, self-expressionism is key – the ability to speak your mind freely and willingly is what keeps you alive and thriving. But many people are too frightened to say what they need to say for fear of being judged, persecuted or fear of being vulnerable. Never censor yourself. If people do not like you for who you are and what you have to say, then they are not worth it. Never try to be something you are not.

Sarcastic individuals hide behind their humor and delivery. There is a sense of acceptance when they give a sarcastic remark that might not otherwise be tolerated. It is sort of a back-handed way of getting your point across. The problem with sarcasm is not just that it is a deep-seated example of passive aggressiveness and repression but it is also contains an extremely heavy and negative energy which breeds more of the same. Sarcasm carries many elements of jadedness, bitterness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc… It is not a freeing style of communication. This negativity is binding to the person who harbors it and also becomes toxic to those who engage it.

The truth behind sarcasm is that there is ALWAYS truth in every sarcastic comment. When we learn to allow ourselves to truly be who we are, we no longer need to hide behind a shroud of biting humor. That type of humor no longer becomes necessary to get our point across. When we let go of our fear of being judged and open up to being more vulnerable, our communication softens and our humor becomes less acidic/edgy and more engaging and inspiring. What’s your truth?

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