It’s Not About Making The Right Choice

… it’s about accepting the choice you’ve already made.

Our life’s path is made up of choices and there are no mistakes when it comes to making choices, because there are no right or wrong choices, there are only different choices.

Don’t get caught up in the choice you’ve made – make it and move on. It never matters what choice you’ve made. All that matters is that you make the choice, accept the ramifications of the choice and most importantly, elect to choose again if the choice you made was unsatisfactory. You can’t change the past, but you’re constantly influencing your future with every choice you make.

Woulda, shoulda, coulda, but you didn’t, so move on. It’s never about making the right choice, it’s only ever about accepting the choice you’ve made and then recognizing that you are always free to choose again. You’re not meant to suffer and die by your choices, you’re meant to continually thrive and live through new ones.

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When You Never Saw It Coming

… it was coming for you.

Have you ever been blindsided by an event? Was something taken away from you completely out of the blue?

If it was surprisingly ripped away from you and you never saw it coming; YOU WERE MEANT TO LOSE IT. 

As humans, we struggle with making the right decisions for ourselves. What if we let go of something and are left with immense regret? We might forever beat ourselves up if we make the wrong decision, right?

Here’s how your life works — if a decision is made BY YOU, you can forever regret it; but if a decision is made FOR YOU, know that THE UNIVERSE HAS CHOSEN IT.   

Free will can mess up a lot of stuff. Fate knows better.

Never lament something that is ripped away from you. Trust that universal forces are at play on your behalf. Whatever was taken off your path was NEVER going to stand the test of time.

When you never saw it coming, it was certainly coming for you. Look past the pain. Feel comfort in the decision that the universe made on your behalf. If it wasn’t right for you; it wouldn’t have happened to you. It may not feel very good at the time, but the wisdom of that decision will see to it that you be placed onto a much better path.

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History Repeats Itself

… until you CHANGE it.

How else would it stop?

History happens over and over again until you LEARN THE LESSON FROM THE PAST and use it to REDEFINE A BETTER FUTURE.

But how many of us know that?

How many of us realize that history ONLY repeats to give you ANOTHER CHANCE to make a DIFFERENT DECISION.

Instead of lamenting history repeating, wouldn’t it be better to learn the lesson from it’s past and move forward in a new way?

If you want a different result, you have to do something differently. Until then, history will continue to repeat itself in hopes to give you all the new chances you need to make any/all different decisions. Create a new future for yourself, show up differently when history repeats, and you’ll find that your life changes in the most amazing ways. What are you waiting for? Ready to change your history? Whenever you are, a new story is ready to begin.

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if something is happening to you over and over again, it’s a pattern that’s meant to be worked through differently NOT repeated.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Your Past Never Defines You

… what you decide to do with it, DOES.

Your past is in THE PAST. The only thing it does is create a FOUNDATION for which you are meant to BUILD UPWARDS.

This foundation has shaped you and molded you into the being you are today. But as with any foundation, you’re meant to BUILD UPON IT and move UPWARDS, not stay stuck on it.

You were never meant to be tied to the very foundation you’ve come from. It was only ever a starting point for who you were going to become. Moving forward, you’re meant to be evolving yourself, building a NEW YOU on top of that foundation.

But many of us forget that. We get mired in the past and we allow it to limit our growth. But here’s the deal, you always have a choice in every moment as to how you will use your past. Will you allow yourself to be held back by that past or will you be strong enough to make your life better based on your learnings from that past? That choice is always yours.

Your past no longer has any control over you, because IT IS OVER. Leave your past in the past where it belongs. Don’t focus on the foundation anymore – it’s there, it’s solid, it’s not going anywhere. It will support the new you that you are building on top of it. Use that foundation to build something extraordinary – something unique – something that will leave its mark on the world. If you just stop at the foundation, you will never explore the depths of what you could become.

Your past never defines you; what you do with it, does. Always know that just because it’s part of your history does NOT mean it has to become part of your destiny. Only you can decide that.

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You Are Always in Control of Your Life

… it is never in control of you.

The story of your life is always in the pen you are holding. But how many of us realize that?

No one has control over your life unless you give it to them. You are co-creating every experience you have. If you are not enjoying the experience, it is up to you to make another choice.

Although there is a destiny in place, you have free will and can write/rewrite any chapter you like. But many of us suffer through situations because we have given our power over to other people or situations to feel powerless and trapped. Know that feeling that way is a choice. If you have had an experience and decide that it does not work for you/does not make you happy, then make another choice and change the situation. Life will NOT change it for you. If you sit back and allow yourself to wallow in the pain and confusion, the universe reads that as your choice to do so.

Learn to own your power and learn to understand that when a situation or thought form is no longer working for you, it is up to you to create a new ending for yourself. You are the author of your life and you hold the pen, why would you give it to someone else to write your story? They do not know what you need to be happy so take back that pen and continue to write.

The choices you make in this moment ALWAYS determine your next experience. You are in control of your life, no one else is. Honor that and live it to the fullest, then you will see that what you thought was such a problem in your life was just a thought form waiting to be rewritten. Life is just that simple.

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Lose What Doesn’t Work

… to make room for what will.

We have a tendency to hold onto things and situations in our lives that do NOT work. It is almost as if we think that by holding tighter to what isn’t working that it will all of a sudden somehow become what we need? But this never happens.

In life we need space to create what we want/need and when that space is filled up with what isn’t working, it takes up valuable real estate and tells the universe that we do NOT want better.

You have to free yourself of what is not working so you can fill the space with what will work. Trying to force something to work NEVER makes it work. Taking a step back and giving the situation the space to breathe will allow the energies to re-align and bring about the highest outcome for all involved.

Sometimes in life you have to lose to win. Riding a broken bike will never win you the bikathon, but retiring the bike to the bike shoppe for a period of time will guarantee that you are ready to get back behind the starting line of the next one.

Life is too short to hold onto what doesn’t work for you. Let it go and love yourself enough to ask for better. Losing is the great arbiter of justice. By losing it all, you have half a chance of finding what will work better for you. Losing is definitely the winning strategy. Be happy to lose!

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Releasing Your Grip

… allows things to BREATHE.

Trying to hyper-control situations strangle-holds them.

We hold so tightly to what it is we think is right for us. In fact, we continually push our agendas forward even in the face of adversity. But to what end? Where do we stop and realize that resistance is a form of protection. If you are finding it hard to continue on in a given direction, it might be because you are not meant to. Resistance is a universal sign to back-off.  There is something there that you might not be seeing.

We are conditioned to think that if we work hard enough and push hard enough that we can alter any situation to our advantage, but that is using force to drive your life. A better way of living your life is to STOP pushing when you hit a wall and step back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and allow what is meant to make its way to you, to get to you. Your future might need a bit of course-correction.

Your life is divine. There is an order to it. There is fate and destiny already in place. You can always use your free will to alter any and all of it, but note that you will absolutely encounter resistance if you are pushing towards the wrong conclusion. Take that as a sign to stop exhausting yourself. Take that step back so you can see more clearly. That step back will free up the energy to allow what is really meant for you to catch up with you. Time and space is the ultimate neutralizer.

You want to learn to breathe your way through your life. Controlling doesn’t secure your future, allowing does. When you are ready to release your grip on what you thought you wanted/needed, you will be able to make room for something even more beautiful. Clarity comes from releasing your grip, letting go of control and learning to trust in the process of your life to bring you to exactly where you need to be. Where else would you want to go?

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The Long and Winding Road

… is a much more enriching journey.

We never want to take it though. Why is that? If given the chance, we will more often than not choose the motorway and bypass all the beautiful exits along the way to our destination. For some reason we are obsessed with where we need to go in life and we forget that it’s not actually about the destination at all, but about the journey to get there. 

The pressure we put on ourselves to achieve our goals and “be someone specific” or “be somewhere specific within a certain timeframe” doesn’t allow us to enjoy the process of life that is happening in this very moment. There is no reason to jump the motorway and completely miss your life. Your life is happening right now amidst all the twists and hairpin turns. It’s that long and winding road with all its bumps and unforseen curves that helps mold us into the beings we are today. If we bypassed that road and took the motorway, we would miss out on all the beautiful scenery and experiences we might have had. We would just be another cookie-cutter person living a boring existence because we preferred to skip ahead and “save time” to get to our destination.

Your life is rich with your experiences and those long and winding roads make you who you are today. Every bend and straightaway colors you and gives you your unique character. Long and winding roads are meant to be savored, not rushed through. You want to enjoy the journey of your life because it is in essence a journey into learning about the self.

Any time you are ready to learn about yourself, take that detour and allow life’s experiences to open the RIGHT doors for you.  There are no quick answers in life, just because you know how to get ahead faster on the motorway doesn’t guarantee that you are going in the right direction. Take time to enjoy your life, take the long and winding road and experience the journey into yourself. You might find that there is no need to get all the way to the end. You might choose to stay somewhere along the way. If you slow down, you will have the opportunity to feel what is right for you and not have it artificially decided for you. Life is always about the journey NEVER the destination, so let your journey unfold.

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Life Doesn’t Get Better By Chance

… it gets better by change.

Life changes. Nothing stays the same. Nothing is ever MEANT to stay the same. As humans, we are meant to grow and evolve and that doesn’t happen by staying still. Movement initiates change. But sometimes the idea of change seems overwhelming, so we don’t allow it. We would rather accept the dysfunction that is familiar to us then to offer ourselves up for the unfamiliar. Hence we get in the way of ourselves and our growth.

Do you want your life to change? Learn to get out of the way of yourself. Stop trying to control the outcome. Life is meant to change naturally. If it is not changing for you, you might be holding onto something/someone/some thought that is keeping you back from moving forward.

Do you want freedom? Do you want change? Do you want to feel as if you are living the best life you can? Get out of the way of yourself. Allow life to change for you. Don’t hold onto things and people that you think are the answers. They may not be.

As soon as you learn to let go and let life be, you will take more chances, undertake more risks, and initiate newer courses of action that are unfamiliar to you. This movement is what brings about change. Change never comes about through complacency and waiting. No more waiting for your life to change, invite change in, step up to the plate and let go of old habits and thought patterns that are clearly not serving you. If things have not changed in awhile, it is time to do something new and it is that movement that will usher in change. Time to change, what are you waiting for?

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Life Has No Remote

… you have to change the channel yourself.

Nothing good ever comes easily in life. Nothing. If you want greatness, you have to work at it. In our society we have become lazy at navigating our lives.

We prefer to sit back and press FAST FORWARD through the uncomfortable bits to get to our goals.

We prefer to hit REWIND and sit stuck in past relationships and situations that have long outlived their purpose in our lives.

But what we do not do enough of is to hit PLAY and live in the moment and realize that as we are trying to fast forward our lives, we are missing the spaces in between that could change us. And when we are looking back at the REWIND, we are not allowing ourselves to grow and evolve forward in the moment.

Living life in PLAY mode makes people uncomfortable because they cannot control the outcome. Life’s outcomes are NEVER meant to be controlled. They are meant to be lived through and experienced deeply. You can only live your best life in PLAY mode.

Life has no remote. If you allow it to play out, you will be brought to the most optimal conclusion for your highest good. If you try and use the remote, you may just allow your free will to take you on a ride.

Time to throw out the remote. Be in the moment and allow your best life to play out. Your transformation will happen while life is playing out before your very eyes. Are you ready to play?

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