When You Never Saw It Coming

… it was coming for you.

Have you ever been blindsided by an event? Was something taken away from you completely out of the blue?

If it was surprisingly ripped away from you and you never saw it coming; YOU WERE MEANT TO LOSE IT. 

As humans, we struggle with making the right decisions for ourselves. What if we let go of something and are left with immense regret? We might forever beat ourselves up if we make the wrong decision, right?

Here’s how your life works — if a decision is made BY YOU, you can forever regret it; but if a decision is made FOR YOU, know that THE UNIVERSE HAS CHOSEN IT.   

Free will can mess up a lot of stuff. Fate knows better.

Never lament something that is ripped away from you. Trust that universal forces are at play on your behalf. Whatever was taken off your path was NEVER going to stand the test of time.

When you never saw it coming, it was certainly coming for you. Look past the pain. Feel comfort in the decision that the universe made on your behalf. If it wasn’t right for you; it wouldn’t have happened to you. It may not feel very good at the time, but the wisdom of that decision will see to it that you be placed onto a much better path.

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You Are Always in Control of Your Life

… it is never in control of you.

The story of your life is always in the pen you are holding. But how many of us realize that?

No one has control over your life unless you give it to them. You are co-creating every experience you have. If you are not enjoying the experience, it is up to you to make another choice.

Although there is a destiny in place, you have free will and can write/rewrite any chapter you like. But many of us suffer through situations because we have given our power over to other people or situations to feel powerless and trapped. Know that feeling that way is a choice. If you have had an experience and decide that it does not work for you/does not make you happy, then make another choice and change the situation. Life will NOT change it for you. If you sit back and allow yourself to wallow in the pain and confusion, the universe reads that as your choice to do so.

Learn to own your power and learn to understand that when a situation or thought form is no longer working for you, it is up to you to create a new ending for yourself. You are the author of your life and you hold the pen, why would you give it to someone else to write your story? They do not know what you need to be happy so take back that pen and continue to write.

The choices you make in this moment ALWAYS determine your next experience. You are in control of your life, no one else is. Honor that and live it to the fullest, then you will see that what you thought was such a problem in your life was just a thought form waiting to be rewritten. Life is just that simple.

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The Log That Saves You

… will eventually pull you down.

You cannot continue in a pattern of survival forever. But there is always the tendency to get stuck on that log. After all, it saved you at one point and out of habit, it is easy to grow dependent upon it. But dependency never yields success. Relying on your log for survival gets old fast and eventually you tire of holding it and the log yields to your weight and you both sink. So what once saved you will ultimately destroy you if you do not allow yourself to evolve beyond it. 

The game is not about surviving but thriving. You have to learn to move beyond the safety net of what once served you and push the boundaries into a new life for yourself. No one is going to do it for you. Holding onto that log does not keep you safe, it holds you back from becoming great. We all have our logs in lives – the people, the jobs, the situations that came in and saved us at a time when we needed it. That time is now over and the rest of your life is ready to begin. Learn to leave those logs behind and trust yourself that you can swim to a new side of that lake and create a new life for yourself. Any time you are ready to let go of your log, the rest of your life is waiting to begin. Are you ready to take a chance?

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Your life is meant to thrive.

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Releasing Your Grip

… allows things to BREATHE.

Trying to hyper-control situations strangle-holds them.

We hold so tightly to what it is we think is right for us. In fact, we continually push our agendas forward even in the face of adversity. But to what end? Where do we stop and realize that resistance is a form of protection. If you are finding it hard to continue on in a given direction, it might be because you are not meant to. Resistance is a universal sign to back-off.  There is something there that you might not be seeing.

We are conditioned to think that if we work hard enough and push hard enough that we can alter any situation to our advantage, but that is using force to drive your life. A better way of living your life is to STOP pushing when you hit a wall and step back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and allow what is meant to make its way to you, to get to you. Your future might need a bit of course-correction.

Your life is divine. There is an order to it. There is fate and destiny already in place. You can always use your free will to alter any and all of it, but note that you will absolutely encounter resistance if you are pushing towards the wrong conclusion. Take that as a sign to stop exhausting yourself. Take that step back so you can see more clearly. That step back will free up the energy to allow what is really meant for you to catch up with you. Time and space is the ultimate neutralizer.

You want to learn to breathe your way through your life. Controlling doesn’t secure your future, allowing does. When you are ready to release your grip on what you thought you wanted/needed, you will be able to make room for something even more beautiful. Clarity comes from releasing your grip, letting go of control and learning to trust in the process of your life to bring you to exactly where you need to be. Where else would you want to go?

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Life Has No Remote

… you have to change the channel yourself.

Nothing good ever comes easily in life. Nothing. If you want greatness, you have to work at it. In our society we have become lazy at navigating our lives.

We prefer to sit back and press FAST FORWARD through the uncomfortable bits to get to our goals.

We prefer to hit REWIND and sit stuck in past relationships and situations that have long outlived their purpose in our lives.

But what we do not do enough of is to hit PLAY and live in the moment and realize that as we are trying to fast forward our lives, we are missing the spaces in between that could change us. And when we are looking back at the REWIND, we are not allowing ourselves to grow and evolve forward in the moment.

Living life in PLAY mode makes people uncomfortable because they cannot control the outcome. Life’s outcomes are NEVER meant to be controlled. They are meant to be lived through and experienced deeply. You can only live your best life in PLAY mode.

Life has no remote. If you allow it to play out, you will be brought to the most optimal conclusion for your highest good. If you try and use the remote, you may just allow your free will to take you on a ride.

Time to throw out the remote. Be in the moment and allow your best life to play out. Your transformation will happen while life is playing out before your very eyes. Are you ready to play?

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Learn To Take One Step

… the universe will do the rest.

We don’t become huge successes over night. Nor do we find our passions, our soul-mates, or our life purposes over night. The journey to become ourselves can take a lifetime. But that lifetime begins with one step. 

We often judge ourselves for where we are and what we have accomplished. You do not need the perfect solution for your problems, the perfect game plan for success or the perfect strategy to find a mate, all you need to do is take one step, any step in any direction will invite the powers of destiny to join you. 

Once you open the door and open your energy to “the next step”, the universe will support you on your path. You are never alone. Taking one step releases energetic blockages that might otherwise be holding you back. Taking that one step (especially when you do not know where it will lead you) will bring opportunities and connections to you that you would have never dreamed of.

The journey of a lifetime always begins with one step. You do not need all the answer to take that one step. You just have to take it. No more fear. Your life begins the moment you can take that one step. What are you waiting for?

 

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Being Where You Don’t Want to Be

… brings you to where you do.

We can’t all be exactly where we want to be when we want to be there. Life is a process. Suffice to say that the way to get to where you want in life is to live exactly where you are in the moment. One step in front of the other brings you to your destination. It can be no other way.

But in life, we seek instant gratification. We prefer to skip steps in the process of our lives because we feel that the destination is more important. The destination is never more important than is the journey to self-awareness.

Being where you don’t want to be in life is a critical part of the process of getting to where you DO want to be. Learning the lesson in that moment is the key to unlocking the next phase of your life. If you spend your time crying and lamenting where you are, you haven’t learned those lessons. If you empower yourself to keep walking and learn from where you are, the doors to your future open almost instantaneously.

You can get to wherever you want in life from right where you are. In fact, it is spiritual law. There is no other way of getting there. It is all about doing the work. Recognize that you are where you are in your life for a reason and when you learn certain lessons, you will be free to move onto the next phase. There is NO punishment, there is NO being kept back and there is NO reward being witheld from you. Your ability to move forward in your life is directly contingent on your ability to be where you are and fully experience and internalize the lessons of that moment with ease, grace and gratitude. There is no rush, you will get it when you truly get it.

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Go With The Flow

… not against it.

It is true, we have free will in life. We can use it either to make our circumstances easier or more challenging for ourselves.

With free will, we try to control every aspect of our lives. But life is such that some things are just beyond our control – and that has to be ok. 

You should always try to use your free will to create the life you want. We all want to flow down a river we recognize and trust because we know where it is going. But in reality, if life has other plans for you and kicks you over to another river, one that is flowing in another direction, it is best NOT to fight it but allow yourself to flow with it. There is no sense in trying to fight the current and swim upstream. That will not only take you nowhere,  it will exhaust you and for what?

You may not always get what you want in life, but you will always get WHAT YOU NEED whether or not you know you need it at the time. Don’t judge a river by your perceptions of its beauty or its ability to take you where you want in life. If you’ve never been on a given river and do not know where it is flowing, how do you know it will not take you to a better place and how do you know that you will not enjoy even more beautiful scenery along the way?

Stop thinking you have all the answers. We seldom do. Trust in the divinity that is your life. Your destiny is planned for you, but you can always use your free will to make adjustments along the way, but regardless, trust that whatever river you find yourself on at any point in you life is one that you were meant to be on. If you weren’t meant to be on it, you wouldn’t be on it or at the very least, you would be flooded off of it.

So learn to accept the river you are on.  Go along for the ride. You are on that river for a reason. Use your judgment to navigate the river you are on instead of fighting to defeat it. You will never change the river’s flow. If you stop fighting it, you might just learn the beauty behind that river and in time allow it to teach you its mysteries. You will be better for having had the experience.

We never know why things happen the way they do, but one thing is for sure…. if you are an active participant in your life and you work hard to create the life you want, and you find yourself on a new river, there is always a reason. Time to let go of what you think is right and open up to a new reality which will most likely be better than what you could have ever imagined for yourself.

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Things Happen For a Reason

… whether or not you understand that reason.

We hear this expression over and over again in times of need. Although it is of little consolation to hear that the pain you may be experiencing is happening purposely. Why would this be happening to me, we ask? What did I do to deserve this? What reason could there possibly be for this to be happening?

Our human mind is somewhat limited in our ability to process an understanding of why things may work out in a way in which we do not accept/do not prefer, etc… This tends to complicate our experience. If you could remember that your life exists in a state of divine perfection (whether that makes sense to you or not sometimes), then you would recognize that you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

We always think we know exactly what we need at any given time and when life does not unfold as such, we get upset, discouraged and angered. We feel victimized and we fall prey to negative thought patterns which only succeed in drawing exactly those fears to us as our next experience. It is a vicious cycle and one which is extremely and de-constructively painful.

The wise amongst us know that we may not always get exactly what we want at any given time, but we always get what we need, whether or not we know we need it at the time. That is the way of the universe. It can be no other way. You are not being punished for anything, you are not being tortured. If you are not getting something/someone that you are looking for, trust that for the moment, it is being withheld from you because it is not quite at the vibration you require to have a harmonious connection with it.

You see, everything is energy and energy vibrates in frequency. When it is time for you to meet a particular person, situation or experience, your vibration will attract that particular energy’s vibration and it will be drawn to you. If is not being drawn to you, it is not of your “caliber” right now. It is not at your level. Therefore you will not attract it.

Now painful situations are also magnetically attracted to you – but again, not to punish you, but to offer learning and healing. Look at your life in a bigger way. Look back and remember that those negative experiences you have had are actually those that have brought you to a better place. It may be hard to see it while you are going through it, but it doesn’t make it any less true for you. It is the way of the universe. Trust that you will be given exactly what you need at any given moment. The more you are able to open up and accept the way things are, the easier time you will have with life’s many transitions. Things happen for a reason. Trust that and let what needs to be, BE.

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