Repeating Cycles

… doesn’t help create new ones.

We are creatures of habit by nature. We find comfort in the repetition of our lives. But repetition doesn’t invite growth. Change does. After all, repetition means “you have already been there or done that.”

When we repeat situations and lessons in our lives, it’s because we have NOT yet gotten it. The message should be loud and clear – you are not seeing something that is right in front of you. You are unable to discern what is really going on – usually because you are too close to the situation to see it objectively. When that happens and you see yourself repeating situations over and over and over again, it is time to take a step back from the situation to gain some clarity.

When we lose objectivity, we lose our ability to see ourselves clearly. When you can no longer see what is right in front of you, take a time out. Do something different – take a trip, go on a retreat, shake it up. Break the pattern of unconsciousness so that you can gain some semblance of consciousness. Once you can do that, everything changes. Shake yourself out of the complacency of repeating your unconscious cycles and give yourself a chance to move forward in your life. Happiness awaits when you gain the clarity to see that it will no longer will be found in the repetition of a cycle, but in the experience of a new one.

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When You Hit A Wall

… you have NO choice but to change direction.

Where else can you go?

Walls are put in place for a reason – to STOP you dead in your tracks and they serve their purpose.

Think of life as a maze – you are going along smoothly and all of a sudden you hit a wall. Fine. No drama. You are stopped and you pick a new direction. The wall was your indication that you can no longer move in that direction.

It is the same thing in life – when you hit a wall, it is your indication that you are being blocked from progressing further. It is time for you to now make another decision to proceed along a new direction and chart a new course. No drama needed, only change is required. 

Hitting a wall is not a problem. Deciding to IGNORE the wall and NOT turn towards a new direction is really the problem. If the wall is there, the universe is telling you to explore other options. Of course you can use your free will and climb over the wall, but there may just be a better way to move forward in your life. Why make things difficult? If you come up against a wall. Stop and yield to it. It might be trying to tell you something. Turn towards a new direction and you may just find that it brings you to a much better place.

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Being Seen For Who You Are

… is the only way to be seen.

It is very important for the people in your life to see you for who you are, not who they think you should be. They do not need to agree with everything you do and say, but they must appreciate the core of who you are.

In a relationship, if you are not seen for who you are, you will never be whole. If you are contented with being seen as someone else’s version of who you are, you will always feel empty and less than who you are.

If who you are doesn’t work for someone, you let them walk away. End of story. No pretending, no charade, no negotiation.

In order to be seen for who you are, you first need to see yourself. You need to know your beauty, your gifts, your value and your worth. Once you can see yourself, you can allow others to see you. If you are still hiding behind other’s perceptions of you, you have a long way to go.

When you are ready to be seen for the beautiful person you are, you show your true colors to the world. And when you can show your true colors to the world, you attract those people who will most admire those colors in you. Are you ready to be seen or are you still hiding behind other perceptions of you? Other’s perceptions come and go, you are the one left standing. Whose perception is it going to be?

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When Disturbed By Disturbing Thoughts

… STOP and think the opposite.

Simple enough, right? But we NEVER think to do it.

As Patanjali says in the Yoga Sutra, “Vitarka Badhane Pratipaksha Bhavanam” – when disturbed by disturbing thoughts, stop and think the opposite. 

Everything is energy and where you put your energy is what you will get MORE of so it stands to reason that dwelling in negativity will NEVER bring about the positive outcome you desire.

Buying into a thought makes it REAL for you. So, if you do not want that thought in your life, DO NOT give it any attention. Simple as that. Thoughts are what create our reality. 

If you focus on what is upsetting you, you will only continue to perpetuate the upset. If you can learn to cultivate the opposite, you can create a much better reality for yourself as your thoughts always set you up for your next experience.

Life is a game and you are in control of your next move. Life is too short to perpetuate situations that do not work for you. So when disturbed by disturbing thoughts, stop and think the opposite. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will naturally change. A lifetime of happy thoughts and experiences await you. What are you waiting for?

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When Life Poses More Questions Than Answers

… you’re in the RIGHT place.

But we never like uncertainty. We feel as if we need to know the answers to everything in advance. When you’re faced with many questions and uncertainties, it means that you are in a phase of personal growth where you are learning about yourself and the world around you is subsequently changing to fit your needs.  In other words, you are in a period of transformation. Transformation never comes about with great ease, it comes about through questioning and trial and error.

If you are not questioning the world around you, then you are not growing and evolving. Questioning your world pushes you to open up to new directions and new opportunities that you might not have otherwise discovered. Contentedness breeds mediocrity. Uncertainty breeds discovery.  

It’s time to ask more questions and discover more of the world around you. We all seek to find a world where we can feel comfortable and make a difference. If you do not question your role daily, how can you grow to expand yourself and find where you need to be? Life is a process and asking questions is the ignition key to success. Stop thinking you have all the answers. No one has all the answers. If we did, there would be no reason to be here. Start questioning your life, it can only bring you to a much better place.

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Releasing Your Grip

… allows things to BREATHE.

Trying to hyper-control situations strangle-holds them.

We hold so tightly to what it is we think is right for us. In fact, we continually push our agendas forward even in the face of adversity. But to what end? Where do we stop and realize that resistance is a form of protection. If you are finding it hard to continue on in a given direction, it might be because you are not meant to. Resistance is a universal sign to back-off.  There is something there that you might not be seeing.

We are conditioned to think that if we work hard enough and push hard enough that we can alter any situation to our advantage, but that is using force to drive your life. A better way of living your life is to STOP pushing when you hit a wall and step back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and allow what is meant to make its way to you, to get to you. Your future might need a bit of course-correction.

Your life is divine. There is an order to it. There is fate and destiny already in place. You can always use your free will to alter any and all of it, but note that you will absolutely encounter resistance if you are pushing towards the wrong conclusion. Take that as a sign to stop exhausting yourself. Take that step back so you can see more clearly. That step back will free up the energy to allow what is really meant for you to catch up with you. Time and space is the ultimate neutralizer.

You want to learn to breathe your way through your life. Controlling doesn’t secure your future, allowing does. When you are ready to release your grip on what you thought you wanted/needed, you will be able to make room for something even more beautiful. Clarity comes from releasing your grip, letting go of control and learning to trust in the process of your life to bring you to exactly where you need to be. Where else would you want to go?

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Drawing the Line

… makes sure it never gets crossed.

Relationships are about boundaries. When relating to others it is critical that you are extremely clear about your boundaries and what behavior you will accept and what behavior you will NOT accept.

Often times we get upset with others’ behavior. We feel slighted by their words or their actions. Unfortunately it is too easy to turn a blind eye and hope the other person is having an off-day. Either that or we react the opposite way and we unconsciously explode into a fit of victimizing anger. Neither action yields the desired result.

Communication upfront is the only way to ensure that your needs will be met. Don’t expect others to know what “good and fair” behavior is for you. Don’t give them the opportunity to decide that. It is your work to decide what you will and will not accept from others.

Once you are clear with your boundaries, you will be met with much BETTER outcomes. When people are clear with their boundaries, other people respect them more. They respect them for respecting themselves. In other words, you get much better behavior when you establish the expectation upfront.

There will always be people who push your boundaries and try to cross the line.  If you haven’t set up the line beforehand, it will always make it harder to distinguish later. Also if you haven’t designated the line at all, how can others know when they have crossed it? Be clear with your boundaries. Learn to speak up for yourself. Learn to defend your integrity and let no one cross that line.

You get what you accept. If you do not want to accept it, do not allow it. You cannot control other’s behavior, but you can control what you will and will not accept from them. Avoidance does not solve the issue nor does arguing. Communicating yourself upfront – kindly, constructively and compassionately will go so far to supporting the type of interactions you will receive in your life. Love yourself. Respect yourself and draw the line. If the line is there, others will most certainly think twice about crossing it.

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The Long and Winding Road

… is a much more enriching journey.

We never want to take it though. Why is that? If given the chance, we will more often than not choose the motorway and bypass all the beautiful exits along the way to our destination. For some reason we are obsessed with where we need to go in life and we forget that it’s not actually about the destination at all, but about the journey to get there. 

The pressure we put on ourselves to achieve our goals and “be someone specific” or “be somewhere specific within a certain timeframe” doesn’t allow us to enjoy the process of life that is happening in this very moment. There is no reason to jump the motorway and completely miss your life. Your life is happening right now amidst all the twists and hairpin turns. It’s that long and winding road with all its bumps and unforseen curves that helps mold us into the beings we are today. If we bypassed that road and took the motorway, we would miss out on all the beautiful scenery and experiences we might have had. We would just be another cookie-cutter person living a boring existence because we preferred to skip ahead and “save time” to get to our destination.

Your life is rich with your experiences and those long and winding roads make you who you are today. Every bend and straightaway colors you and gives you your unique character. Long and winding roads are meant to be savored, not rushed through. You want to enjoy the journey of your life because it is in essence a journey into learning about the self.

Any time you are ready to learn about yourself, take that detour and allow life’s experiences to open the RIGHT doors for you.  There are no quick answers in life, just because you know how to get ahead faster on the motorway doesn’t guarantee that you are going in the right direction. Take time to enjoy your life, take the long and winding road and experience the journey into yourself. You might find that there is no need to get all the way to the end. You might choose to stay somewhere along the way. If you slow down, you will have the opportunity to feel what is right for you and not have it artificially decided for you. Life is always about the journey NEVER the destination, so let your journey unfold.

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Life Doesn’t Get Better By Chance

… it gets better by change.

Life changes. Nothing stays the same. Nothing is ever MEANT to stay the same. As humans, we are meant to grow and evolve and that doesn’t happen by staying still. Movement initiates change. But sometimes the idea of change seems overwhelming, so we don’t allow it. We would rather accept the dysfunction that is familiar to us then to offer ourselves up for the unfamiliar. Hence we get in the way of ourselves and our growth.

Do you want your life to change? Learn to get out of the way of yourself. Stop trying to control the outcome. Life is meant to change naturally. If it is not changing for you, you might be holding onto something/someone/some thought that is keeping you back from moving forward.

Do you want freedom? Do you want change? Do you want to feel as if you are living the best life you can? Get out of the way of yourself. Allow life to change for you. Don’t hold onto things and people that you think are the answers. They may not be.

As soon as you learn to let go and let life be, you will take more chances, undertake more risks, and initiate newer courses of action that are unfamiliar to you. This movement is what brings about change. Change never comes about through complacency and waiting. No more waiting for your life to change, invite change in, step up to the plate and let go of old habits and thought patterns that are clearly not serving you. If things have not changed in awhile, it is time to do something new and it is that movement that will usher in change. Time to change, what are you waiting for?

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Life Has No Remote

… you have to change the channel yourself.

Nothing good ever comes easily in life. Nothing. If you want greatness, you have to work at it. In our society we have become lazy at navigating our lives.

We prefer to sit back and press FAST FORWARD through the uncomfortable bits to get to our goals.

We prefer to hit REWIND and sit stuck in past relationships and situations that have long outlived their purpose in our lives.

But what we do not do enough of is to hit PLAY and live in the moment and realize that as we are trying to fast forward our lives, we are missing the spaces in between that could change us. And when we are looking back at the REWIND, we are not allowing ourselves to grow and evolve forward in the moment.

Living life in PLAY mode makes people uncomfortable because they cannot control the outcome. Life’s outcomes are NEVER meant to be controlled. They are meant to be lived through and experienced deeply. You can only live your best life in PLAY mode.

Life has no remote. If you allow it to play out, you will be brought to the most optimal conclusion for your highest good. If you try and use the remote, you may just allow your free will to take you on a ride.

Time to throw out the remote. Be in the moment and allow your best life to play out. Your transformation will happen while life is playing out before your very eyes. Are you ready to play?

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