Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

… you’ll never win.

Your work is to live YOUR LIFE, no one else’s. It doesn’t matter who has what in their life, it only matters that you focus your energy on what it is you have and what you want to create.

Everything is energy and if you put your energy into obsessing over what you think everyone else has, then you will have less energy to put into your own success. Envying others dilutes your energy and renders you powerless to fulfill your dreams. In other words, comparing yourself to others is guaranteed to make sure you never get what they have.

Put your energy and thoughts back into yourself. Focus on what it is YOU want to create in your life and don’t give anymore of your energy and resources to wishing you were more like someone else or had more of something else. Keep your energy for yourself and channel it into living the life of your dreams, otherwise you will never have it.

Do you want to be happy? Stop comparing yourself to others and give yourself a chance to create the very life you seek.

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Envying others

… makes sure you NEVER get what they have.

People are only jealous and envious of others when they themselves are not living up to their OWN potential.

Instead of being inspired and driven to achieve what others have, there is a tendency to become resentful that we do not yet have it in our hands at that moment. The result is that we generate a high degree of low vibrational energy (resentment, jealousy and envy) which creates a wall and separates us from ever achieving it. That wall of negativity puts you on lock down so you are unable to attract anything positive into your life. It keeps you from your own happiness.

Envy and jealousy are a cop out. You can have whatever you want in life. Everything is available to you if you open up to source and allow it to come to you. Nobody gets anything that you cannot have. It’s up to you to set out to get it.

You are not being punished. Nothing is being witheld from you. If you desire it in your life, get up and do something about it. Make change in your life so you can bring about the opportunities or the materiality that you so desire.

Life is about choices – everyday. Where you put your energy determines your next experience. Are you going to give your energy over to other people whom you are jealous/envious of OR are you going to allow yourself to use them as inspiration to bring about everything that your heart desires?

The choice is always yours. Blowing out other people’s candles will never make yours burn brighter. Wish them well and allow them to insipre you to make the change necessary to make your own dreams come true. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines and jealously mock the winning team; get out there and make sure you score your own goals.

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The Truth Behind Sarcasm

… it is always there.

Don’t kid yourself, there is ALWAYS an element of truth behind every sarcastic remark. Every biting comment has a reason for being.

No doubt, people who are sarcastic are very entertaining. They have a way of saying things that others cannot say. But are they truly representing themselves or are they hiding behind their words?

In life, self-expressionism is key – the ability to speak your mind freely and willingly is what keeps you alive and thriving. But many people are too frightened to say what they need to say for fear of being judged, persecuted or fear of being vulnerable. Never censor yourself. If people do not like you for who you are and what you have to say, then they are not worth it. Never try to be something you are not.

Sarcastic individuals hide behind their humor and delivery. There is a sense of acceptance when they give a sarcastic remark that might not otherwise be tolerated. It is sort of a back-handed way of getting your point across. The problem with sarcasm is not just that it is a deep-seated example of passive aggressiveness and repression but it is also contains an extremely heavy and negative energy which breeds more of the same. Sarcasm carries many elements of jadedness, bitterness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc… It is not a freeing style of communication. This negativity is binding to the person who harbors it and also becomes toxic to those who engage it.

The truth behind sarcasm is that there is ALWAYS truth in every sarcastic comment. When we learn to allow ourselves to truly be who we are, we no longer need to hide behind a shroud of biting humor. That type of humor no longer becomes necessary to get our point across. When we let go of our fear of being judged and open up to being more vulnerable, our communication softens and our humor becomes less acidic/edgy and more engaging and inspiring. What’s your truth?

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Comparisons Don’t Feed the Soul

…. yet we do it anyway. In life it only matters who YOU are and what YOU are doing with your life. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. When we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, we dilute the dynamic energy of the self and divert it into negative states such as jealousy, envy and resentment. Those states of behavior are very deconstructive and counterproductive. They keep you small, stuck and spiraling in the wrong direction. Envying someone for what they have keeps you locked in a state of “wanting and lack,” which is fear based. When you focus on the Self and your dreams, aspirations and hopes (love based), you open yourself up to the many opportunities around you. Things flow easily to you when you focus on the Self whereas when you are focused on what others have, you are locked in a state of lack, and because of that, you keep the very things that you seek far from you.  Time spent looking outside of ourselves for our own worth is wasted. Comparisons do not feed the soul. They do not feed the energy of where it is you want to be in your life. They do the exact opposite – they throw you backwards and lock you into a “wanting” pattern that is hard to get out of. Already believe you have everything that you want and need. Visualize yourself as having the life you want and borrow a tiny bit from that vision every day to make it a reality. We do not get what we want in life by wishing someone else did not have it. We only get it by believing that we, ourselves have the ability to create it for ourselves. Use the people around you as inspiration for you to have the same. Do not begrudge them, bless them and say to yourself, “I admire their lifestyle. I will have that as well” and then watch the doors begin to open. Learn to reframe the situation – turn your resentment into inspiration; it is the key to having the life you want.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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