Making A Mistake Doesn’t Make You Broken

… it makes you BETTER.

When you make a mistake, you learn better who you are and what you need to do differently in order to become more whole.

The mistake isn’t a statement of imperfection, it calls attention to the areas within you that are in a state of growth and expansion.

Mistakes are constructive  — they are the stepping stones along our path of personal growth. They take us higher into an understanding of ourselves and what we need to live our best life.

Mistakes don’t make you broken, they make you better. They change you. They highlight areas of improvement for you. They evolve you. They teach you what you will NEVER do again. They make you wiser and put you on a much better life trajectory.

Don’t feel as if you are broken because you made a mistake. Recognize that the mistake is bringing you to a much better place within yourself.

Don’t get caught up in the mistake — Let go of it — take the learning from it, transform yourself and make your life better because of it. You’ll be glad you did.

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Accepting Where You Are in Life

… can bring you somewhere new.

Fighting against it, will keep you stuck in it.

Resistance gets you nowhere. What you resists, persists — what you look at disappears. If you’re trying to run from something, it’ll forever have a hold over you. If you can accept it, you can move beyond it. 

Fighting against something keeps it alive in your experience, but accepting it can free up mental/emotional space to help you set your sights elsewhere to create something new. Once you accept the reality, you are free to transform it. 

Don’t spend your time fighting against what you don’t want. Accept that you are where you are in your life (for whatever reason got you there) and now make some new decisions to move into a new direction that better suits you.

Don’t lament where you are in your life. Experience brought you there and acceptance will free you — resistance keeps you trapped. Fighting with your demons keeps you embroiled in a battle with them. Make friends with those demons so that they step aside and let you move on with your life.

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The Power of Your Mind

… gives you ultimate power over your life.

Had we been taught the true power of our minds, we’d understand the power we have over our lives. After all, we’re always in full control of our lives; our lives are NEVER in control of us.

The way it works is very simple…  our thoughts govern our experiences, so in essence, we get what we think about whether we want it or not. Negative, fear-based thoughts provide negative/unfulfilling outcomes whereas positive, empowering thoughts can only manifest positive/successful outcomes. But no one ever teaches us that. No one teaches us that if we learn to control our mind, we will be better able to control the outcomes in our lives. 

In reality, we end up spending needless energy suffocating under worry, anxiety and dread only to find out that by doing so, we’ve inadvertently harnessed the power of those negative emotions and succeeded in activating them in our lives. “What, I brought this on? How could I possibly do that? It wasn’t me. All of this is happening to me, certainly not by me.” 

Newsflash… nothing is happening to you. You are co-creating every step of your life with every thought you think. And the powerful thing to note here is that you are the thinker of your thoughts, YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NOT THINKING YOU. Subsequently, you are in control of your thoughts and your thoughts are ultimately what create your reality.

You are more powerful then you realize. Your thoughts create your reality so if your thoughts are not making you happy, CHANGE THEM UNTIL THEY DO and then watch your life deliver every happy experience to you. It can be no other way.

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You’re Never Trapped by Your Life

… you’re ONLY trapped by the choices you make.

All we have in our lives are our choices. They are our ticket to happiness, freedom and the life we want to live.

Believe it or not, you are NEVER bound by the circumstances of your life, you are ONLY bound by the choices you have made thus far.

In other words, if life isn’t working out the way you want it to, you always get to make another choice and put it on a better track. But most of us don’t realize that we can do that.

As humans, we tend to fear change. We tend to stay with what we know even if it makes us unhappy. Many of us get stuck in very dark places because that’s what we’ve come to know and we’re unsure as to how to change it, so we never do.

But here’s the deal, you are never meant to be unhappy. An unhappy life is an unfulfilled one.

You’re never trapped by your life, but you can be trapped by the choices you make. So if your choices are making you feel trapped, make a choice to free yourself. And realize that a choice to stay trapped (for whatever reason – obligation, responsibility, or uncertainty/fear) is still a choice.

Are you living the life you want to live? If you’re not, MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE. Remember you’re not trapped by your life, you are only trapped by the choices you make. You can never run out of choices, you can never run out of options, if you’re stuck in your life, you can always choose again. It’s your life, choose wisely.

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Life is Messy

…it’s meant to be.

That’s how you know it’s well lived.

You’re only here to have experiences and there are NO BAD EXPERIENCES, just DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES.

You can’t make a mistake, you can’t make a mess of your life. It isn’t possible. There are no messes and nobody gets a perfectly ordered life. That would be boring.

The more you explore, the more you know, the more you experience, the more you grow. It’s all about the experience, NOT the outcome.

The outcome NEVER MATTERS, what matters is that you took a chance and rolled the dice to see what would happen. It’s called “having an experience” and life is filled with them.

Never judge your experiences as good or bad. Just keep having them. Experiences season you. They expand you. They help you get to know who you are and what you like, and what you don’t like. Experiences are critical to your personal growth.

Without experiences, you never live, and you are only on this planet to live. Never worry about “making a mistake and making a mess out of your life.” Live it. Do it all. Make it as messy as you possibly can, it shows you’ve lived it. Leave your mark on the world and by doing so, you’ll learn about yourself, you’ll grow/evolve and you’ll NEVER have any regrets. That’s a life well lived.

Life is messy, but you always have a choice, you can spend your time cleaning it up or you can spend your time living every experience it brings you. What will you decide?

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If You Are Unhappy

… CHANGE your thought.

Yes, it is just that simple. Your thoughts determine your reality. What you think, you create, whether you want it or not.

The only way towards pure happiness is to focus your intent on finding happiness in your life. If your life is filled with thoughts of sadness and despair, you will never find it.

You get what you focus on, so if you are focused on negative thoughts, those are the thoughts that become activated within you and then those are the thoughts that in turn create your reality. Because our lives always follow our thoughts, it’s important to steer them in the right direction.

Life never happens to you, it happens by you. You’re co-creating every moment with every thought you expend. If thoughts are troubling you, STOP THEM and replace them with happier thoughts. Your attention to your happier thoughts ultimately create a happier environment which magnify happier circumstances directly into your life.

Do you want be happy? Stop feeding thoughts that make you unhappy. Just focus your attention on thoughts that make you happy and that which makes you happy will be brought right to you. Focusing on better feeling thoughts always creates better feeling experiences. When you are ready to focus on happy thoughts, the universe is ready to send you those happier experiences.

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When Your Story Holds You Back

… rewrite a new one.

We all have our own stories about our lives – past, present and future. But what we don’t realize is that we are in control of those stories. If we feel they are limiting us or holding us back, we can rewrite them and give them a new ending.

You are never controlled by your story, you are the author of it and it’s yours to rewrite over and over again. In other words, you’re never limited by the circumstances of your life, because you’re creating them at every juncture. So if you do not like how your story’s been playing out, reframe it, see it from a different perspective, one which empowers you, rather than disempowers you.

Just because something is true, doesn’t mean it has to become your truth. If it doesn’t fit your vision of who you are/who you want to be, then rewrite it. You may not be where you want to be in your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept being in a hole either.

Is your glass half empty or half full? It’s the same glass with the same water content, the only difference is the story you have given it. And the story you’ve given it always determines its outcome.

Learn to hold the highest story of yourself. Don’t allow yourself to be limited by your shortlist of shortcomings. Your glass is always half full, and if it’s not, rewrite the story until it is. How you see things is HOW THEY WILL SHOW UP FOR YOU. The stories we tell ourselves inevitably become our reality whether we want them to or not.

Nobody wants to hear the same story over and over again, especially if it’s a story of victimhood. You are only limited by the story you tell yourself. So, if your story is holding you back from greatness, rewrite it until it brings you the greatness you deserve.

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A Healthy Ego Has Everything To Offer

… and NOTHING to prove.

So if you have something to prove, you may want to check-in with your ego.

Healthy egos create healthy humans. But in our fast paced society of competition and status, sometimes our egos default to the power outside of us rather than highlighting the power within us.  Our egos can become misguided and singularly focused on some notion of external power. But real power has nothing to prove. It just is. If your ego is healthy, you have NO NEED to wield your power over others, you are happy to use that power in support of others’ development. But when your ego is unhealthy, it needs to use it’s power outside of itself to control and manipulate everyone around you in order to feel safe and/or important, valued and validated.

How healthy is your ego? Where is your power center? Inside or outside? When you learn that a healthy ego is inwardly directed, you realize that you have it all within yourself. If people do not see how fabulous you are, it isn’t your job to prove it to them. It is only your job to prove it to yourself. So always put that external energy back into yourself and in time, everyone will see that you are “the REAL DEAL,” not only because you have everything to offer, but because you truly have absolutely no need to prove it to anyone. A healthy ego validates itself; it never needs validation from outside.

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Feeling Stuck

… is an indication that you are NOT LEARNING.

Therefore you are prohibited from moving forward – kinda like being held back at school.

You would only feel stuck in the space you are in if you hadn’t yet learned what needed to be learned in that phase in order to progress to the next phase. Life builds on itself and lessons build on themselves. With every lesson learned in a life, you move up and you move onto the next phase of your life. But so many of us stay in cycles repeating the same behaviors and expecting a different result while wondering why we are stuck?

Feeling stuck in your life is very purposeful. It is meant to make you feel uncomfortably trapped in your situation so that you will shed the light of consciousness on it and bring about the change it requires to transform. You are not meant to fall into the “stuckness” but to look for answers on how to “get unstuck.” Just remember, if you do not initiate a change yourself, change will never happen.

So ask yourself, why are things not changing? What am I not seeing? What am I not getting? What behaviors and patterns might I be repeating that are keeping me in this frustrating cycle? What might this situation be trying to teach me?

If you are feeling stuck, learn to objectively look at your situation and get the lesson from it and get out so you can truly move on with your life. You are not a victim of your situation – no one is keeping you stuck but you. When you open your eyes and learn to show up differently, you will have a different result and one which will naturally free you from the chains that bind you.

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Holding Onto Something Longer Than You Should

… doesn’t make it right for you.

Or even make it better for that matter.

It just makes you tired of holding it.

Sometimes we think that if we hold on tighter to what is NOT working, it will all of a sudden become more of what we want. But it doesn’t work that way.

The longer you hold onto what is NOT working, the harder it gets to disassociate from it. And the longer you hold onto what is NOT working, the harder it gets to open up to something healthier and more fulfilling.

Obstacles are clear indicators that it might be time to let go of what you are holding onto. If it is getting harder and harder to hold onto what you are clutching in your fists, it might be time to relinquish your control over it. Holding onto it longer doesn’t make it better for you or even make it right, it just exhausts you and takes energy away from your ability find something much better.

It’s exhausting to hold on to something longer than you should. When you feel depleted and realize that what you are holding onto is not changing, offer it up to the universe to transform it appropriately. After all, if it is not working for you, there is always a reason why and perhaps a reason why you are unwilling to see it.

So, if you are holding on longer than you should, be brave and let it go. Give your knuckles a rest and open up your palms to receive something healthier and happier. It’s ALWAYS there for you whenever you are ready to release your grip. The rest of your life is waiting for you to let go of what isn’t working. Haven’t you carried it long enough?

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