Feeling Pain Isn’t a Problem

… running from it is.

Believe it or not, pain isn’t a bad thing. It’s actually an indication that you are learning and growing. All growth requires some level of discomfort; it is called “growing pains.” This pain is inevitable and it signifies the emotional hard work and challenges that we all face day-to-day and for which we valiantly (hopefully) overcome.

But for some reason we try and avoid feeling this pain… we try and avoid it at all costs. But what we really do not understand is that avoiding the pain doesn’t make your life any better, it only intensifies the experience of the pain later on. Why? Because you can only stave off the lesson causing the pain for so long before it comes back with a vengeance. It’s just a matter of time before that lesson will come calling again and when it does, trust me, it means business.

Do yourself a favor. Don’t run from your life by hiding from your pain. Your escapism strategies (drugs, alcohol, food, tv, internet, sleeping, shopping, sex, etc..) only guarantee that you will get hit HARDER later on. Work through the pain when it presents itself the first time – get the lesson and get out so you can move forward with the rest of your life.

The pain isn’t there to torture you unduly so, it is there to enrich you and make you better. Pain is your friend. Go towards it and see what it has for you. When you allow yourself to fully go into the experience of the pain, you very quickly transform it and life gets better very easily. When you avoid that pain, you prolong and perpetuate the feelings of the pain for a very long time. Don’t wallow in your pain, do something about it. Stare it in the face and stare it down. Your life is too short to get shut out by your own pain. Feeling pain is never the problem, running from it always is.

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When It Rains, It Pours

… it always does.

Our life lessons are grouped. It is rare that you will be dealt just ONE lesson, they usually travel in packs. It is best to be prepared for them.

It is also important to realize that you are not being punished and that you are not a victim of them. You are in fact, in total control of how you get those lessons (or if you get them at all.)

Say you are in an important lesson-learning phase of your life to learn one major lesson (e.g. self-esteem) and you have 10 tests coming up to deliver that lesson to you. Your testing period could last as little as 3 months or as long as 10 years. You are in control of how quickly you get that lesson. Every time you get hit with the lesson, if you can pick yourself up and identify the lesson, then you will have “won” that round. Then the universe serves up the next test to you to see if you get that one. All the tests support the same lesson so it gets easier to see. The quicker you get the lesson, the quicker you get dealt the next test and ultimately the quicker you work through all tests. When you finish the tests, you have truly gotten the lesson and the lesson STOPS. You are free.

Now if you choose to NOT get the lesson and just feel sorry for yourself and play the victim, then the universe will hold off dishing you up the next test because it waits for you to be “relatively” ready for it. In your attempt to be happy, you keep yourself in a space of non-learning which feels like an unhappy, stagnant and frustrating space where nothing new happens. Maybe you have been there before?

When it rains, it pours. Let it pour down on you. Grow through those tests and get that lesson. Tell the universe to give you its best shot. If you are smart, you will NOT stay inside to avoid the rain, you will get a great umbrella and learn to dance your way through the rain. Life continues and the storms will get easier with each lesson learned. Are you ready to get wet?

 

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