When Bad Things Happen

… your work is to make your life BETTER because of it.

End of story.

In life you always have a choice. A choice to either fall into the victimhood of the “bad” situation or you can muster up the energy to pick yourself up and transform the “bad” into something even better.

The choice to either let the situation destroy you or strengthen you is always yours. How you look at a situation determines its power over you. And how you respond to a situation determines the quality of your next life experience.

All bad experiences only happen to bring you to a better and higher place. The difficult situations are the real gifts – that’s where the real learning/growing takes place. The happier situations are just the rewards, there is no real growth during those periods.

When you can learn to pick yourself up after every fall, dust yourself off and keep going – the best way you know how – the universe always responds in kind and the rewards are tenfold. When you work towards your highest outcome, the universe will work with you to help you achieve that outcome. But when you slump into the lower outcome, it will let you sit there alone in your misery.

Do you want to rise up and live your best life? Keep searching for the higher place. Reframe all situations so that your life can be on the up-and-up. You will be given every assistance along the way as long as you are walking the higher side of your path.

When bad things happen, it is your job to make things better for yourself – any way possible. When you can get into the habit of becoming better for having had those experiences, the universe will bring you everything you desire. The choice is always yours.

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If You Can’t Let Go

… you are still attracted to the lesson.

What is it that keeps us stuck in certain situations and with certain people? Why can’t we let go when we know we SHOULD let go?

The answer is pretty clear. If you’re still attracted to a person or a situation, there is a lesson there that you have not yet internalized. For when you get the learning from any situation in life, you are always ready to move on from it – in fact, you are excited to move on from it.

So if you find yourself obsessively trying to break free from a person or a situation but unable to do so, it is really time to look in the mirror and ask yourself what is the lesson here – what is the real learning? Why am I not able to move forward with my life? What is keeping me in the same repetitive pattern of unhappiness?

In order to help you find the lesson, look back to previous relationships and situations, see if you can detect the pattern. Once you do the work on finding the lesson, the lesson stops and you are free to move forward in a more constructive and fulfilling way.

Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to move forward. You are not weak and it’s not that you need a given person or situation in your life to be happy. It is only that you have not yet learned what needs to be learned from these people/situations and that is why you are finding yourself stuck and unable to break free. Do the work, get the lesson and get out. Your life is waiting to move forward – the rest is up to you.

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Your Life is a Process

… to bring you to where you need to be.

There isn’t anywhere else to go.

There is NO perfect place. There is NOWHERE you need to be. You have only to enjoy the process of your life, step by step.

There is a divine process to your life. It has already been mapped out for you. Your only task is to walk it. Of course you have free will and can change any or all of it at any moment, but the blueprint is always in place to help navigate you.

So how does that translate to your daily life? Believe it or not, destiny has a funny way of finding you. There is a logic to your path, even though it may be hard to see. Instead of fighting/forcing things to happen, learn to sit back and trust in the process of your life to unfold your truth.

So in other words…

Whatever is happening to you, is MEANT TO BE happening in that moment.

Whatever is not working in your life, is NOT MEANT TO WORK in that moment.

You are NOT lost. You are NOT broken. If you are not where you want to be, it is because it is NOT YET TIME. Your life has a perfectly choreographed timeline which the universe always upholds.

Even though you may not understand why you are where you are, learn to trust the process of your life to bring you to the exact next step you require. So Instead of questioning where you are, learn to understand WHY you are there. By spotting the patterns and learning to trust your path, your life opens in miraculous ways.

You may not have all the answers but the universe always does. Everything always happens in its own time frame. Learn to trust in the process of your life to bring you where you need to be WHEN you need to be there. There isn’t anywhere else to go.

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When a Relationship Ends

… you are supposed to MOVE ON.

It doesn’t matter how or why it ends, it only matters that you acknowledge the ending and take the learning with you.

Relationships are opportunities for us to grow and learn. When you learn what you have needed to learn from each other, then the relationship ends. It is time to start a new chapter to practice your learning in a new situation.

Now, that does NOT mean that the relationship will never come back to you in a newer, healed form later on. But it does tell you that for now, your work with each other is complete.

Problems arise when we do not let go of the relationship, but hold on out of fear of need or fear of being alone. When you hold on too long, it only creates frustration, pain and stagnation and ultimately will keep all happiness and growth from you.

When a relationship ends, the most important thing you can do is to be strong and learn to graciously accept the new changes. Trust in the universe to bring you to where you need to be. If your relationship was not meant to end, it wouldn’t be ending. If it is ending, it is because it is time for it to do so.

Don’t drive your relationship into the ground by holding on too long. Everything happens for a reason and despite the fact that you may feel it is not yet time for your relationship to be ending, the universe may just have other plans for you. Learn to trust and learn to find the “good” in “goodbye,” for it is ALWAYS there.

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Learn To Let It Pass Through You

… NOT take you down.

What you attach to becomes yours but what you detach from NEVER impacts you.

You have a choice everyday as to what you will allow to affect you. If something in your life is upsetting you, don’t fight it, let it pass through you. When you fight/resist something, you give it life and validity. But when you detach from it, you diffuse its energy and it no longer has such control over you.

Life gets hard when you carry burdens that you don’t need to carry. If you don’t want it in your life, don’t give it any attention. Learn to let it pass through you, don’t attach to it and you will disarm the situation completely and what was meant to be a full out drama, will just barely irritate you.

By yielding to the storm, a blade of grass will allow the storm to pass right through it, whereas the old, stubborn tree will be snapped in half if it does not yield to those winds. As in all negative situations, learn to let it pass through you and you will be the one left standing when the sun comes out again.

Life is too short to attach to every drama that comes your way. Don’t bother resisting the negativity, you will only succeed in feeding it. You want a better life? Learn to let things pass through you. Only accept the situations that you want to engage in and let the rest fall to the wayside.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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