To Have The RIGHT Thing

… you have to say NO to the wrong thing.

You can’t have both.

And why would you want both?

In life, you have to let go of what isn’t working, in order to find what will.

If your hands are full with what isn’t working, you are miring yourself in a very heavy, negative vibration. That energy creates more negativity and stagnancy and keeps you stuck in a dark, unsatisfactory pattern.

When you finally let go of what isn’t working, you create space to attract a lighter, happier, more exciting vibration for what you actually do want.

Everything is energy. You can’t get to where you want by holding onto what you don’t. It doesn’t work that way.

Loosen your grip on what isn’t serving you, so your hand is free to reach higher for what it really wants.

Do not spend one more minute keeping yourself stuck. When you finally free yourself from the chains that bind you, you will wonder why you allowed them to suppress you for so long.

Life is too short to accept less than you deserve. Just Say No.

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If You Are In It, Be In It

… otherwise get OUT of it.

There’s NO in between. This is especially true of our romantic relationships. If you are in one, BE IN IT and make it work, otherwise get out of it and move on.

Complaining about your relationship will not make it better.

Staying and cheating does not make it better.

Wishing you were with someone else will not make it better.

Trying to change that person will not make it better.

The only thing that will make it better is a genuine commitment to healing by BOTH parties. There are 2 people in the relationship and BOTH have to commit to working on it.

If both parties are NOT willing, there isn’t any hope. Time to leave.

Don’t kid yourself. Don’t hold on and hope things will change. Change ONLY happens when both parties work together. Where is your relationship? Can the other person be as committed as you are to healing? If not, you may have to look elsewhere.

Having history together does not make a relationship work. Having a genuine interest in securing a happy tomorrow will. It is always your choice. But if you choose to be in it, BE IN IT and get that person to work with you. Don’t accept no for an answer. If you find the answer is still no, time to make a gracious exit. Don’t let the memories keep you stuck. Your life is ahead of you and if that person cannot/will not work WITH YOU, don’t even look back. Run towards a happier tomorrow.

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It’s Never About The What

… It’s always about the WHY.

In life we get caught up in the daily drama of WHAT is happening to us – “Who did what to us? Who said what to us, etc…”. We get sucked into the drama and it’s subsequent villains and tragedies. We make “what is happening to us” our story, when in reality it’s NOT our story at all.

To truly understand your story, you must learn to look past “WHAT is happening to you” and look at “WHY it is happening to you.” Inherent in every “what” is always a “why”. In other words, what life lesson is showing up in your life right now and what does it have to teach you? Don’t shoot the messenger, the “what” is just the delivery system for the “why.” Every time we fail to get the “why” another “what” shows up to give us yet another chance to figure it out.

So don’t get hung up on all the “whats”, looked past them to find the pattern of “why”. Once you get the lesson, it stops and life becomes happier and easier. Are you ready to see your life more clearly? When you learn to ask “why”, the “whats” no longer have any control over you. It is only then that you find more meaning in your life then ever before. What are you waiting for?

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Speed Bumps Slow You Down

… so you can proceed with caution.

Not everything in our lives is meant to happen instantaneously. Some situations take time to cultivate. But in our society we are so trained in instant gratification that when things don’t go according to our plan, we get frustrated and anxious and impatient and try to force situations to come about unnaturally.

It is important to note that on our planet everything works on its own timeline and NOTHING can be rushed. The universe maintains perfect time management in terms of bringing you the situations you need, exactly when you need them. There is no room for negotiation here. As we know, things happen for a reason and they happen when they are supposed to.

So, why is it that we encounter speed bumps in our lives? Why doesn’t everything happen when we want it to? The answer is easy. When you hit a speed bump, it is an enforced period of reflection & analyses where you are being asked to proceed forward with caution. In essence, you are being held back from what you think you want/need and are being asked to evaluate the situation and your role within it. Are you sure you are ready to go there? Do you have all the tools you need in place to manage that next step? Is this opportunity truly going to meet your needs? Have you considered other possibilities? These are all reasons why we hit speed bumps – it is a built-in process to protect us from jumping into situations that might NOT be right for us.

The road ahead is always uncertain, but you can be certain that when you hit a speed bump, you are being asked to slow down and process the direction you are heading. If the path ahead was clear for you, you wouldn’t hit a speed bump. Heed the warning and use the time to evaluate what’s ahead of you. You might decide you don’t even want to be on that road. Speed bumps are the disruptions that bring ultimate clarity.

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Lose What Doesn’t Work

… to make room for what will.

We have a tendency to hold onto things and situations in our lives that do NOT work. It is almost as if we think that by holding tighter to what isn’t working that it will all of a sudden somehow become what we need? But this never happens.

In life we need space to create what we want/need and when that space is filled up with what isn’t working, it takes up valuable real estate and tells the universe that we do NOT want better.

You have to free yourself of what is not working so you can fill the space with what will work. Trying to force something to work NEVER makes it work. Taking a step back and giving the situation the space to breathe will allow the energies to re-align and bring about the highest outcome for all involved.

Sometimes in life you have to lose to win. Riding a broken bike will never win you the bikathon, but retiring the bike to the bike shoppe for a period of time will guarantee that you are ready to get back behind the starting line of the next one.

Life is too short to hold onto what doesn’t work for you. Let it go and love yourself enough to ask for better. Losing is the great arbiter of justice. By losing it all, you have half a chance of finding what will work better for you. Losing is definitely the winning strategy. Be happy to lose!

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Weathering The Storm

Resisting the storm will only get you uprooted and tossed BUT yielding to the storm will allow you to withstand the winds of change and remain standing amidst the chaos.

Storms are rough patches in our lives that may be anticipated or just haphazardly appear out of nowhere. Once they make their way across our path, we are in for some rocky terrain. The question always remains – how best to whether the storm?

Storms are much bigger than we humans. There is no way that a human can fight or resist a hurricane with their own will. It is best to brace yourself for whatever is coming your way and try to protect yourself from the aftermath. Life is the same. We weather many storms, some much greater than others but one thing always remains true… if you can allow yourself to be flexible and not “fight” the storm, you have half a chance of surviving the storm.  In our society, we are conditioned to fight, fight and fight. It is our resistance and will that we continually uphold. To resist the changes that the storm brings is to say you know better and that you do not have to learn anything from the storm. If that were the case, the storm would never happen along your path.

The storm is there to shake you up and shake you out of your complacency and open your eyes to a new world and a new way of thinking. Let it do its job. By fighting change, you lose the opportunity to grow and become stronger and better. Storms help you to become the being you were meant to become.

Learn to weather the next storm that comes your way. Yield to the lesson, don’t fight it. If you resist the storm like a rigid tree, you will be snapped in half and tossed off your foundation but if you learn to allow its winds of change to wash over you as if you were a blade of grass, then you will be the one left standing once the storm passes.

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A Judgment Call

Right or Wrong… first or last… new or old… One thing is for sure – they are all judgments.

Judgments are subjective opinions that have no bearing over our lives unless we give them bearing. Once we buy into our judgments about ourselves and others, our judgments become very real to us. Sometimes we mistakenly form judgments against ourselves like “we are not good enough” or “we are not smart enough.” Over time, we come to believe in these judgments. What you buy into is yours. Why buy into something that is counterproductive to the soul? If there is nothing positive in your judgment towards yourself, I suggest you rethink it.

The same goes for other’s judgments towards you. It does NOT matter what anyone else thinks about you. It only matters what YOU think about you. When you learn to detach from other’s judgments of you, your life gets profoundly happier and easier to navigate.

Judgments are extremely limiting to our experience in human form. What we think – we create, so when we start to judge others unfairly, we miss an opportunity to open up to the richness that every being brings to the table for us. You cannot judge every book by its cover. When you make snap judgments about others, you close the door to learning about yourself. Everyone has something special to offer us otherwise they would not be on our path. Slamming the door on them says that you think you know better. And trust me, ignorance never knows better.

Life is a beautiful process of being open and vulnerable to all the world has to offer. Don’t dismiss someone unfairly, you might just miss an opportunity to evolve yourself. And all those unfair/unkind judgments you cast on others will unfortunately and undoubtedly karmically boomerang back towards you in time. Keep your mind and karma clear, resist negative judgments about yourself and others. In the end, you will be the one who comes out ahead.

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