Putting Your Destiny in Others’ Hands

… NEVER works.

Waiting around for others to make a decision that affects you, takes away your power. 

Never give anyone power over your life to decide your future. If you’re waiting on someone else to make a decision over your Plan A, make sure you have an EVEN BETTER Plan B and C in place.

You’re in control of your destiny, no one else is. Waiting on others to decide your future is a slippery slope. Putting anyone in the power position over your life puts you in the back seat. Get back into the driver seat of your own life and steer it home.

It’s ok to temporarily wait on someone else’s decision, it’s NOT OK to put your life ON HOLD while someone else decides your fate. Take back control over your life, have viable alternate options laid out for you and ready to rock once the decision is made and don’t look back.

Don’t spend time lamenting someone else’s decision over you, if the decision wasn’t in your favor, that option wasn’t in your best interest or aligned with your highest good — let it go. Move on to your personal Plan B and make it A-worthy.

Putting your destiny in other’s hands NEVER works. Why give someone else power/authority over you to decide your fate? Your life is yours. Never be without a plan you can love and never accept a plan you can’t live with. It’s your life. Don’t let anyone else live it.

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Being Where You Don’t Want to Be

… brings you to where you do.

We can’t all be exactly where we want to be when we want to be there. Life is a process. Suffice to say that the way to get to where you want in life is to live exactly where you are in the moment. One step in front of the other brings you to your destination. It can be no other way.

But in life, we seek instant gratification. We prefer to skip steps in the process of our lives because we feel that the destination is more important. The destination is never more important than is the journey to self-awareness.

Being where you don’t want to be in life is a critical part of the process of getting to where you DO want to be. Learning the lesson in that moment is the key to unlocking the next phase of your life. If you spend your time crying and lamenting where you are, you haven’t learned those lessons. If you empower yourself to keep walking and learn from where you are, the doors to your future open almost instantaneously.

You can get to wherever you want in life from right where you are. In fact, it is spiritual law. There is no other way of getting there. It is all about doing the work. Recognize that you are where you are in your life for a reason and when you learn certain lessons, you will be free to move onto the next phase. There is NO punishment, there is NO being kept back and there is NO reward being witheld from you. Your ability to move forward in your life is directly contingent on your ability to be where you are and fully experience and internalize the lessons of that moment with ease, grace and gratitude. There is no rush, you will get it when you truly get it.

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Trust The Process of Your Life

… it will never lead you astray.

Your life is perfectly orchestrated to bring you exactly what you need to experience when you need to experience it. Nothing ever shows up haphazardly. And nothing ever shows up that you are not ready and able to handle.

Life is a process of growing and evolving and learning through experiences. Trust in the process of your life, trust in the wisdom that every situation you encounter is one that has been specifically planned for your highest good. If it wasn’t meant for you, it wouldn’t be happening to you. Your life has an intelligence all its own and an intelligence that should never be questioned.

When you are going through a tough time, it always helps to remind yourself that this is happening to bring you to a much better place. It wouldn’t be happening otherwise. The universe isn’t out to torture you; it is out to teach you.

Believe it or not this is the life you signed up for, so make it work for you. Follow your path and realize that the difficult situations are the ones that make you better and provide you with a much richer and happier existence.

Life is tough. No doubt. But when you can learn to trust in the process of your life and accept where it has brought you to, the rewards are always richly granted. Remember the universe always has your back. So, learn to trust the process of your life to bring you to where you need to be. There isn’t anywhere else to go. Enjoy the process.

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Waiting For Your Life to Come Together

… assures that it NEVER will.

Nothing ever comes from inactivity. The universe does not understand inactivity. A body in motion must always stay in motion if it is to go anywhere. A body at rest, by definition never moves forward.

If you are waiting for your life to just come together on its own, without your direction, or inspiration or even intuitive guidance, you will be waiting a very long time. You must be an active participant in your life in order to manifest what you are seeking. This means you need to show initiative to create any newness in your life. You need to get up out of the place that is not working for you in order to start the wheels of change.

There is always a destiny in place for you but it requires that you WALK your path of destiny. Destiny will not just deliver life to you. It assumes that you are living your life and moving through your experiences for better or worse. This activity will bring you to the next phase of your life on schedule. But to fight the flow of life, by giving up and staying still and stagnant is to throw away the gift that you were given.

Waiting for your life to come together is a means of passive self-sabotage and it usually happens when someone has been relatively traumatized by a situation and they decide it’s better to take no action then to risk possible wrong action.  The only wrong action in life is inaction because it keeps you locked to where you are.

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain. Life is to be lived. And to live is to be an active participant in your life. Time to pick it up. Life is simply too short to let it pass you by. Time to get active! The dance awaits.

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Go With The Flow

… not against it.

It is true, we have free will in life. We can use it either to make our circumstances easier or more challenging for ourselves.

With free will, we try to control every aspect of our lives. But life is such that some things are just beyond our control – and that has to be ok. 

You should always try to use your free will to create the life you want. We all want to flow down a river we recognize and trust because we know where it is going. But in reality, if life has other plans for you and kicks you over to another river, one that is flowing in another direction, it is best NOT to fight it but allow yourself to flow with it. There is no sense in trying to fight the current and swim upstream. That will not only take you nowhere,  it will exhaust you and for what?

You may not always get what you want in life, but you will always get WHAT YOU NEED whether or not you know you need it at the time. Don’t judge a river by your perceptions of its beauty or its ability to take you where you want in life. If you’ve never been on a given river and do not know where it is flowing, how do you know it will not take you to a better place and how do you know that you will not enjoy even more beautiful scenery along the way?

Stop thinking you have all the answers. We seldom do. Trust in the divinity that is your life. Your destiny is planned for you, but you can always use your free will to make adjustments along the way, but regardless, trust that whatever river you find yourself on at any point in you life is one that you were meant to be on. If you weren’t meant to be on it, you wouldn’t be on it or at the very least, you would be flooded off of it.

So learn to accept the river you are on.  Go along for the ride. You are on that river for a reason. Use your judgment to navigate the river you are on instead of fighting to defeat it. You will never change the river’s flow. If you stop fighting it, you might just learn the beauty behind that river and in time allow it to teach you its mysteries. You will be better for having had the experience.

We never know why things happen the way they do, but one thing is for sure…. if you are an active participant in your life and you work hard to create the life you want, and you find yourself on a new river, there is always a reason. Time to let go of what you think is right and open up to a new reality which will most likely be better than what you could have ever imagined for yourself.

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